My son said, "I hate menstruation coming to my house": What kind of experience is it to have an ugly relative?

China people attach great importance to family, and they always attach importance to blood relationship. They think that the more people there are, the more prosperous the family will be. However, there are often many things and contradictions in crowded places, which are easy to create barriers and are not conducive to children's growth.

I saw a treasure mom complaining that the little sister-in-law's family of three came to play at home on weekends. As a result, her son clamored for them not to come into the house, and said that she hated her aunt's family coming to her house. Mother-in-law's face suddenly changed when she heard this. How does Ma Bao educate her children? Why do you want to sow discord? The husband echoed, accusing Ma Bao of not educating children and looking down on his family.

Ma Bao was angry, but she didn't lose her temper. Instead, he patiently asked his son why he didn't welcome his aunt's family, and then his son said the reason. It turns out that he hates it when his aunt brings her children and gives toys to his younger brother every time. Last time, his brother broke his favorite toy. That's not all. Every time menstruation's family comes, my mother is busy serving a large family, and no one gives a hand from eating to washing dishes. Menstruation's family is gone, and they even want to eat and take things. Grandma not only didn't stop them, but also tried to pack things for them and even stuffed red envelopes for her brother. Mom and dad had a few quarrels about it.

When I saw Ma Bao's spit, I found that everyone felt the same way. Who doesn't have a nasty relative yet? My best friend's sister-in-law gives her a headache. Because she is married to a foreigner, it is inconvenient for her parents to come and take care of her. Her husband often travels, and she naturally lives in a girlfriend's house when she is pregnant.

My best friend cooks for a large family every day, and specially prepares good meals for pregnant women for my sister-in-law. When she comes back from the birth check-up, she will do whatever she needs. Mother-in-law is only responsible for picking up her best friend's children, and does nothing at home. At other times, she is preparing for her sister-in-law and the baby in her belly. She will make a quilt, sew a pair of little shoes and give her money to buy vitamins and calcium tablets every once in a while, but she can ask her best friend when to spend money.

My best friend is very scared now. She is worried that her sister-in-law will not be watched after giving birth and will continue to stay at home. I knew it would be better to buy a small house for her to come over and have no place to sleep. But I know that even if my best friend's house is really a small house, my sister-in-law will come back to eat, drink and live, because the root cause is not the house, but this person!

After reading the comment area, many netizens felt the same way and wrote their own stories:

"We don't live in our hometown, and my sister-in-law lives in our room. When we go back to our hometown for the Spring Festival, we will turn the car over and want to see what we haven't taken off for our mother, of course, what her mother gave us. Once, my mother-in-law packed different kinds of peanuts (one plastic bag for each family, slightly different in size), and people insisted. Finally, I was so angry that I threw the peanuts to her. After that, we deleted each other's contact information and haven't contacted each other for several years. During the Chinese New Year, we always told our mother-in-law in advance when we would go back, and we never met. I thought when she was at school, I bought her clothes and gave her living expenses. When she got married, I gave her a bride price of 6000 yuan, but my salary was only in the early 2000 s, and people have never been to my house since marriage. Well, when the child has no aunt! "

"My aunt went back to her family like her ancestors, especially when we first got married. She will act like an elder sister-in-law, and I will let her remember it once. I think this is what I should do in my husband's family, and it is also powerful. After all, they are mother and daughter, and my mother-in-law can't be in a trench with me. Up to now, I can't wait to give my daughter all the food at home. "

"My two grandmothers and my husband and I are both working in the city, and we don't go to our hometown in the countryside, but our beds are used by grandmothers when we are away. I found it several times and told my husband that I was very concerned and asked her to talk about my sister-in-law, but my mother-in-law directly said that sleeping at home was important. Since then, I have never spent the night there, and I have gone there less. I basically left after dinner. "

"Every time my aunt comes, she will set off war at home. My mother-in-law and husband are on her side, talking about me, especially my parenting style. They always thought there was something wrong with my adopted son, so we often quarreled. Of course, I won't get used to them, so I will talk back. "

Whether it is a sister-in-law or a sister-in-law, the status of women is actually quite embarrassing. They are excluded by their in-laws, and they have to worry about all kinds of relationships when they return to their parents' homes. How big is their inner shadow area.

In fact, if everyone can follow a rule, the relationship between relatives will be much more harmonious. It is also reasonable to strive to be a hostess in her husband's family and return to her family as a guest. Some people don't have a sister-in-law in their husband's family, and they want to be the treasure of the whole family when they return home, but it is often unrealistic.

I am also a sister-in-law. I often bring gifts to my sister-in-law and niece and never go home empty-handed. During the Chinese New Year, I felt sorry for my sister-in-law's tiredness and said that I would go out for dinner, but my sister-in-law and niece cooked a table at home to entertain me. I am very grateful and will be more kind to them in the future.

I wonder what my sister-in-law thinks of me. Anyway, I try not to touch her things before and after marriage. If you go back to live for a long time after marriage, you will be given living expenses. I don't want my sister-in-law or my parents to feel uncomfortable after I leave. The traditional culture in China is that after a daughter gets married, she becomes an outsider and a guest, so many behaviors of returning to her parents' home are not taken for granted. If everyone can understand this, there may not be so many contradictions.

But then again, it is fundamental that parents are not eccentric, but another key figure is his husband. If he can adjust the relationship between his wife and other family members, this family will only become happier and happier, right?

Today's topic: Do you not consider yourself a relative of an outsider? What wonderful behaviors do they have? Welcome to share!