"It's none of your business if I go back to my mother's house to pay New Year's greetings." My mother-in-law kicked her sister-in-law out of the family. what do you think?

Psychology summed up a sentence: everyone's conflicts and contradictions in life are basically caused by not distinguishing the boundaries. Borderless relations are a normal feature of China families.

For example, in the family, I don't know how to give back with my heart, I don't know how to feel the same, and I like to be self-centered and interfere in other people's thoughts and lives.

People who have no sense of boundaries are always trampling on others with practical actions, and the original intimate relationship will fall into endless difficulties because of this borderlessness.

Therefore, if a person has a clear sense of boundaries, it is not only respect for others, but also responsibility for himself.

Little sister-in-law with a weak sense of boundary

Xiao Liu met a sister-in-law with a weak sense of boundaries because her whole marriage was greatly influenced by her sister-in-law.

Xiao Liu and her mother-in-law teach in the same school. The acquaintance, love and marriage with her husband are all because of her mother-in-law. Xiao Liu and her mother-in-law are both teachers, one is gentle and filial, and the other is reasonable. In Xiao Liu's mind, her mother-in-law is open-minded and generous.

Because she got along well with her mother-in-law, she didn't buy a new wedding room when she got married with her husband, and she lived with her mother-in-law directly.

After more than a year of marriage, Xiao Liu's married life is still very happy. She has never quarreled with her mother-in-law, but the only thing that annoys and hates Xiao Liu is Xiao Guzi.

Sister-in-law is very favored at home, because she is young and her mother-in-law risks being laid off, so the whole family loves her as a baby.

But not all children who grow up in love can have a kind and upward heart. The spoiled little sister-in-law is rebellious and falls in love with boys at school. Because of puppy love, she stole the forbidden fruit and got married and had children early.

Although the mother-in-law is a teacher, her family conditions are very general. She bought a house in the county in her early years, so her sister-in-law was also a girl who grew up in the city.

Moreover, the family condition of the object she married is very bad, and the house is in the township. The sister-in-law who married into a bad family won the sympathy of the whole family, and her mother-in-law doted on her. Every time my sister-in-law goes back to her mother's house, her mother-in-law will make a big table of dishes she likes to eat.

Sister-in-law is not used to living in villages and towns, and often runs back to her family, and marriage is no exception. Many times, she not only came back by herself, but also took her in-laws and relatives home, and even threw the children directly to her mother-in-law and went alone.

Xiao Guzi's behavior is more and more frequent, and there is no sense of boundaries, which makes Xiao Liu very disgusted. Because she is indifferent to her sister-in-law, she often says in front of her mother-in-law and husband that Xiao Liu doesn't like herself and doesn't want her to go back to her family.

Husband and mother-in-law, who know themselves very well, often laugh at her sister-in-law's complaints with little explanation. But sister-in-law is telling the truth. She really doesn't like people like sister-in-law who can't tell the boundaries.

Every time she goes back to her mother's house, her sister-in-law always calls a spade a spade and tells Xiao Liu that she is headstrong and reckless, and drinks and drinks with her mother-in-law and husband. As long as she is not satisfied, she will lose her temper, and her mother-in-law and husband are helpless.

My mother-in-law kicked my sister-in-law out of the family group.

Xiao Liu could bear all these trifles, but on the first day of this year, she finally couldn't help it.

The cause of this incident is that my sister-in-law publicly accused her mother-in-law and her family at home, because she thought that her husband's family had too many things to go back to her family.

On New Year's Day, my sister-in-law and her husband went to relatives' homes to pay New Year's greetings. While walking, my sister-in-law was engrossed in chatting on WeChat and didn't care about the children at all. The children fell and broke their skin. It is normal for children to fall. For this matter, my sister-in-law quarreled with her husband.

Sister-in-law has a big temper and can't stand any injustice. After being scolded by her husband, she complained in the family group, and then asked her brother to drive to pick her up because she wanted to go back to her parents' house.

But on this day, Xiao Liu and her husband had to arrange to visit relatives and had no time to pick up her sister-in-law, but because she was a sister, her husband was still distressed and wanted to drive to pick her up.

Xiao Liu didn't want to send a sentence directly in the family group: Your brother and I have something to do today. Call a car and go home by yourself.

This sentence made the angry little sister-in-law even more angry. She directly cursed Xiao Liu in the group and said, "It's none of your business if I go back to my parents' house to pay a New Year call. "

Xiao Liu was completely angered by this sentence, but because he didn't like quarreling, he didn't say much. Anyway, he just won't let her husband pick up her sister-in-law. As soon as her mother-in-law saw it, she had to quickly move her sister-in-law out of the family.

Through this incident, Liu Ye Jr. decided to buy a house and move out after the year.

What exactly does the so-called boundary mean? Boundary is the relationship between people. The most obvious feature of people with a weak sense of boundaries is that they don't know themselves.

In the family, one must establish a good self-boundary and don't challenge others' bottom line. Only by establishing clear boundaries can we establish a stable relationship and protect family happiness.