Retired elder sister's sober speech: put the rest of your life on yourself and don't care too much about others.

Many old people have selfless ideas and are willing to give everything for their families, partners and children.

Moreover, on top of this, there are many people who are quite enthusiastic and always can't help but want to care about everything around them. They are very compassionate and have a sense of social responsibility, and their sexual desire far exceeds their personality.

But to be honest, in today's society, if everyone can handle their own affairs well and take care of themselves first, they will already be very responsible and excellent.

The more you manage others, the more likely you are to manage many troubles and disputes! Even if the object is a child.

A retired elder sister's sober speech: "put the rest of your life on yourself and don't care too much about others!" " "

After listening, I think the old people will have some different ideas.

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Hello, everyone, my surname is Wan, and I am 54 years old. In the four years after retirement, I arranged my life in an orderly way, lived a colorful and happy life. I don't live around the stove, my husband and my children and grandchildren, so I am more comfortable and carefree.

Some old sisters around me always learn from me, because they are angry every day for housework, for their wives and children, and always feel that they have kidnapped them in their later years and can't find anything that can make them comfortable and happy!

It's not really a matter of experience. I just want to tell you one thing: at this age, I suggest that women must live well before taking care of their partners.

If you have time, energy and capital, help the children again. Don't get the ranking order in your mind wrong.

But as far as my life is concerned, those unhappy old sisters who have a very hard life after retirement are completely in the wrong order and the focus is reversed.

They always put the affairs of their partners and children before their own, and they are too sacrificed and dedicated. As a result, they become an old maid at home, not a hostess.

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Of course, if you want to have some voice and family status in front of your children when you are older, you must try to keep your own independent skills and ways of making money when you are young.

Whether you go to work or not, you must have the ability to make money; You have your own capital under the name, which is enough to ensure that you can survive independently at any time.

At any time, this society is "the economic base determines the superstructure". No matter how virtuous and capable you are at home, it is difficult for a woman who is not self-reliant to gain the respect of others, including your husband and children, as well as her relatives, friends and acquaintances.

If you have to ask your husband for a penny of living expenses, then you have the obligation and responsibility to polish your home. If these are not done well, what do you use to prove your normal existence in the family?

In that case, even if you are tired to death in your later years, your family may just enjoy your contribution as a matter of course and abandon and be dissatisfied.

Because of this, countless elderly women are infinitely involved in housework and family disputes. It is natural to worry about the quality of life in old age, and the most terrible thing is that there is no possibility of getting rid of it.

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There is another situation that I have seen through, but many old sisters still don't seem to understand the truth, so I want to remind them in good faith now.

So far, I have heard many female friends of the same age always say this when chatting with me: "I really broke my heart for my children, and the result is thankless."

The better you treat them, the more ungrateful they are. Treating me as an enemy makes me feel chilling. "

To be honest, most women are full of maternal love and can't let go of their children. They can't help worrying about their children, even if the other person is an adult, married and has their own marriage and family.

But in the end, I will be ignored, and many disputes and contradictions will come out because I am too lenient, and even affect the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the marriage of children, which is simply not worth the candle.

Smart women don't base their happiness on others. They know that living well is the most important thing.

The child's life will take care of itself. When they are old, choosing to let go is much more worry-free, labor-saving and useful than always worrying about intervention. This must be remembered.

Conclusion:

Many women sum up their later life with such a comment: "I am a person, born to worry about life!" " "

It means hard life and hard work.

In fact, you don't have to worry about anything, just because you can't help worrying about something, it will become like this.

In this world, the most important thing is to live for yourself, followed by family, partners and children. ...

Any relationship related to love words is mutual, not unilateral, which I suggest all women not to forget at any time.

It is true that you should be kind to people you think are important, but the other person also needs to give back the same feelings and behaviors, and this kind of feelings can only be established.

And everything that can give you extra points and increase your charm and value is at least based on your concern for your dignity and importance.

If you only serve the public with the idea of dedication and sacrifice, without mentioning any demands and rights, what is the difference between you and those kiln slaves who were arrested by unscrupulous rich people and enslaved in black coal mines for life?

Tired to death, the other party will not respect and care about them, because the two sides do not have any right to equal dialogue!

Women want to live more comfortably in their later years. Please remember to take care of yourself before talking about others. This is not selfish, but a kind of consciousness!

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