How to treat the phenomenon that parents never take the initiative to contact their children?

It is not surprising that parents do not take the initiative to contact their children. In turn, children contact their parents. Before they go to work, they want money. They want their parents to take care of their children after work. It's so realistic.

We only say that parents never take the initiative to contact their children. First, I'm afraid of asking for money. Calling for money can't afford to hurt your wallet. The second is to be afraid that children will tell. I (my wife) am pregnant. Please take care of it. Once I take care of it, my child will go to primary school. Six years, my parents can't stand it. Third, it shows that parents are healthy, have money to spend and don't need to be taken care of.

These three situations have caused many parents never to contact their children or make phone calls.

However, once parents are semi-self-care or even unable to take care of themselves, they will contact their children regularly.

Compared with family ties, parents and children actually exist because of mutual needs.

Words are rough, not rough. Life is such a truth.

Haha, I can answer this question with the actual situation of my husband and me. The story of the two of us may represent two kinds of families, representing the interaction and getting along with each other. There is no difference between good and bad, but this pattern has been formed for a long time, which deeply affects the daily communication between parents, children and children. If you want to change, you must start from being your own parents and change the communication style of your family.

In-laws' situation, parents-in-law are also very good people. Of course, they also love their children deeply and try their best to help us. No matter how hard and tired they are, I hope we can live a good life and reduce the pressure. Husband has a good temper and is filial to his parents. But he seldom calls my parents-in-law, rarely twice a year, and hangs up every time he talks for two or three minutes. Not only he but also his sister seldom calls his parents. Even if the family get together on holidays, they won't feel particularly enthusiastic, just have something to say and nothing to do. My parents-in-law seldom call them unless something happens.

The situation in our family is completely different. There are more children in our family than in-laws Although brothers and sisters are married, and in different cities, far apart and busy at work, we always seize every opportunity to get together, go shopping and chat together, and there are always endless words. So are my parents. When I was a child, the happiest thing in our family was getting together and chatting. We told my parents many new things about the school, and my parents told us about the village and relatives. We will tell them what's bothering us, even if they can't help. And my parents will discuss anything at home with us, even if we don't have any constructive opinions.

It is still the same to go home now. It is rare to go back once a year. After returning home, the most entertaining activity at home is chatting with family. Even though my brother is a boy, he is very enthusiastic. He is already the father of the child, and he is very interesting. He often chats happily with everyone. Usually everyone is scattered all over the country, and my sister and I are thousands of miles apart, but the phone calls and videos are very frequent. Sometimes we are so busy that we forget that we haven't contacted each other for several days. Dad will definitely call us. There is a WeChat now. If you are afraid of disturbing our work, send a voice to ask us and wait until the weekend to video with us. And every time, whether it is a phone call or a video, it is basically more than 30 minutes, and there is always a lot to say.

Now our family of three live in harmony. My son and I like chatting together very much. I will tell him about myself, and he will tell me about himself and the school. We share joys and sorrows. I also like to invite my son to participate in family affairs. Since he went to kindergarten, our family has had eating and drinking activities. This is one of my son's favorite activities. In fact, it is to get something to eat and drink on the table. Three people sit around and chat and read books, reflect on their recent bad behavior, accept the supervision of others, praise good behavior and encourage maintenance. What happened at home? Let's discuss it together and come up with an idea

I often tell my husband that what I fear most is that my family has nothing to say and keeps it in their hearts. Love should be expressed and felt by the other party. Therefore, I have never been stingy with my love for my son, and neither has my son. And I think it is good for children's education. If the child won't tell us anything, how can we get to know him and guide him? I was working overtime the other day, and my son called me on his grandmother's cell phone. Do you know what he is going to say? He learned pinyin, the first time he learned pinyin, and learned A, O, E, O, E. He was very excited and eager to share it with me and read it to me.

My son and I are also slowly influencing my husband. From a person who doesn't like to talk much and can't express much, we will often chat with our son slowly, and there are quite a few topics between us. I will also take an active part in family activities, and even start to join my son and I in our daily bickering. And he is especially good at making cold jokes. Let my son and I laugh and be happy afterwards. My son always tells me cold jokes. After that, I had to tremble with it.

This mode of getting along also makes our education for children much simpler, and many things can be agreed through effective communication. This not only exercised his independence, but also kept us close.

Therefore, I think that the family atmosphere and the mode of family communication formed for a long time will affect everyone in the family, including the children at home, to get along with the new family when they grow up. I can't tell which is good or bad. But I prefer the mode of parent-child communication and interaction, which makes me feel closer, happier and more loving.

I may have a different answer from other parents about how parents never contact their children actively. The reality is that it's not that parents don't take the initiative to contact their children, but that they take the initiative to contact their children, and they are often angry with their children in nine cases out of ten.

Call the children and ask how they are doing recently. She often doesn't answer your phone. Every time I don't answer the phone, I become suspicious and afraid that something will happen to my child. I will think about some messy things, and the result is that I keep calling my children because I am nervous. Then my children got angry and shouted at me. In the end, it broke up in discord, and neither of them was happy.

Or ask the child to answer, and then ask something, busy, what can I say, can I say that I want to chat? Want to know about the baby? You are so beautiful, I can't say two words. My cell phone is turned off and I don't have time to chat with you.

My daughter clearly told me to call me back when she saw something on WeChat. Generally, I don't call, and I don't answer when I call. The daughter also said that if there is something at home, you can call at any time, but you don't have time to chat. Whatever she wants to say to me will naturally be said. If she doesn't want to talk, it's no use asking. Therefore, it is impossible for parents not to contact their children actively.

Can't chat on the phone, he is busy. You can't ask her about her work and life on the phone. Knowing it won't help. What's the use of knowing? Is there anything else you want to call?

Parents know that it is not easy for children to work hard outside, and their children are under great pressure in life and work, so they will not call their children easily. I really miss you. I took the initiative to call and want to talk to you. Don't have a phone when you ask for money. There is no sound at other times.

What can parents expect? I hope you are safe, happy and healthy. What I want to say is, son, when you are free, call your parents and tell them that you are safe and gossip. Time flies and your parents will grow old. Your parents may not be able to nag you when you want to make a phone call.

China's parents are mostly reserved and silent, and seldom express their feelings on their own initiative. As children grow older, they will not hug, thank you and love deeply.

Most parents are conscious and sensible. It is good for their children to study without giving consideration to their studies. Housework is afraid of affecting your studies. They go out to college for fear of affecting their classes. Come out to work, afraid of affecting work. They think a lot before they call.

That's what my parents do. Like most parents in China, they are pragmatic and hardworking, and they support their children to go to school. Like many parents, they almost never contact me. From going out to college to work, they usually contact me. I made 90% of the calls. For a while, I might be so busy that I forgot to call home that they would only call once. It always starts with "Aren't you in class?"

When mom rambles, she will reveal more information, such as "Your father won't let me talk", "I wanted to call you two days ago, and we were afraid you were busy", "Your father thinks I talk too much" and "It's no use talking to you". Until now, my parents still didn't take the initiative to call me, so I specially set a reminder to call home.

Most parents don't express their love, do more and say less. Children only feel that their parents are getting stricter and farther away from their parents, and the parent-child relationship will become more and more tense, especially in adolescence, and communication will even fail completely.

From now on, learn to be an expressive parent, and parents learn how to communicate and express their love, in order to harvest a loving child.

Such a warm and loving family will make children afraid to call home and parents afraid to take the initiative to contact.

I have three children, a son and two women. The two children have formal jobs and freelance jobs. All three people are married and make a living by themselves. The eldest daughter and son-in-law make aluminum alloy doors and windows in Zhengzhou, and they are self-employed. Because my niece has been with us for more than two years, and now her parents have taken it from other places. Maybe because of my niece, we have a video call every three days, and both of us know each other very well. It turns out that when my niece followed us to kindergarten here, my eldest daughter would take the initiative to chat with us on WeChat video every three days, nominally wanting to talk to us, but actually thinking about her niece.

Now that my niece has gone to Zhengzhou, she naturally has less contact. If she is all right, she will never contact us unless she misses us. Although the time is short, I can see my niece in the video after all. I haven't seen my child for half a year, and I really miss her. After all, she stayed with us for more than two years and said she didn't want her. That's a fake!

The second daughter works in other places. Every week, she goes home and often meets and chats. She never misses us. Every holiday, she will call us voluntarily. She will remember our old couple's birthdays clearly, and she will call us every year on Father's Day and Mother's Day. If we encounter any problems, we will contact her.

At least once or twice a week, we all know her work well. I remember once I asked her something, and she didn't even answer a few calls. Now I'm in a hurry, so I let my lover call her several times until I get in touch with her. It is said that father and daughter are connected, and I have a deep understanding from this matter.

I am always worried that my daughter will suffer or have something in the field alone. Therefore, everything about children will always worry parents. And all parents seldom care about their children. In this regard, I think daughters are much better than sons. No wonder some people say that daughters are parents' intimate little cotton-padded jackets. It seems that my daughter can still think of us and care about her parents when she is old. The difference between a son and a daughter is too great.

My son is also out of town.

At work, but we old couple never call him when we are free. Even his mother has such a bad temper, but she never dares to lose her temper with her son and daughter-in-law. She always looks at their faces and obeys them. Even if you talk to them, they don't care about you. Every time I cook a meal for them to eat, I still can't reach their appetite, either because I hate the East or because I hate the West.

Once we didn't eat, twice we didn't eat, and finally the four of us went our separate ways and ate our own food. Maybe young people have different tastes from us, and they always can't eat together. So let them go. They can do whatever they want, and we won't bother them and try to satisfy them!

The wife has a bad temper, but she has no temper in front of her son. Even what she says should be careful, for fear of saying something wrong and making the young couple angry. So it's really hard to be an old man! Just call my son and ask him how he is recently. He will be very angry and ask you.

Yesterday, what happened? I either hung up the phone in a few words, or I began to miss you in less than two sentences. Anyway, anyway, it's all the old man's fault, and we ignore it. He has paid little attention to us since he went to work. We have been working for several years now, and we don't even know his monthly salary, nor have we seen him a penny. Everyone said, "Flower magpie has a long tail, but when she marries her daughter-in-law, she forgets her mother. In my opinion, this proverb is very reasonable.

In fact, as parents, we all know that it is not easy for children to work outside the home, and we also know that children's lives are under great pressure, so we will not call their children easily. Anyone who takes the initiative to call them is either because of something, or because he misses them and wants to chat with his son. I want to see my grandson. I haven't seen him for days. I really miss him. I want to see my little grandson. Have you gained weight? Have you grown taller? I want to see him. Listen to his voice. So we can rest assured!

What can parents expect from their children? I hope they can be safe, happy, healthy and happy! Small families can live a prosperous life, young couples can live in harmony, and grandchildren can be healthy and lively and grow up quickly. Other than that, there is nothing else. But I also want to tell the children. When you are not busy, if possible, give us a call to say that you are safe, so as not to make us worry about your family.

Time flies, time flies. I remember a teenager riding a bamboo horse, and suddenly he was a Chinese Pulsatilla. It's only 36 thousand days of music, and in an instant we're as white as snow and old! I wonder how much longer I can stay with the children. More than twenty years, at least ten years! I wonder if I can grow up healthily with my grandchildren? May your family be happy, may your grandchildren grow up happily and make great achievements, and may God bless our family, with talented people, peaceful and prosperous generations, which will remain unchanged for a hundred years!

I stopped contacting my son after he got married last year. The reason for this is the following：

1. I have worked hard for my son for most of my life. Although I didn't make him rich, I tried my best to get him married and start a family. Like a climber who climbed to the top of the mountain, he was out of breath. I want to have a rest and catch my breath.

Second, after the son gets married, the living space is no longer his own, and he has a daughter-in-law. Young people have their own way of life. Parents are always reluctant to let go or care about everything as before. I don't think it's necessary. If you are tired, you may even get bored with the young couple.

Third, people don't really give up if they don't take the initiative to contact them. People only pay attention to superficial phenomena. Just like me, even if I don't take the initiative to contact him, I have to watch WeChat several times a day to see how many steps my son takes every day and whether he is tired at work. Parents' home is always their home, just wait for their call and do your best to help. As long as they live a safe and happy life, it is our greatest wish.

So, don't worry about parents not contacting their children actively. Parents' hearts for their children can be learned from heaven and earth!

My daughter 14 years old left home to study, and she always contacted us actively. Sometimes my husband wants to contact me, just hold him down and wait for her to contact me.

Sometimes my daughter wants us to contact her. I remember one time I accidentally answered a phone call. My daughter said she was very excited to answer the phone, only to find that there was no response. ...

I explained to my daughter: our life is very regular, and we hope your life is rich and colorful. We contacted you for fear of affecting your life. We have nothing to be afraid of disturbing. We can contact you after work. Not taking the initiative doesn't mean we don't care.

My daughter has been away from home for ten years, and she usually contacts every Saturday. If there are special circumstances, my daughter will inform us in advance so as not to worry us.

At the beginning, my daughter envied those classmates who had to contact every day. I told her: this is not my mother's style, otherwise you wouldn't be so independent; If I change my style and call you every day, maybe you will be bored!

Later, when I went abroad, my roommate's mother fell in love with serial phones. In contrast, she still likes our way and gives her freedom in life.

When children grow up and leave home, we should keep our concern in mind, exercise their spiritual independence and prepare for their independent life in the future.

Mom, I never take the initiative to contact my child and let him work with peace of mind. As long as I do a good job in my small family and take good care of my daughter-in-law, I can be husband and wife for life. His parents gave him life, and I could only walk with him halfway.

I don't want to burden him. The children are under a lot of pressure now, and they have to raise children and pay off their mortgage. Every time I see them working overtime, I feel distressed. I can't help them!

I can solve the problem myself. For so many years, I have been used to facing everything alone. I said to myself, I can do everything well, and their health and safety is my happiness!

I just never take the initiative to contact my children for two main reasons. The first reason is that I am afraid that my daughter will ask me for money. The second reason is the generation gap. She always hates my wordiness, and sometimes it suffocates me. Later, I simply stopped contacting her, and she called me.

Let's talk about the first reason first. Today's children have never suffered since childhood, do not know how to be frugal, and spend money like water. They didn't earn enough money for themselves. Maybe I was used to giving her money when I was at school, or maybe I was too used to her when she was a child. Every time I call her, she asks me for money. I taught her not to spend money indiscriminately, but she said that you make money just to spend it. You didn't spend it so that I could help you. Are you angry?

Every time I call her, I am afraid that she will ask for money, because it is not easy for me to make money. I don't care about your children. She doesn't know how to save money like our generation. She spends a penny. I don't save money for her. I want to save some dowry for her when she gets married and save some money for her old age. It is also to reduce her burden, but she doesn't understand.

Besides, the second reason is that parents love to educate their children. Every time I call her, I can't help telling her the truth of being a man and frugality. But she just doesn't want to hear it. As soon as I say it, she gets annoyed. Sometimes she just talks to me or hangs up on me. Later, I was too lazy to call her.

In fact, there is a reason why parents never contact their children actively, such as mine, but this does not affect my love for my daughter at all. Mother always loves her children, but now I keep this love in my heart, so that I don't feel distressed when I call her for money, and she doesn't think I'm bored. That's all right. When she misses me, calling me won't be boring.