What should my girlfriend do if she always dumps negative emotions?

It can be said that girlfriends talk about everything and will reveal their truest side to each other. She may think that you are the best person for her to talk to, and she always wants to find you when she encounters problems and problems.

First of all, a girlfriend is your affirmation and recognition.

At the same time, I sympathize with you, because absorbing some negative emotions will also bring trouble to yourself, and it will take a long time to get rid of it.

Solution: Considering the friendly relationship between you, it is not good to directly refuse the help of your best friend. You can comfort them first. Everyone will be unhappy and face up to the problem. And recommend her own ways to deal with negative emotions, you can introduce her to some books on this subject, or let her find some other ways to get rid of it.

You are willing to talk to you occasionally, but it's hard to keep dumping negative emotions on you.

So, why is this? What should we do?

From a psychological point of view, it is because you have no sense of boundary in the relationship, no gentle and firm refusal ability, and think that rejecting something is equivalent to rejecting this person, so the relationship will be destroyed.

In fact, every mature person and every mature relationship can truly express their needs, or can really say no, so that the relationship can develop healthily.

Think back, in your own growing experience, what happens whenever you say no?

I know a girl who grew up at home and was not allowed to say no. Whenever she said no, her parents would react violently, so she lost this ability. When she grew up, she became the best object for girlfriends to pour out negative emotions.

Dear, let's say to ourselves gently from the beginning: whenever I don't want to, I can bring it up. This kind of saying is not to refuse others, but to defend yourself.

What should my girlfriend do if she always dumps negative emotions?

Answer: between your best friend and your best friend, that is, between you and her, there are two inseparable people, thinking in one place and working hard in another.

Recently, however, she has been unable to get encouraging words.

For example, if you take the civil service exam this year, you should read some books and study overtime. He just said three things and four things. Why do you want to take the civil service exam? Aren't you fine now? Go to sleep, go to sleep. Pull out the light conveniently!

I said, I shouldn't go to the movies. I have to take the exam in July. But she insisted, and invited me to see a movie and bought a movie ticket!

In such a situation, I will be worried. Perhaps, in the future, it will gradually expand to many businesses. This cannot be underestimated. 1, you can make her open her heart and let her say all the words and negative emotions. You need to listen. 2, there must be the idea of turning your face away from being a girlfriend, and it seems to refute some of her negative energy views. Hit the nail on the head and say what you think is right. It is necessary for you and her to deal with it coldly and put aside some opinions. Go out, travel, travel, outing, outing, shopping, and so on.

Life is the most important issue. In this life, unhappy things will happen to anyone. How to solve and share your troubles, be like your idol. Such as writers, Zhang Ailing and Zhang Meiying. Share their books with her. Let her read their books more.

Since we are best friends, her business is also your business. If you have any difficulties, you must solve any contradictions at home. Nothing can't be solved as long as you give charcoal in the snow!

Only when these jobs are done, the negative emotions of girlfriends will definitely be reduced a lot.

First of all, I got four points from your question.

1. Your best friend values you more and thinks you have a good relationship, so she will talk to you.

You can't stand her constant negative emotions.

This negative emotion has a certain influence on your life or mentality.

Your best friend has a thorny problem in her life, and her living condition is very bad.

First of all, you should realize that your best friend still values your relationship, and so do you. Now you two are willing to fight each other. I think you should have a psychological plan to deal with this matter. If it is not handled well, be prepared for the relationship to break down.

Then, if your best friend continues to vent negative emotions, you should not hesitate to firmly show the impact of negative emotions on you, preferably the impact is visible. And give advice to your best friend to go out to play. If you really encounter any psychological problems, you can seek psychological counseling. You don't want to see her constantly venting negative emotions and hurting yourself, and you can't help it.

Finally, if it doesn't work, stay away from it yourself.

Since it is a close relationship between girlfriends, there is nothing to say. Of course, the trust in you is also full. However, it is not necessarily a good thing that good friends always pour negative emotions on you. Negative emotions are not positive in themselves, and you will not be in a good mood if you instill too much. Therefore, I suggest that you first find out why she is always in a negative mood. If you are lovelorn recently, or encounter something bad, you can spend more time with your best friend, listen to her words, let her relieve her depression, don't be too lonely, get out of the haze as soon as possible, and solve problems when you encounter them. But there is also the habit of dumping negative emotions and complaining to you about trivial things that look unpleasant. This is a problem. Everyone lives in society, and many people and things happen every day, and to some extent there will be some disappointments. These trivial things need to be solved by yourself, and life is short. Why haggle over every ounce? Talking to your best friend will only increase your pain, and neither of you is happy. This is my suggestion, thank you! !

What kind of people we get along with is a very important issue in our daily life. Because people of various personalities are intertwined to form a subtle influence! Whether in life or at work, there are always people around us who we don't like or even hate, which affects our mood and emotions.

Your best friend always transmits negative energy, so how do you get along with such people? Or should I stay away? We consider [motivation] from three aspects.

First: each of us is unhappy sometimes. But those people with negative energy are unhappy every day! They want others to be as unhappy as they are. If you find that she is always in sad, angry, jealous, nervous, helpless, sad, independent, opinionated and negative emotions, please take out your eighteen martial arts to help her analyze, let her get out of the haze and treat every day positively!

Second: only if you don't spread negative energy can we play together! Tell your best friend that you must change your positive sunshine attitude. Many times it is impossible, so forget it. Cut off this negative energy relationship and build a circle of positive energy friends who support each other. Don't force yourself and people you don't like to do things you don't like. Make friends with positive and optimistic people, learn their attitude towards life and how to solve problems through a positive attitude!

Third: In life and work, we can learn from others' positive attitude towards life and stay away from negative people. Learn to smile, praise, thank you, be friendly to others, and don't be a negative person's punching bag. You can find a reason to be grateful every day to make yourself full of positive energy. If there are too many negative energies around you, you can try your best to guide them with your enthusiasm and sunshine. Let yourself and the people around you become positive people.

There are two reasons for negative emotions:

1, material dissatisfaction, may be in a bad mood is the lack of funds, lack of expenses to support their face.

2, lack of knowledge, lack of knowledge, when unfair things happen, their own mediation ability is insufficient, there is not enough psychological support, there are not enough ways and means to deal with, can not change the status quo, and gradually turn into complaints, becoming the only way to solve emotions.

Give a suggestion:

1, reading, can't insist at first, start with the books you are interested in, and force yourself to read books every day. This is a way of subjective change.

2, travel, you can travel with your girlfriends, remember that it is a trip, not a tour, the beautiful scenery of the south of the Yangtze River, the lonely smoke of the desert in the northwest, the warmth of the snowy areas in the northeast, the Tibetan civilization in Tibet and so on. This is a passive way to change.

I hope it helps you.

Personally, I think your best friend is caused by psychological factors, and you need to adjust your mentality!

Each of us will have some emotions in our life, but we will be as sad as Daiyu burying flowers. When your best friend realizes that she is in a bad mood, put out this emotional fire, do something to ease her emotions, find someone to talk to, and increase her happy life experience. And advised her to think more happy things and talk more with friends. Change the environment, since some things can't be changed, don't think about it. In this world, many things happen for a reason. This is especially true in interpersonal communication. Of course, we should also improve our self-cultivation, try not to cause trouble to others and keep a proper distance. With such a character, people who really know us will not attack us at will. More than half of many negative emotions in life are caused by interpersonal relationships. So learning to improve your social skills will halve your girlfriend's negative emotions.

Emotional stability is a very important trait of a person. It is the strong and mature backing of each of us, and it is also a bomb shelter for us to cry constantly. Whether your life is positive or negative depends entirely on your mood. Advise your best friend to learn to control and handle!

As a close friend, she regards you as a trustworthy person who can talk to you and show her truest and even most embarrassing side in front of you.

Actually, I don't mind people pouring out negative emotions to me. On the one hand, she will have negative emotions, indicating that her life or feelings have encountered difficulties, even insurmountable difficulties. Many times we feel that our life is not easy, and it is inevitable that we will have negative emotions. However, when we really compare with others, we may find that our so-called difficulties are not worth mentioning at all. We may even find that our life is very happy now. Through this comparison, we may learn to cherish and know how to be content.

On the other hand, when others pour out negative emotions to us, we must need some comfort. When people comfort others, they are the most sober, rational and knowledgeable. In fact, comforting others is also a kind of comfort to yourself who may encounter the same situation. Through this comfort, we can also know the truth and avoid falling into this negative emotion.

Therefore, as long as we look at the problem from a positive perspective, even if the other party always pours out negative emotions to us, it is not a bad thing as long as it is handled properly.

If your friendship is worth continuing, you should try to help her get rid of negative emotions, let her learn to cultivate some hobbies such as cooking, reading, traveling, handicrafts, etc., distract her attention, don't always immerse yourself in your own joys and sorrows, and tell her that the world is big except herself.