Several colleagues in the unit died of illness. What should I do if I am very scared?

A female colleague, born 1968. Her height 1 m 65 and weight 140 kg. She has a straight back and walks with the wind. All my colleagues say that she is really strong! It is her strength to organize tug-of-war and be a lesbian. To participate in the municipal tug-of-war, our unit chooses one person, and it is also her.

She is cheerful, careless, likes to visit and is familiar with various departments. Talk about business, and finally say something else. I am not picky about food, and I love life. I bake bread and make yogurt at home, and sometimes I take it to my workplace for everyone to eat. After work, I invited several colleagues to go shopping and take a walk. So a sunny person.

20 15, she signed up to learn a driver's license, and others laughed at her: "At such a big age, she still learns." She also said: "At that time, I retired and drove around by myself." That year, she started studying at the beginning of the year and got a certificate at the end of the year. She has been showing off her excitement for a long time. A retired elder sister came to work to play and saw her say, "Why do you look so unfamiliar?" I thought it started with learning to drive, but I didn't pick it up.

At the end of 20 16, she was sitting in the conference room coughing and couldn't stop. Ask her what happened. She said she didn't know. She had a mild cough for a week, but taking cold medicine, cough medicine and anti-inflammatory medicine didn't help. A person who is usually as strong as an ox. She was suggested to have a check-up and a comprehensive physical examination. A few days later, her news came-advanced breast cancer. I left directly and went to the hospital in the provincial capital for surgery.

Everyone thought it was incredible. On March 8, we will organize a physical examination, and the chest film and breast film are all comprehensive. If anything happens, you should see it.

She chose surgery and chemotherapy. Later I heard that the latest technology was used. Targeted therapy? I don't remember exactly. The middle group visited her, and she was in good spirits. Apart from wearing a wig, her face is slightly weak, and others can't see that she is a patient.

One day in the summer of 20 18, I just came to work and heard: "C passed." The sisters in her department shed tears in an instant. ...

Then a person, the head of WeChat is still there, the uniform just issued has not been taken home, the desk is still the same, but she is never seen again. We all attended her funeral. When we saw her son who just graduated from college, our eyes were blurred with tears. ...

Now my colleagues sometimes say that I dreamed of her yesterday. Or, it turns out that C also likes this. Or I coughed for several days, wondering if she was laughing like C, and she was still. ...

The year she went, the closest people doubted it as long as they had a cold and a fever. Many colleagues don't believe the physical examination results. Some people's oral language is: "Eat what you should eat, drink what you should drink, close your eyes, and whoever owns it."

During the epidemic last year, two female teachers left our unit successively. One is L, aged 53, and the other is Z, 5 1 year. They are all in their prime. Sigh and regret at the same time, the heart really gives birth to a sense of fear.

When people reach middle age, although they are used to life and death, the departure of familiar and young people around them will always cause a lot of touches. Because both teachers left during the epidemic holiday, the news of their death was like thunder in the WeChat group, which was shocking for a time. After the silence, there was a mourning crowd and a full screen of "crying" (expression). Everyone doesn't want to believe that the colleague who lived together day and night passed away quietly.

For a long time after the start of school, as long as the three of us met together, it was all this topic. Teacher L found out the early lymphoma nine years ago and had an operation at once. After leaving the hospital, she has been cheerful and optimistic, and soon went to work. People can't see anything morbid in her. She always faces everything with a smile. She loves to grow flowers, and her office is like spring all the year round, which attracts her colleagues to visit and study. She not only proudly shows off her unique skills in planting flowers, but also generously distributes the cultivated flower seedlings to everyone. She likes to chat and talk humorously, so everyone likes her; She used to get excellent grades as a substitute. After her illness, the school took care of her without her substitute, and her work in the department was also very active and was praised by the leaders many times. The familiar emotional contagion has become an inspirational example for the company, and it also makes people feel that cancer is not terrible, so nine years later, people gradually forget that she is a cancer patient. Unexpectedly, malignant diseases spread so quickly and the counterattack was so fierce and rampant. It is only more than 20 days from winter vacation to L's death. During the winter vacation, L's smiling face became the last impression she left to her colleagues and will remain in everyone's memory forever.

What is even more tragic is Z. Because they had a close relationship with Generation L before, Z personally attended L's funeral and sent her the last journey. I didn't expect Z to feel unwell soon. He went to the provincial hospital and was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer. Less than three months later, he followed L in a hurry, just over a year before her husband came home from prison. Why did L fight cancer for nine years and Z left in a hurry in less than three months? This has a lot to do with her personality. Z belongs to a person with strong self-esteem, strong self-esteem and love of face. Her husband was arrested for financial problems, which was a fatal blow to her. It can be said that since then, the disease has been buried. This kind of thing can't be hidden, but people can't see any sadness, pain, depression and despair from her. Her works are more outstanding than before, her dress is more fashionable than before, her expression is more sunny than before, she always appears in people's sight so delicately, and she resists sympathy and pity in her heart and refuses gossip and criticism more firmly. All the sadness and entanglements are hidden in my heart. I don't talk about it, and I don't expose it to outsiders or even relatives. A person carrying a person is a typical trap with tears in his heart and a smile on his face. Helpless will can be like steel, but the body has to surrender, and can only leave with many vicissitudes and scars, leaving endless pain and thoughts for relatives.

When people reach middle age, they have experienced many lives and deaths, perhaps of similar age. The successive deaths of two female colleagues touched me greatly, and I began to seriously think about how to spend the rest of my life. First, be optimistic. No matter what you meet, you should strive to love life and be kind to others. Since there have been joys and sorrows, you should choose a happy life. Since you want to cry or laugh, you should choose a happy life. Anyway, God will not help you see the sky because it is cloudy, nor will he give you happiness because your life is difficult. Therefore, if you accept the storms in life with a cheerful attitude, life may be another scenery. Second, be open-minded in everything. Cheer up, let go, let go, should be the realm of life that everyone of us is striving for. Although there is an old saying, "Nine times out of ten, the unpleasant things in life can be the same as what you tell others", but some problems will really go crazy if they accumulate in your heart for too long. It can be said that "if you don't break out in silence, you will die in silence", and people need to vent their emotions. Even if you don't meet people, it's not a good idea to talk to one or two relatives or close friends. Don't confine yourself to your heart. Imagine that those bad emotions can't find an outlet, they will precipitate in your body and gradually expand. If you want to occupy your world, you will raise a tiger as a menace and encourage its arrogance, and it will be too late to destroy it!

Life is only a few decades, and everything in the world will disperse like a smoke cloud. Life or death, you can't take it away. Wave, don't cross yesterday's clouds. The princes and the people return together, and everyone is on the road to death. So, let go, don't be afraid or nervous, let go, and there will be peace!

Two colleagues in my unit died one after another, both of them were cancer.

Male, 5 1 year old, leukemia. Almost three years from diagnosis to death;

Female, 49 years old, lung cancer. He was diagnosed on September 7th, 20th, and died on 10 year1October 24th for more than a month.

The male colleague is the department head. When accompanying the county magistrate in charge to the township for inspection and supervision, he suddenly felt unwell and mentally exhausted. He thought he was tired and didn't care. Follow-up check will be continued for one week. After supervision, go to the hospital for check-up. The doctor initially suspected leukemia and dared not delay. The next day, he went to Tianjin Leukemia Research Institute, the best hospital for leukemia treatment. Diagnosed leukemia, chemotherapy.

His body was already very weak, and he came home after chemotherapy and basically took care of all his diseases. Occasionally I come to see him at work, and sometimes I see him in the park, saying that he is taking Chinese medicine for recuperation and is in good spirits. Unexpectedly, after two years, his condition deteriorated and he began to be hospitalized for a long time. In order to cure the disease, I also sold my house for my son's marriage.

Last time we went to see him, he was depressed and basically didn't communicate with others. His face is as thin as paper, leaving only a skeleton. His death was really embarrassing, and the backbone of a unit and the pillar of a family fell down like this.

Female colleagues are even more distressed. Kindness, diligence and dedication. In the department is the backbone of the business, independent; Gentle and virtuous at home, hard-working, the top leader inside and outside. It's just that I'm stubborn by nature and love to hide things in my heart. Her husband's family is in the countryside, and she is a little ignorant and filial. In addition, there are many sisters, many people and many things, and female colleagues have also mixed in. They suffered a lot of grievances and kept them in their hearts.

In addition, she has been in poor health and has had two lumbar operations. Therefore, every link of the bone, especially the hip joint, often hurts, and two bone spurs suddenly appear on the shoulder. In fact, these are all omens, which she ignored.

Later, I often had a fever, dry cough and kept coughing. I was very weak, so I went to the hospital for examination and wanted to recuperate. The results show that this is a bolt from the blue, the progress of bone metastasis of lung cancer.

She is a rational person, knowing that her illness is very dangerous and the cure rate is very low. At the end of her life, she chose to treat at home, cherish the limited time, spend more time with her children and leave her last dignity.

Arrange your own affairs in an orderly and clear way: donation of remains; After cremation, the ashes are scattered into the sea; Property is left to children; I made an appointment with a psychologist for my daughter in high school in order to give her psychological counseling after her death. Buy yourself the last beautiful dress. ...

Hearing the news of her death, everyone felt sad and sad, and regretted tears [tears].

The death of a colleague is sad and even more alarming. Life is impermanent, we should live in the present, don't dwell on the past, don't be confused about the future, combine work and rest, pay attention to good health, be good at expressing and communicating at home, and don't gnash your teeth and bear everything. Firmness, self-confidence, optimism, sunshine, love life and go forward bravely.

My teacher, only 56 years old, has always been a handsome man with a senior title. He earns more than ten thousand yuan a month. He often says that he is the highest paid person in the school and the youngest senior professor. He usually likes drinking best, drinking almost every day, and doesn't like sports very much. Suddenly one day, he didn't answer my phone. I asked him where he had gone, and he said he had gone to other places for training. After a while, he still didn't answer the phone. The surgical treatment was not effective, so I hanged myself at home. He remembered that another of his colleagues had cancer, so he jumped off the building and committed suicide. He said that if I got cancer, I would die, and he really died. Unexpectedly, a year later, the teacher's good friend, another teacher I knew, also died of cancer. They are about the same age, and two good friends, the front foot and the back foot, went together. Life is really fragile and easy to get sick, so live well and be happy every day.

My colleague Xiao Lu usually feels that he has no symptoms and has never had a colonoscopy. An employee's health examination showed that it was intestinal cancer, and it was advanced. He was only in his 40 s, which was embarrassing.

I remember that in the winter of 20 19, the unit leader gave every employee a general examination, including gastrointestinal endoscopy.

Although most people in our unit have a physical examination every year, most people have never had a gastrointestinal endoscopy. Let's say that I have lived for more than 50 years, and I am doing gastrointestinal endoscopy for the first time. Everyone in the company attaches great importance to their health and completes the whole body examination early. Only Xiao Lu put off doing it. Many people reminded her to do it as soon as possible to eliminate cancer, but she was full of confidence and thought she was in good health. In the last month after the medical examination expired, she was persuaded to have an examination. As soon as she had a colonoscopy, she was already in the terminal stage of cancer.

The whole unit was blindsided and felt sorry for her. Although Xiao Lu is over 40 years old, he is dressed in fashion, tall and radiant. I also praise: Lu Xiao is getting younger and younger. I saw her wearing eyeliner and tattooing her eyebrows the other day, but I can't see that Xiao Lu is a little sick.

I haven't seen Xiao Lu since she was diagnosed with cancer by colonoscopy. I heard that Xiao Lu went to Beijing for chemotherapy and then went home to rest. Several colleagues close to her said that they had visited her at Lu Xiao's home once.

Xiao Lu was haggard, like a shriveled old lady. She was so weak that she said that she was going to die. Let them live a good life. Makes people want to cry. A year later, 46-year-old Xiao Lu left, leaving her daughter and her 8-year-old son who had just entered the first year of college. Everyone is sad to see it.

After Xiao Lu left, several colleagues close to her said: Xiao Lu has a strong personality and is proud of himself. It is difficult for him to take the title exam, and he is under great pressure. He took the exam for two years in a row and submitted a textual research at the same time.

After taking the title exam, I suddenly felt dizzy when I took another certificate, vomited and diarrhea in the examination room, and quit the examination room halfway. Xiao Lu thought it was a cold. Take some medicine and leave it alone.

Xiao Lu used to be the director of a department, but when the new leader came and put her down, she was a little unbalanced. In fact, colleagues all know that her ability is not great.

I also heard from another colleague that Lv Xiaofa had a physical examination for his employees before, but Xiao Lu thought he was in good health, so he didn't take it seriously, and didn't go to a big hospital for re-examination.

Many people say that Xiao Lu's life was delayed by himself. If she had noticed the signs of illness earlier, if she was not so stubborn and confident, and had a colonoscopy a year earlier, maybe her life would have been saved, and maybe she could live for a few more years. Well, it doesn't matter what she says, she's gone.

Sister Yang is my hometown. She is fat for nothing, and she is very nice. She is never picky. No matter what she does in the canteen. She is full of praise for the food, which has the flavor of her hometown. She can call the aunt who cooks at the window and say hello to them. She is very amiable!

One Saturday noon, she was sitting on the sofa at home watching TV. Her husband is cooking in the kitchen. When the meal was ready, she didn't even respond when she was asked to eat. Her husband thought it was strange. When he looked again, her head tilted to one side and her mouth watered. People have no breath, and she still has the remote control in her hand!

Everyone was shocked when the news reached the company. A person who is alive and well, had a normal physical examination last month. This means that if she doesn't do this, she will disappear. It is really impermanent. I don't know what to say. I can only comfort her family and say that she didn't suffer when she left! This is also a kind of perfection!

Xiao Xue was born in a wealthy family with three sisters. Two of them were fostered with relatives, and he was born. He has been a good boy since he was a child, and he did well in school. He graduated from high school and was admitted to a key university. A few years later, he went to work in the system. His life can be described as smooth sailing, and he is loved by thousands of people!

The girls he likes are his childhood, his classmates, two childhood friends and his wife. Who knows that he came to propose but was rejected by his mother-in-law, who said that their family didn't like Xiao Xue's personality and his job. What's the promise of a big man sitting at a desk all his life and earning thousands of dollars? The son-in-law they are looking for should not be like this!

Xiao Xue came home with a sullen face. His parents asked him what was wrong. What are you thinking?

He said, no, just a little uncomfortable. He wanted to go to bed early, so he closed the door. The next morning, my mother made breakfast, only to find that his door was locked and could not be opened. Call without talking, turn off the phone, and then I get nervous. I forced the lock and saw him hanging on the balcony with a scarf. My mother was terrified out of her wits and collapsed to the ground!

As soon as the news came out, the prospective mother-in-law cried and beat her chest. She said a few words by accident, but she killed him. If I had known this, I would never have said anything, but I don't agree with her daughter marrying him, and I don't want to see such an ending. Really sad!

Manager Huang, who feels particularly friendly and smiling, has been working in the company since the operation. He looks a little thin, but his face is pretty. When cooking, he is no different from normal people except eating spicy food!

The last time I saw him, he was late for dinner, and suddenly it rained heavily outside. I brought him an umbrella, and he kept saying, thank you, thank you, I'll bring it back for you tomorrow!

As a result, he never came back. It's embarrassing to hear that his condition suddenly deteriorated and he died soon after being hospitalized!

This unit, a * * * more than 30 people, left three in a week, and colleagues were depressed, lamenting the impermanence of life, and even we couldn't get up!

For these people, everyone is very scared, but no one wants to mention it, just wait for time to smooth everything out!

Now, I have been away from there for several years. Recently, I found half of the young faces I didn't know at work. Everything in the past has disappeared without a trace!

Let me tell you something about my experience. I have a colleague my age. Lymphoma is found in routine physical examination every year. He didn't want to believe the test results, so he went to two other hospitals for reexamination. The result is still the same. He reluctantly accepted western medicine treatment and was supervised by his wife every day. As a result, a lot of red and green pills were thrown into his mouth, and the medicine was used up ... Spring came and autumn went, and two years later, his illness did not improve. On the contrary, his people can blow him away more and more. [Tears] On the way home, we sat on the bus. He said something to me. I haven't forgotten it yet. He said, I have seen the crematorium in front. If I had known that this was the end of both money and people, I wouldn't have treated it at all. Either way, it's death. I might as well save some money for my wife's retirement. ! In front of a dying patient, my language is very pale ... I have been thinking about what he said since I got home, and I think I should do something for him. I remembered a friend in the country, so I asked him to buy a basket of earth eggs for him ... It was the end of the year, and I was still working, so I was busy with a few chores and delayed the delivery of eggs ... I thought about it when I remembered it was New Year's Eve.

I have mixed feelings in my heart, and I am afraid every day ... Not long after, another colleague of mine died with a similar "program" [tears]. From then on, I began to seriously consider myself-will I get cancer? Get cancer treatment? Still not cured? As if treatment and no treatment are death? ! What should we do? It seems that I don't want to die yet, at least not now, so I have to find a way to save myself, so I started the road of learning Chinese medicine. Eight years later, my dream of Chinese medicine continues. ...

I want to tell you, don't be afraid, when God didn't "accept" you, you were still alive. Since you are alive, you should be kind to yourself, not treat yourself after you get sick, but prevent the occurrence of diseases at ordinary times. That's the point! * * * Whatever!

The world is a dream of spring, how many times is it cool in autumn?

Birth, illness, death, natural law, what are you afraid of? Everything should be relaxed. People have to experience everything in this life. Tell me about things around me:

I entered our unit of more than 50 people the year the unit was established, and sent five people away before and after, one tenth. The first two didn't attend the memorial service for various reasons. They were young and didn't feel anything.

Last month, a colleague who was in good health died suddenly. At 2 o'clock in the afternoon, he was going to work, and suddenly he died of heart disease on his own stairs. Fifty-six years old, retired after four years. When I received the notice that afternoon, I had mixed feelings: no one knew which would arrive first, the accident or tomorrow.

When people reach middle age, their mentality is very important, and they should be healthy in their hearts and bodies.

People should learn to care about themselves, and good health is more important than Mount Tai! You said that several colleagues in the unit died of illness, and they were very scared. What should I do? I can only say that in the face of reality, I understand that life is too impermanent. (1) most units emphasize work and seldom emphasize the adjustment of physical and mental health. Usually emphasize the importance of work, and pay little attention to the physical and mental health of employees. There is no compulsory recuperation system, and most people are in a sub-health state. Many people can't finish their annual public holidays because of their work responsibilities. My colleague died of illness, which is very sad. Many colleagues, some have not retired yet, and some have retired soon. It is true that these colleagues died of illness. If you are old (over 80 years old) and die, you will think that nature is the law. Now the unit has a physical examination, which has little effect. Now many units require staff to be frugal. Older employees (near retirement) have problems with various organs, but can they take time off to rest? No way! I have to take care of my work, but I can't take care of my health. Some people say that people, like computers, have little value. Don't think you are very capable, you are very important to the unit. People are like computers and other office supplies. If they break down, they will apply for a new computer. If the person is gone (transferred, died, etc.). ), immediately arrange personnel to take over. The earth is still turning and the unit is still running. ..... I hope the government departments will show more concern and fewer colleagues will die abnormally.

Several colleagues in the unit died of illness. What should I do if I am very scared?

I thought you really "don't worry, don't be afraid"! The death of a colleague at work doesn't tell you what will happen to you. It is normal to "ask for leave" when you are sick. Why are you afraid? Life is alive, birth, old age, illness and death are natural laws. The great man once said, "People are inherently mortal". For people, life is temporary and death is "absolute"! It is an eternal fact that people will "leave" eventually.

Actually, I thought everyone had a destiny (except unnatural death). When you are born and when you die, "God" has his own plan. Don't be afraid!

I have a friend, Zhang Qiong, who is terminally ill. He was afraid of death and put his life to the extreme. Whenever she passes by hospitals and other places, she will make a detour. If we meet, the funeral will be more serious. She is forbidden to talk about "life and death" when she talks to anyone. When watching TV, you must change the channel to prevent such a plot. She only watched comedy programs in the end.

On that day, when she was visiting relatives, she happened to meet the "funeral procession". There was no other way to go around here. She used her quick wits to kick open the door of the roadside house and "hide". Later, he was called to the police station and detained for five days.

Although Zhang Qiong was terminally ill, he resolutely refused to go to the hospital for treatment. She thinks going to the hospital for treatment will make her die faster. She eats "folk herbs" at home every day, and all she eats are big bags. Ten years later, she is still alive.

She is afraid of others talking about life and death. She only watches comedies. She wants to live! She keeps exercising every day, even on a hot June day! What she is afraid of is not "fear"! She wants to live, so she tries her best to find a cure.

Ten years later, Zhang Qiong's health seems to be getting better and better! His face is ruddy and his skin is fair. She is still afraid of others talking about life and death, still only watching "comedies" and still eating "herbs". Still refused to go to the hospital.

Later, according to her, if people want to live, they should not think about death! It seems that there is only "life" without "death" in the world, and people can live forever. People naturally relaxed, so they survived.