How should sex education be carried out?

Data provided by the Supreme People's Procuratorate show that the total number of minors who have been violated in the past three years has exceeded 40,000, with an average of 36 cases per day. This data does not include those who have not been discovered and those who have not been reported.

Next, let me talk about my views on sex education.

I think back when we were in school, it seemed like we only had one physical hygiene class in high school, and it was separate for boys and girls. The teacher very mysteriously hung a popular science chart (female version) on the blackboard and asked us to study by ourselves, and then nothing happened.

This is all the sex education I received in school.

Our family is relatively conservative, but I received sex education relatively early. My sex education came from my grandmother.

When I was in the fourth or fifth grade of elementary school, my grandmother told me privately: A woman’s belt is very precious and must not be taken off easily. The place to urinate should not be touched by others.

I was confused at that time as to why the waistband was so precious. At that time, almost all of our trousers had no waistbands, only elastic bands. As for the second half of the sentence, I didn’t understand it even more. If I didn’t understand, I would ask. I said: Why can’t you touch it?

I will never forget the look of disgust and disgust on my grandma’s face. She said: Because it’s dirty. Don't ask again, just remember.

This caused a huge psychological shadow on me. For a long time, I felt inferior to my body.

But now that I think about it, I am very grateful to my grandma. This is a conservative and old-fashioned old lady. With her instinctive love for her children, she breaks through her own limits and provides a simple and crude sex education to her grandchildren. .

Maybe it was because of this early education that I felt that sex was a dirty and disgusting thing. It is precisely this kind of inheritance from generation to generation that makes most Chinese people still feel that sex education is something that is not on the stage.

I originally thought that it was already 2020 and this situation would definitely improve. However, I was wrong. There are still quite a few parents who are still stuck in the era of "women cannot unbutton their belts" and "this kind of thing is too dirty, how can you tell your children?"

The more conservative parents are and the more they oppose the school’s sex education for their children, the less likely they are to scientifically and objectively educate their children about sex.

They either simply keep silent and let their children act like illiterate people who don’t know how to protect themselves even if they are in danger.

For example, a Zhihu netizen’s message is very distressing to read.

Or, like my grandmother, while teaching children to protect themselves, they pass it on to the next generation along with their disgust for the female body. As a result, many children who have been violated not only suffer physical injuries, but also suffer more serious psychological trauma.

In addition, 99% of conservative parents will not provide sex education to boys, because in their minds, their sons will not suffer, and if they suffer, it is not considered a disadvantage. The only sex education for them is to ask their children to pour water when the kissing scene is shown on TV. So much so that the baby has some subtle misunderstanding: As long as someone kisses her, her parents will become thirsty...

Children are very curious. The more mysterious something is, the more things are not told to them, the more they try to find out the answer. If you really explain it clearly to them, they won't worry about it anymore.

(Curiosity is something engraved in human genes, otherwise Adam and Eve would not have to eat apples)

A friend of mine is very fond of children, and her daughter is extraordinary. Whatever interests her, she immediately buys a bunch of them. When my daughter was little, she loved stickers. She bought several boxes of them, so that for her daughter’s birthday and her sister’s birthday gifts, she couldn’t find anything different from what she had at home. Within a month, the baby was no longer interested in stickers.

Her daughter liked sand painting, and she followed the same example, but her enthusiasm was extinguished again. She laughs at herself as an interest destroyer, because she is too active and makes her children crazy about anything they play for three minutes.

The same goes for sex education. When adults really use a rigorous academic attitude to tell children what gender is and why people get pregnant. The child will no longer be curious.

Parents artificially covering sex education with a "mysterious" veil can only make children more curious.

Modern information is so advanced that if you don’t tell your children, they will know their own way.

As far as I know, boys of our generation mostly learned about sex through short movies, and girls mostly learned about sex through romance novels.

That kind of thing is really crooked.

Speaking of sex education, here is a comparison group: Denmark and Finland (and other Nordic countries). They are the countries with the lowest sex crime rates and the youngest age of sexual intercourse in the world. But their sex education is really early and bold.

For example, their kindergarten supporting textbook "Our Body" unabashedly depicts the various organs of the body, as well as detailed popular science about the pregnancy process.