The phenomenon of comparison in rural areas is serious. What psychology is at work?

As a native of rural post-80s generation, I have been immersed in my work for many years without paying attention to the comparison of my hometown. Even if there is, it is slight, but the phenomenon of being too poor and loving the rich is very serious. A neighbor, who farmed at home a few years ago, has a good relationship with my family and often visits us. Later, he got the honor of his son-in-law, opened a shop outside and bought a car. After he came back, he hardly came into my house and invited him to a wedding banquet. His wife was cold and didn't even say a word of congratulations.

Speaking of comparison, it is more in the city. Some colleagues around me, A changed to a good car, B changed to a similar one, and C changed to a more expensive one, regardless of their own economic strength.

If you don't return to your hometown with wealth, it's like a night trip. It's almost the end of the year. I believe many people are ready to go back to their hometown. After a hard year's work, it's time to relax and go home. As long as the money they earn, as long as they have not fallen into the eyes of money, that is understandable, even if they show off a little and make a high-profile statement.

The Spring Festival is coming. I wish you all a happy New Year and all the best.

My family is from rural Shandong, and it has become an accepted fact that rural people love to compare. However, if the comparison has become more and more distorted and even become a social atmosphere in rural areas, it will actually affect the normal development of rural areas more and more, and even an indelible fact will appear.

I remember once, my cousin delivered express delivery in a big city and made a lot of money. Sometimes his income can reach tens of thousands a month. Although it is very hard, he also leads many young people to work in rural cities. Every year when he comes home, he can bring a lot of money to his parents. I heard that he can give tens of thousands of dollars, which can only be earned in a year in the countryside.

Later, my cousin went home for the Spring Festival and bought a car. Looks like over 200,000. He is really rich. We all envy him. Sometimes children are eager for him to take us out for a ride and show off the rich people in our village.

As a result, once, my cousin drunk and drove at a super fast speed, which sounded scary. I almost lost my life when I hit a tree, and the car was even scrapped beyond repair.

It hurts compared with others.

If rural people want to be respected, they don't have to show off their wealth blindly to gain respect, but because of their inner nature, politeness and respect for others, politeness can gain recognition from others and truly gain respect from others.

I come from the southern countryside. I'm talking about the rural phenomenon in the local countryside. There is a contrast. Just like there is a Lantern Festival, both families in the community have added men to their families. A relatively rich family bought about 30,000 pieces of fireworks. The other is a village cadre. I'm not that rich. Village cadres think I am a cadre, but I can't compete with you. I'll buy 40 thousand. Compared with the boss who sells fireworks, I am afraid of an accident. I said get on the bus, my place is 0/6 kilometers from the county seat/kloc-. The bus doesn't come three times a day, which is five kilometers away from me. It is very inconvenient to travel. Many people know that the taste of rain in winter in the south is unpleasant, and owning a car will suffer a lot less. Generally, when buying a car in rural areas, they will choose a fuel-efficient and affordable car. 23 years old, because I have a house in the county, so I didn't consider the house for a short time. I wanted to buy a herdsman two years ago, not for comparison, but because I liked that car. It was enough to buy herders at that time.

Here only talk about the comparison in rural areas. What is at work?

I am an out-and-out rural post-90 s, and now my living conditions are good. Let's talk a little closer. I think all my friends who stayed in the countryside after 1980 know that my family was poor when I was a child, and the family that ate meat for a week was already very rich. There is no extra space in every family's home, and even parents with brothers and sisters at home are basically doing farm work. Farmers are afraid of poverty. Personally, I don't think it is the so-called comparison. If you buy refrigerators, washing machines, cars, houses and banquets in people with good conditions, what these city people can buy is not called comparison? Is it called comparison when rural people buy it?

The heart of comparison is an instinct of human beings. It doesn't matter whether you work in a factory or not. We are all doing the same job. Why do you make trouble in front of the boss when your salary is higher than mine? The boss said, I like him, you can do it if you want, or you can leave if you don't want to.

Closer to home, the heart of comparison in rural areas is more serious. You build three floors, I build four floors. Your home is well decorated, and so is mine. You bought more than 65,438+10,000 vehicles this year, and I will buy more than 200,000 vehicles next year.

In fact, it is difficult to compete with others. Only by comparing the rural areas can we make progress, and only by comparing the rural areas can the economy develop rapidly. But now, gambling and banquet gifts in rural areas should be put an end to.

The phenomenon of comparison among rural people is serious. What psychology is at work? Let me help you make a comprehensive and serious analysis. That's because the countryside is not as good as the city, and the city people pay attention to the sound of chickens and dogs and don't communicate with each other. Everyone closes the door and lives their own lives. Living in the same village with rural people, in a palm-sized place, everyone will get to know each other, know each other and accompany them. When we are together, there will be more or less some courtesy communication in the world. Everyone struggles for a sigh of relief, and the Buddha receives a furnace of incense. The living don't want to fight for breath, live decently and have a good reputation. As long as it is not extravagant, there is nothing wrong with it. Competition is the driving force. This society can continue to prosper and develop.

However, everything has a good side, and there must be a bad place. Just like the bride price money of rural people at present, people who are getting higher and higher may not feel anything. Only some poor people have suffered. Even if they lose everything in order to marry a satisfactory daughter-in-law, I don't think they can get what they want. Well, the bride price was originally just a courtesy. There is really no need to raise it so high, it doesn't make much sense. Marriage is a happy event, and everyone can do their best to make everyone happy. Why did you make a fuss about finding a marriage, but it all ended in discord? It used to be a good thing to have children and in-laws, but in the end it turned into bad business competition. It's really sad Up to now, many rural marriageable young people are facing the possibility of being single. Today, it has become a serious social problem. On the one hand, because of the high bride price, people can't afford to marry and will be single all their lives. On the other hand, it is difficult for leftover women to get married together. What kind of strange phenomenon is this? This is the negative consequence of vicious competition and vicious circle. Don't say it, it's a waste of time to talk too much, and no amount of words can solve this problem at present. There is no harm in kindly reminding me.

Actually, I don't know how to say it. Anyway, people in this small place always like to compare with others. I despise you if you are worse than me, and scold you if you are better than me. In other words, I think it's to save face. In fact, people are very poor and just like to compare. I really hate this. I think I will study hard now and become a real rich man in the future. I'm too lazy to compare with your relatives in the countryside. When you are really rich, they may not be able to keep up with you, because you are too rich to compete, or someone will continue to stab you in the back. People who come out of the countryside, especially those with small achievements, like to keep up with the joneses best. Personally, I think the reason for keeping up with the joneses is that I was born in a poor rural area, and I think I have achieved something. If I have a house and a car, I will have a sense of superiority over the people around me. People in rural areas feel jealous! Can't see the scenery of others.

So I personally make a small summary: ① Poor rural conditions, education level will affect values, values have many influences, and values affect the way of doing things (key words: values). (2) Rural customs and rural social concepts have poisoned generations of rural people (Keywords: rural social environment)

I want to be clear, I'm not saying that all rural people are like this, just most of them. Because my father came from the countryside, he is now admitted to a 985 school. Up to now, I think he loves face and has superiority. My uncle is the boss, and so is his uncle. Then I hate my dad's relatives here. Dozens of relatives of seven aunts and eight aunts are really upset. The most important thing is that they especially like to compare with others, so I am annoyed. Every time we get together on New Year's Day, I always hear my father and his three brothers say that which relatives look down on us because the house in our hometown is broken and poor, and then relatives over there look down on us. I am bored. I don't even want to talk about my dad. But in normal life, my dad's face-saving appearance makes me particularly uncomfortable. Alas ..... I feel influenced by it.

Everyone said, one is vanity and the other is jealousy. This phenomenon is common in both rural and urban areas.

From the perspective of my Shanghai fortune teller, if a person has this factor in the core monument of life, he/she will certainly do so. There are many people, but the core memorial of life does not have this factor. So if he behaves like this, maybe he is just influenced by this environment. Just forced.

Moderate competition can indeed be a driving force to promote social progress. But vicious competition will inevitably lead to all kinds of tragedies. For example, the emergence of many poisonous foods, fake vaccines of poisoned milk powder and the like are all caused by vicious price competition.

Some projects under construction, such as bridge collapse, are caused by vicious price competition in project bidding.

In fact, I was born to be the one who doesn't like to compare with others. When I was young, I couldn't tell fortune and married a wife who disliked me. Force me to work hard. Now he has become a feng shui consultant of the listed company, the Royal Book of Changes. But after all, my reputation is still limited at present, and there are not many companies that employ me, and my income is not much. It is far from some famous feng shui masters in the early years (the annual income may reach 6.5438+million).

But my heart is calm, and I know that my fortune in this life is like this at present. I will never envy or compare anyone. Making money is a bottomless pit. The more unbalanced, the easier it is to get sick. The easier it is to die early. That's too uneconomical!

One female client is very jealous. He posted Weibo in the group saying that he wanted to post a book about crowdfunding, and I said I wanted it. Then I talked about my desire to be a crowdfunding, and spread my lecture video revealing the Millennium Feng Shui Juexue to the right people. She was so jealous that her expression was very ugly at once! No wonder, although she is very capable, she can't be the secretary of the general manager because of her poor health.

When she first asked me for advice. As soon as I saw it, I told her that you had a heart problem. She immediately gave feedback, really! I have been to the hospital many times, and there is nothing wrong with it. But every morning when I wake up, my heart hurts.

I can tell at a glance what's wrong with anyone's life. How do the doctors in the hospital know? Therefore, in the face of the hospital full of people waiting in line, I feel quite funny. 60% are diseases caused by numerology, and 30% are diseases caused by geomantic omen. 5% are diseases caused by cause and effect. These effects are not obvious or even bad in hospitals. Only 5% is an emergency, such as high fever, stroke, cerebral hemorrhage, poisoning, or trauma requiring surgery, such as trauma, such as caesarean section, which must be treated and rescued in the hospital. Other diseases, as long as they don't die, will naturally get better. It is really the end of life, and no one can save it.

Life is seven feet hard to find. Do what you can, do what God wants. After trying, just keep a normal heart.

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Nowadays, with the improvement of living standards and the development of the Internet, people know more about it. More money than family, house, car and children, everywhere. They feel that their home is better than others', so they are particularly proud and proud. You won the world and lost it. No matter how others compare, you should keep your original heart. There are people outside, and there are people outside. Why compare with others? Now the older generation, young people have suffered a lot, supported the growth of future generations, and future generations have made some achievements, so they are more willing to tell friends and relatives around the world that our young people are more serious than others. Going to school is more serious than eating, wearing, living, traveling and entering the society. No matter how others compare, just stick to yourself. Comparing is not a good thing, it will only make the world more fragile. Don't forget your innovative spirit, so as to achieve your ultimate goal.

In the past, farmers lived in poverty. If we can solve the problem of food and clothing, this kind of life is already good. How can you have spare money to compare? In fact, people at that time were selfish, but for economic reasons, they could not compare with others. However, with the progress of the times, the living standards of farmers have been greatly improved, the living conditions are good, and the family has money, so there is a phenomenon of keeping up with the joneses. Nowadays, the psychology of comparison in rural areas is becoming more and more serious, mainly in these four aspects, and farmers are very helpless!

1. House

In the past, rural development was relatively backward, and the houses generally lived in were adobe houses, and there was no difference between good and bad. However, with the development of society, great changes have taken place in houses built in rural areas, from bungalows to villas, and the decoration is also very different. In fact, some people who build villas are not necessarily rich in family conditions, and many people borrow money to build houses. The reason for doing this is to let oneself have face, to keep up with the competition, and if other people's houses are not well built, they will be laughed at, which makes farmers feel a little helpless.

2. cars

In the past, when going out in the countryside, the means of transportation were generally bicycles and walking. But with the development of time, motorcycles and electric cars appeared later. Nowadays, many rural families also have private cars, some of which are tens of thousands cheaper and some are hundreds of thousands or even millions more expensive. For farmers, many people just buy a car for tens of thousands of dollars, mainly for the convenience of walking and going out. However, some people regard the car as a comparison product and think that only buying a good car is a face. Therefore, in order to buy a good car, many people have to borrow money to buy it.

3. weddings and funerals

Nowadays, no matter what is white or red in the countryside, they are more keen on doing big things, which leads to serious extravagance and waste. Generally, there are dozens of dishes on a table, which can hardly be eaten. If a banquet is well done, it will be praised. If it is not done well, it will be discussed. This is more difficult for farmers with ordinary family conditions, because catering costs a lot of money, so these farmers can't afford it. Many farmers are helpless about this situation.

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Nowadays, rural areas, especially those women, especially like to dress up in comparison. If someone buys new clothes or new jewelry, others will buy it if they see it. The more expensive it is, the more face it will have. In rural areas, we can find that many rural women like to wear gold-inlaid jewelry, which is heavy and thick. The main reason for this situation is the psychology of comparison.

With the all-round development and progress of the economy, the psychology of keeping up with the joneses is becoming more and more serious, which makes many farmers feel a little helpless. The reason why this happens is mainly because of the psychology of comparison. Nowadays, the situation of comparison in rural areas is very serious, and it is difficult to change it in a short time. I hope everyone has a correct attitude, don't compare maliciously, treat other things with a normal heart, and don't care about other people's opinions! What do you think of this? Let's talk together!