Stories that encourage unsociable children.

Generally speaking, unsociable children can be divided into two categories: one is taciturn, withdrawn and afraid of strangers; The other is crying, making noise, bluffing and making noise. To cultivate children's social skills, parents should first set an example and create a good family environment for their children. This is mainly manifested in the harmonious coexistence of the whole family. Adults care about children and children care about their elders. It is forbidden to take children as the center and turn around children everywhere, so that children are above their parents. At the same time, parents should also respect their children, avoid scolding and beating at will, and let them form a gregarious character in a family atmosphere of mutual respect and love. Parents should also let their children take part in more group activities. Living in a peer group since childhood, children will gradually learn how to live, get along and play. Many parents are afraid that their children will suffer in collective life, so they ask their children to take care of themselves and not to associate with other children. On the surface, it seems to be loving children. In fact, preventing children from getting exercise in collective life will inevitably affect their healthy growth. Parents should educate noisy children to be bravado: if you go on like this, no children will play with you and the teacher won't like you. In kindergarten, teachers should make use of children's herd mentality, let him see that the whole class is United and disciplined, do not welcome trouble and bravado, and children will gradually assimilate into the group. In the psychological consultation clinic, psychologists often instruct their parents to (1) strengthen the behavior of accepting invitations. Children who are unsociable like to be alone and often don't like to accept invitations from other children. If parents find that their children occasionally accept the invitation of individual children, even if they are reluctant, they should encourage them in time. If you find that your child has accepted the invitation of other children and expressed willingness to participate, you should praise them and urge them to participate. (2) Strengthen the behavior of inviting others. Parents should encourage their children to welcome children who take the initiative to play, and provide them with places to play and toys they are interested in. They should also persistently and enthusiastically encourage their children to play with them. In short, it is not a one-off event for children to become gregarious, and they should not be eager to achieve success. After a period of hard work, you can cultivate your child into a person who is good at cooperating with others and can adapt to society.

What should I do in the face of unsociable children?

What does it mean that children don't fit in? For people, regardless of age, they all have their own interpersonal relationships. For kindergarten children, these interpersonal relationships can develop and grow well, which is an important period for many children to build their design ability!

Children don't fit in. You should have seen such a scene in many TV dramas. Those dudes and princesses always give people an unsociable environment when they go to kindergarten or school ... and it is very common for children to be unsociable in society! Those children who run into the big alley will grow up better than the little princess and the little gentlemen!

Some parents sent their children to kindergarten, and the children immediately began to cry! The reason is actually that under the influence of the usual living environment, their unsociable performance in the new environment is more obvious. Such children seem to be unhappy every day, have no friends, don't want to go to kindergarten, and cry for a week and a month ... At this time, there are serious obstacles to their social interaction ... What should parents do if children don't like to socialize? Before solving this problem, let's first understand the reasons why children don't fit in!

What are the reasons why children don't fit in?

1, children who are overprotected by their parents

Parents are too protective of their children and too picky about all their partners and things around them! Causes children and children to be unsociable! In fact, it is a critical period for children to make friends, and it is to build their own social skills. Parents' seemingly perfect practices will naturally become arrogant under the long-term influence, and over time, many people will ignore them.

1, create opportunities for children to communicate.

Children with introspective personality are often harmful and silent when facing strangers or unfamiliar environments. Such a child is neglected by many people, so he doesn't fit in. Parents can greet their children at home and practice, such as good morning. Mom and Dad have worked hard. After normal times, parents should communicate with their children more, take them to play and climb mountains. Get in touch with the outside world and people as much as possible, and slowly let the children forget their fears and not contact strangers.

2. Read picture books about friends with your children.

Reading picture books is the most direct parent-child communication between parents and children. Reading picture books together can help children learn some skills of making friends. After the story is finished, they can talk to their children about the plot in the story and ask them what they think of it, what you would do, and so on.

Step 3 play games with children

Some children strengthen other people's toys because they are strong. Such a strong child is isolated and unsociable because he is impolite! For this kind of outrageous behavior, parents can educate their children to accept the rules through virtual games, such as playing alone for a while, waiting for you to play while I am playing, finding other toys and so on. These games, which seem not to be games, can subtly educate powerful children.

4. Teach children to be helpful.

Parents encourage their children to help others, which will make them feel their sense of existence and stimulate their concern for their partners and sympathy for others. For example, parents can show weakness around their children and let them take the initiative to help you. Parents must ask for permission before asking for help.

(3) stories of mothers encouraging their children.

A mother and a parent-teacher meeting attended the parent-teacher meeting for the first time. The kindergarten teacher said, "Your son has ADHD and can't sit on the bench for three minutes. You'd better take him to the hospital. " On the way home, the son asked her what the teacher said. Her nose hurts, and she almost cried. Because of the 30 children in the class, only he performed worst: only the teacher showed disdain for him. However, she told her son. "The teacher praised you and said that the baby couldn't sit on the bench for a minute. You can sit for three minutes now. Other mothers are envious of their mothers, thinking that only the baby has improved in the class. That night, her son ate two bowls of rice for the first time and didn't let her feed him. My son is in primary school. At the parent-teacher meeting, the teacher said, "There are 50 students in the class, and your son got the 49th place in the math exam. We suspect that he is a little mentally retarded. You'd better take him to the hospital for examination. "On the way back, she shed tears. However, when she got home, she said to her son sitting at the table, "The teacher is full of confidence in you. He said you weren't a stupid kid. As long as you put your heart into it, you will surpass your deskmate. This time, your deskmate ranked 2 1. " When she said this, she found her son's dim eyes suddenly filled with light, and his depressed face suddenly stretched out. She even found that her son was so docile that she was surprised, as if he had grown up a lot. When I went to school the next day, I went earlier than usual. The child went to junior high school and held another parent-teacher meeting. She sat in her son's seat, waiting for the teacher to call his name, because at every parent-teacher meeting, her son's name was always called to the ranks of poor students. However, this time it was beyond her expectation, and I didn't hear it until the end. She is not used to it. When she left, she asked the teacher. The teacher told her, "According to your son's current grades, it is a bit dangerous to enter a key high school." She walked out of the school gate happily and found her son waiting for her. On the way, she touched her son's shoulder and felt an indescribable sweetness in her heart. She told her son, "The class teacher is very satisfied with you. He said that as long as you work hard, you will hopefully be admitted to a key high school. "Graduated from high school; On the day when the first batch of university admission notices were issued, the school asked her son to go to school. She had a hunch that her son was admitted to Tsinghua, because when she applied, she told her son that she believed he could be admitted to this school. When her son came back from school, he handed her an express mail with the seal of Tsinghua University Admissions Office. Suddenly, he turned and ran into his room and burst into tears. While crying, she said, "Mom, I always knew that I was not a clever child, but you ..." At this time, she was mixed with sadness and joy, and could no longer restrain the tear that had been condensed in her heart for more than ten years, so that it hit the envelope in her hand.

(4) Children are unsociable, have no freshness to things, and are highly dependent. What should I do?

Hello friend: I understand your anxiety. It is normal that children are young and have established a dependency relationship with you. Going to school now, facing the new environment and new people, will definitely not adapt. This is not the loneliness and psychological problems you mentioned, but the adaptation disorder. I advise my mother not to be too anxious, to be calm, to master scientific methods, and to let her children adapt to the new environment slowly.

⑤ How to guide unsociable children?

I * * * love: Your child likes to be alone, and doesn't like to play with other children, which makes you very worried. You are worried that you are too introverted and that you will not get along well with others in the future. Is that so?

Second, concretization: Can you specifically talk about some manifestations of children's loneliness?

Third, explore the reasons, specific analysis:

A whether parents also have introverted personality. Some of them may be inherited or learned from parents.

Solution: First, parents change their words and deeds. The second is acceptance. Children who don't fit in can survive in society. There are many examples of adults around.

The child has no confidence. Maybe it's figure, maybe it's achievement, maybe it's ability and so on. , making children at a disadvantage in the group.

Solution: Cultivate children's self-confidence, no matter what it is, let children do what others can't do and show it in the group.

C children have been hit and hurt in the group.

Solution: parents communicate with their children to find out the cause of the problem. The process of communication requires parents to have considerable sincerity, patience and acceptance, and children will tell their parents the truth.

6 children don't fit in.

First of all, you should know what children like and need at this age. We should not restrain children according to the logic and reality of adults. We should affirm and protect children's imagination and creativity and encourage them to have their own views on the world. If your child has shown signs of being unsociable, you should let him break through the psychological defense line, spend more time with him, know more children of the same age and tell him more stories suitable for his age. Through constant contact and encouragement, let children gradually return to their own world.

For all parents who want their children to succeed, we hope that you will pay attention to the development of their emotional intelligence while cultivating their scientific knowledge. Some scientific knowledge can be improved by making up the day after tomorrow, but once a child's emotional intelligence is defective, it is difficult to cultivate it. We hope that parents can realize the potential danger of unsociable children and guide them firmly and correctly to return to the childlike world.

⑦ Children are grumpy and unsociable.

1. It is necessary to give children a good family atmosphere. The whole family should live in harmony and try not to quarrel in front of the children to avoid bringing a shadow to their psychology. 2. Respect the children's personality and rights, and don't do everything instead. To cultivate children's self-care ability, don't cultivate children's self-centered mentality. Give children more opportunities to solve problems alone and cultivate their self-confidence. 3. Let the children associate with strangers as much as possible, let them contact with strange environments and strangers, help him analyze and solve problems encountered in the process of interacting with others, and let him make friends and develop friendship through his own efforts.