How can people like me live? What is the meaning of existence?

The most important thing is to analyze first, and analyze why there is such a situation. It's not that you don't want to work hard, but that you don't have the support of the driving force! Why is there no motive force? It must have something to do with family of origin. Parents didn't give you recognition and appreciation, that is, they didn't store it in your own "bank" until they were recognized, and their self-confidence would be deprived of the original, which in turn caused their own "three minutes" blood, which further caused that there was no clear goal. Without the goal, there would be no motive force.

if you want to get out of the current predicament, the best way is to go to the local psychological counseling room and fully understand your time.

Before you do anything, you should have a plan, think about what you want, what you have lost, what people expect of you, and what others look down on you. Work hard? It's the last thing that will go out of fashion. As long as you firmly want it, you are your own biggest enemy. Do you think about it?

After reading your narrative, I can feel your discomfort and desire to make progress. You can trust everyone here so much, and you have made efforts to "have no specific goals, what to do next, I don't know, and there is no clear plan". You want to change. This is the beginning of change.

I'd like to say a few things about your narrative and your details:

1. "Every time I fight with someone, as long as it doesn't go my way, I just quit"? When you calm down, ask yourself, remember well. Are you really like this every year since you were a child? Is it like this every day of the year? Is it like this 24 hours a day? 6 points per hour, are the points like this? Is every second in a minute like this? I think there must be exceptions, right How did you do it then? Can you try it now?

2. Although you said a lot of things that you think are bad, why didn't you get worse? You are thinking, and you haven't done anything for a day. You just lack perseverance, or you want everything. Maybe you just don't know what you really need. I believe that one day if you know what you really want and what you really want to do, you will stick to it, for sure! How to find what you want most, you can consult a professional psychological counselor, or make a career plan. If you don't want to consult for the time being, you can find what you want from the heart with the resources you can use.

3. If life needs happiness, it is necessary to give up comparison and care. Don't compare with others, because you are not him, and you don't know if he is really happy; Even if he lives well, he is happy. You still have to go on with your life. If he is good, how can you learn from him? What efforts he has made, what he is good at, or what he can do at present, can be studied a little bit. I am sure there must be something in you that your friends don't have. People around you are getting along well as you say, so how happy you are. There are so many things around you that you can learn temporarily. If you see the goodness of others, you will gradually have these good things, as long as it is better than your next second. Live yourself well, and live every moment well. It is an art to live a good life.

4. Regarding the question that others laugh at you, I want to tell you that if you are a lion, you will not become a dog just because others say you are a dog. So sometimes it is unnecessary to pay too much attention to what others say. It's more important to think about what happens in your heart when other people's words stimulate you. You will care that maybe he is just a motivation for you to live your true self, which is a good thing.

5. Life is long, and you are still young. If you set your own goals, your life has just started. I really congratulate you on thinking about this problem when you are still young. Some people may not have your idea of changing after living all their lives. Regarding improving perseverance and perseverance, don't worry, you have three minutes of enthusiasm, so choose something you like to do for three minutes; Then take a break, and then do it for three minutes. It takes a lot of three minutes to add up. There are many ways to cultivate perseverance. You can search professional books or materials.

I study management. I think everyone will have a three-minute fever. Maybe you belong to the extreme type.

Personally, you are not clear about your goals. Have you ever thought about what kind of person you want to be in the future? (For example, an entrepreneur)

First, identify your goals, that is, what you want to be in the future

Second, plan at different levels and implement your plan in stages. ?

Third, learn to control yourself.

Really, no one can succeed casually. There must be a lot of bitter efforts and gritty persistence behind the glamour you see.

In my opinion, you don't mean that you are incapable, but you don't show it. A person's life is like a car walking on the road, which needs two things: 1. Direction; 2. Power; But we can't forget two things: 1. Enjoy the process; Give is gain. You can start with small things and stick to it. When you succeed, you will feel the joy of turning failure into success. That feeling is the hope and motivation to live. < P > In short, remember your goal and stick to it.

In fact, your situation is not uncommon. Don't treat yourself as an exception. And you already know where your problem is, that is, you don't have perseverance and perseverance in doing things, so you will try to cultivate your perseverance and perseverance in the future. In fact, you still have many advantages that you haven't discovered yourself. There is a saying that knowing shame is almost brave. You know guilt and gratitude, which shows that there is something shining in your heart.

The most important thing now is to take action. First, find a job and take yourself as the goal-do it well, and you have taken the first step to success.

In addition, it's not easy to learn to be patient and endure a knife in the head. Restrain yourself when you are unhappy and learn to endure pain;

Changing living habits, going to bed early and getting up early, and getting up in the morning for long-distance running can exercise your perseverance;

watch inspirational things every day and transform yourself spiritually;

put down your face, don't care whether others are better than you, but whether others work harder than you, and if so, surpass him!

if you do the above, you'll be thoroughly remoulded! ?

If you really don't have any plans, don't do anything first, and let yourself stay for a while. In fact, you know yourself very well, and you want to make things bigger, but you always don't have enough perseverance, and you won't last long. . . .

In fact, everyone is the same, but his attitude towards things is different. If I were a man, I would insist on what I can do now, do it well, and treat my parents well. That's their business, but we can't say that we don't need it. Everyone's life has its meaning.

I have read a sentence: now even dogs and cats have to do something every day to get food, not to mention our people. You have normal thinking and are a thoughtful person. Think about it. If you really have no capital, you don't need to spend money to learn a good craft. Find a place where you can do skilled work and be an apprentice with others. You can earn money and support yourself. You want to find a good girl you like as your wife, and you will give her a good life! ! ! !

I hope it helps you! ! ?