Methods of educating children

The way to educate children, children are a gift from heaven. Parents should unite with their children to overcome the difficulties, and the education of their children must not be "exciting." In fact, children just want their parents to accompany them. Let me share the ways and means of educating children.

The way to educate children is 1 1. First of all, we must have a tolerant and understanding heart. Preschool children, due to the limitation of cognitive development, often regard other people's homes as their own. They have poor control, just want to have fun and do whatever they want. Children are naturally curious. It is not uncommon to poke, drop and tear toys. Besides, a group of children get together, imitate each other and compete with each other, which is much more naughty than a single child. Nowadays, most children are only children, so there is really too little time to play freely with them. You'll be particularly presumptuous if you get the chance. However, from the perspective of cultivating children's peer communication ability, parents must not let their children invite small guests just because they are choking.

2. Don't talk nonsense. Some parents are embarrassed to say "little guests" directly, so they "kill the chicken to show the monkey" and scold their children for being naughty. Preschool children usually can't hear the implication of their parents, so their self-esteem is greatly damaged and their happiness is gone. The other little guests didn't realize that they were not good.

Don't punish children in public. Children also have self-esteem. Even if children take the lead in being naughty, parents should not punish them in public, and leave some dignity for their children in front of friends. Wait for the little guests to leave, and then reason with the children. The punishment is a fine. Usually, children can listen more to this.

4. Do things right, not people. Don't accuse children of poor quality, tell them, "mom doesn't like you throwing toys around." You have played with them, you must put it away! " It is most helpful for children to know what they can and can't do.

5. Establish norms as soon as possible. Children do much better in kindergarten. Although families are freer than kindergartens, parents should first tell their children about the rules and understand that each family has its own different rules. For example, if you have a carpet at home, you should put on clean shoes as soon as you enter the door. If you live in a building, you can't jump around or anything. This is also an education for one's own children, otherwise one day he will become another's naughty boy.

6. Discuss with children and let them make their own suggestions. Discuss with children, and children will have their own opinions. This will improve children's ability to deal with problems, make them feel respected, and actively help them implement their own suggestions.

7. Take precautions in advance and always pay attention to safety. If there are children at home, put away some dangerous and valuable items, such as thermos bottles, medicine bottles, fruit knives, souvenirs, jewelry and so on. , and fragile items. Turn off the gas. Locked drawers should also be locked. Wipe the floor and under the bed as clean as possible. Experts pointed out that it is necessary to remind everyone not to leave children at home, even for a short time, but also to be responsible for the safety of all children.

The first kind of education for children is strict.

All the rules in the family are made by parents. Children are not allowed to participate in the decision-making process, but they are required to obey the rules absolutely, otherwise they will be punished by their parents. Living in such a family for a long time, children have no freedom, lose the right to choose and are forced to implement the rules formulated by their parents.

The second is arrogance.

Parents don't make any rules for their children, don't give them any restrictions, and completely let their children choose. The children raised by such a family are selfish, reckless and have no rules at all.

Third, positive discipline.

Family rules are made jointly by parents and children. When problems arise, parents and children discuss solutions that are beneficial to both sides. When parents need to make their own judgments, they will give their children enough respect and maintain their dignity with a firm and kind attitude. Children who are actively disciplined know the necessary rules and know what to do and what not to do.

By comparison, we find that children prefer to be respected by their parents, and the parent-child relationship based on mutual respect and shared responsibility is far more effective than arbitrary control.

I believe that every family's children have just entered primary school. For this matter, there will be completely different results because of the different upbringing methods.

In a strict family, only the mother knows what to do well and the children have no choice. Since my little nephew went to primary school, he has done his homework until 90 pm every day, and he has little time on weekends. There is even less time to go home to see grandparents, because his mother doesn't allow it, so the little nephew dare not have any opinions. Before, the child was dissatisfied with his mother's practice, but every time he was preached by his mother in the name of good. At the worst time, because preaching didn't work, I began to beat and scold my children. From then on, the little nephew never dared not listen to his mother again. He does what his mother says, and he won't do what his mother doesn't let him do, right or wrong. Even if I feel wronged, I still do as my mother asks.

In a spoiled family, parents' love for their children is unprincipled. Other children can finish their homework, and their own children are slow to write their homework because they don't listen carefully in class. They also complain that teachers assign too much homework for children to finish. They have no time to play, so they spend their time on homework every day. Such parents often say the teacher's fault unscrupulously in front of their children, which makes the children have resistance to the teacher and becomes the reason for not studying hard.

In a family with positive discipline, parents are more rational, and even if their children are very young, they are trained to be relatively self-disciplined early. When children are playful and don't want to do their homework, parents will let them choose whether to play for ten minutes before doing their homework or finish it, and their mothers will play with them. In this way, children will make their own choices and be responsible for their own choices.

Therefore, parents' parenting style is very important, and the correct parenting style will benefit children for life. We can neither control children too much nor indulge them unprincipled, which is not conducive to cultivating children's independence and sense of responsibility. We should know how to keep a good proper limit, which is the best education for children.

Ways to educate children 3

1. Give children time to play casually.

Thomas and Armstrong, American children education scholars, pointed out that free play is more beneficial to the health of preschool children than planned activities. Parents should avoid filling their children's time with various activities. All children need some free and casual play time.

2. Teach him to care about others.

Happy children need to feel that they have some meaningful connections with others and understand what he means to others. To cultivate this feeling, you can help your child to get in touch with others more. You can sort out some old toys with your child and donate them to charity with him to help homeless children. Children can also be encouraged to participate in some volunteer activities at school. Experts point out that even at a very young age, you can get happiness from helping others. And form the habit of helping others.

3. Encourage him to do more exercise.

Playing ball games, cycling, swimming with your child ... Doing more exercise can not only exercise your child's physical fitness, but also make him more cheerful. Maintaining a vibrant life can moderately relieve children's stress and emotions, make children like themselves, have a more positive body image, and find fun and a sense of accomplishment from sports.

4. laugh often

Telling jokes, making up some funny songs and laughing with children are good for you and your children. Just laughing is good exercise.

5. Creative compliments

When children behave well, don't just say yes. Be specific, tell the details, and point out the places that are impressive or better than last time. For example, it is really polite for you to say good morning to the doorman's uncle today. However, we should also pay attention to praise and not develop children's false expectations. Some parents will reward their children with gifts or money, so that their children can focus on what rewards they can get, rather than doing well. Parents should let their children discover the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment brought by completing a thing, instead of rewarding him with material rewards.

6. Ensure that children eat healthily.

A healthy diet can not only make children healthy, but also make their emotions more stable. Whether it's dinner or snacks, we should try to follow healthy principles, such as low-fat, low-sugar, fresh and balanced diet.

7. Stimulate his inner artistic talent

Although scientists have confirmed that there is no so-called Mozart effect, exposing children to music, art, dance and other activities can still enrich their inner world. Experts have found that when children dance to music or hold a crow with a brush, it is actually a way for children to express their inner world and feelings. Children like painting, dancing or playing music, and they will feel more satisfied with themselves.

8. Hug often

A gentle hug conveys infinite care and is silent. I love you. Studies have found that gentle touching and hugging can make premature babies healthier, more active and more emotionally stable. For adults, hugs can also relieve stress and calm restless emotions.

9. Listen attentively

Nothing can make children feel cared for more than listening attentively. Want to be a better listener? Don't listen with only one ear. When the child is talking to you, try to stop what you are doing and listen to him attentively. Listen to the child patiently. Don't interrupt, hurry to help him express himself or let him finish his words quickly, even if you have heard what he said many times. It is the best time to listen when you accompany your child to school or put him to bed.

10, give up perfectionism

We all expect our children to show their best, but sometimes we are too eager to correct or improve their performance. For example, we hate that they don't clean the table, but simply clean it. Or correct them. They must put things in a certain position. Demanding perfection in everything will weaken children's self-confidence and courage not to be afraid of making mistakes. The next time you can't help but want to get involved and try to help your child do things better, think about it first: Is this related to health or safety? Imagine, after 10 years, is this matter still so serious? If not, let the children do it.

1 1. Teach him to solve the problem.

Every step from learning to tie your shoelaces to crossing the street by yourself is a milestone for children to become more independent. When children find that they have the ability to solve the problems they face, they can bring happiness and a sense of accomplishment to them. When he meets obstacles, such as being laughed at by his playmates, or unable to solve a puzzle, you can take several steps to help him:

(1) Confirm his problem.

(2) Let him describe his solution.

(3) Find out the steps to solve the problem.

(4) Decide to let him solve the problem by himself or provide some help.

(5) Make sure that he can get the help he needs.

12, his stage

Every child has a unique talent, why not give them a chance to show it? If they like telling stories, encourage them to tell you more stories. If he is good at numbers, take him shopping and ask him to help you choose a cheaper one. When you can appreciate your child's talent and show your enthusiasm, your child will naturally be more confident. Children around us need not only a carefree living environment, but also adults to accompany them to experience its growth process.

Every parent wants their children to become talents, so the education method is really important. If you want to make your child better, you must keep it in mind and do the above 12 points. Give children the perfect education method. I believe your children will be the best in the world!