The mother-in-law scolds her daughter-in-law for being particularly ugly. What should the daughter-in-law do?

You young people who say grandma is not good, you'd better not have a son. If you have a son, you will be a mother-in-law. How many mothers-in-law are willing to quarrel with your wife? Nothing to look for trouble, some contradictions are trivial things handed down from generation to generation in life. If you don't communicate and talk about it, it will become a family event. Is your mother-in-law sick? Spent hundreds of thousands of dollars to let the daughter-in-law go looking for trouble and let the son divorce and find one. Is it possible? Now, some young people are looking for their own factors. Old people can't cook well. They bought it for tens of dollars. This home is not like home. They never clean. When they go out, they dress like people. The home is not as clean as the bathroom. The old man can look up to such a daughter-in-law. Therefore, old people with sons should stay away from them when they get married. Don't point out that their daughter-in-law can support you Who means who? There are old houses and old friends. [Blink] [Blink] [Blink] [Blink] [Blink]

I am a high-quality talent development. This is a family conflict. The mother-in-law scolded her daughter-in-law to see if she had done anything wrong. If it's a big deal, don't mind.

There are a lot of swearing words, and my mother will also say daughter-in-law, but if she doesn't swear, she will say that ideological work solves problems. A family under the same roof will inevitably encounter problems. Daughter-in-law plays the multiple roles of mother, daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law She has to take care of her in-laws and educate her children according to the size of a housewife.

Life is a stage play, and the road to determine the future is very long, so the daughter-in-law is a very important role player. Never mind your mother-in-law's words, just do it as usual. There is a lot of pressure at home. In addition to supporting the elderly, the education of children also falls on the daughter-in-law. How much time and cost will it take to complete?

Home and everything, harmonious family hope everyone has their own happiness.

No matter who scolds who is ugly, it is a matter of quality. What's more, as an elder, you should set an example and communicate well if you have problems. Daughter-in-law should deal with this situation in silence, let your husband know the situation afterwards, and then solve the problem. Anyway, we need another statement. How else can we get along?

Thank you for your question. Your theme is, what should the daughter-in-law do if her mother-in-law scolds her daughter-in-law very severely?

Endure! Bear calm for a while and take a step forward.

Because I believe that if I endure it any longer, she won't do anything to me. I will try my best to work. She can't scold me alone.

Because I believe I am her daughter-in-law and legally married. As long as I behave properly, let her scold casually. You can call mom and scold me calmly. I am not angry, as long as my mother is happy and comfortable. If you have any grievances, you can cry and I will accompany you.

I think if she is normal, will she scold? Women should weigh the difficulties of being a woman more. I believe that my mother-in-law must have been mentally hurt before, otherwise she would not have scolded her daughter-in-law. When she scolds you like this, she scolds her son, humiliating herself and her son.

As long as your husband understands, your daughter-in-law is not the same as his mother-in-law.

I want to be a wife. If you can do this, it's a breakthrough. !

I'm sure she won't scold you again. People with normal mind and healthy mind will be moved by you.

First, your behavior touched the sky. Second, you touched your mother-in-law's family. You should be the best daughter-in-law in the world.

We should talk about love in this environment, because love can cover up many mistakes.

Maybe I can help you a little after I answer. If there are mistakes, I will accept them and correct them.

Thank you for your concern. I wish you health and happiness forever!

First of all, I think my mother-in-law has gone too far. Even if the daughter-in-law is wrong, she should be gently persuaded. A mother-in-law is kind to her daughter-in-law, and she won't forget it. After all, she needs a daughter-in-law to take care of her when she is old. A clever mother-in-law will take all these into account and treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter. If she scolds her daughter-in-law, it is wrong. Some daughters-in-law will endure silently, while others will make a scene and hurt their feelings.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a thorny topic since ancient times. Many men can't solve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law There are also many couples divorced because of this.

If the mother-in-law scolds her daughter-in-law, it is not the focus of the problem if she does not talk back.

If a daughter-in-law wants to change the fundamental problem, she needs to know what the problem is:

If her mother-in-law often scolds her daughter-in-law, it means that her mother-in-law is the master of this family, but as a husband, she has not changed her identity because of her marriage. She is still the "mother's son". She has not yet completed the transformation from a boy to a man in her inner feelings and cannot enter the role of a husband.

Women remember one thing: if there is a war between two women in the family, it must be the absence of the man in this family.

Why:

Marriage is a matter for two adults, but the two people who actually get married have not become mature because of marriage, and they are still psychologically the same as their children in the past.

Both parents continue to interfere in their children's lives and take their children to do housework, and the right to speak in family dominance is also taken away.

Many men still listen to their mothers after marriage, and their daughters-in-law discuss everything with their mothers like outsiders. This leads to the mother-in-law's high status in the family and can give orders to his wife.

The attitude of mother-in-law towards daughter-in-law largely reflects the position of daughter-in-law in her husband's heart.

Mother-in-law can add harsh words to her daughter-in-law, which fully shows her position in the family.

You have to understand that the problem is not the mother-in-law, but the man around you.

If a man is still a "mother treasure" and listens to his mother in everything, talking back to his mother-in-law will only make your situation worse. That man will not be on your side. It must be his wife who was injured.

How to do it:

The core of a healthy family model must be: husband and wife-children-parents.

Family is like a team, and husband and wife are partners, collaborators and teammates of the team.

If you want a healthy family, both husband and wife must go to Qi Xin, reach a consensus and keep in line with the outside world.

As a woman in the family, you must give full play to your advantages, mobilize your wisdom and successfully pull this man from her mother-in-law to your side.

It makes sense that women are the feng shui of the family.

You should see clearly what your man's state is now.

From the moment you marry this man, it means that you took the baton from your mother-in-law, and this man is yours. What kind of man you tame depends on the woman's ability.

First of all: self-reliance.

It is difficult to be respected if you rely on your husband's family for help everywhere.

When a woman is independent and can see her own value, even if you are a housewife, you can still get the respect of your husband.

Secondly, strengthen the maintenance of the relationship between husband and wife.

If the husband is really a mother-in-law, it will be difficult to change for a while if he listens to her. Women should be prepared for a protracted war.

Hard pulling will only be self-defeating

Since the mother-in-law has a high position in her husband's heart, it is better to do what she likes. Try to have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, and your husband will naturally love you. Then the status of a natural woman will be high, and her husband will naturally listen to her daughter-in-law.

Even if the mother-in-law doesn't like her daughter-in-law, there is no need to please. Just be herself. Taking care of the family, the mother-in-law can't help it. Only women who are not too weak will improve the environment.

Third, it is the responsibility to help her husband.

Women should not complain, and never speak ill of their parents in front of men every day, which will only make their husbands look down on you more and more.

Emphasize the need for men, use women's weakness to stimulate men's desire for protection, and let men come forward to solve contradictions.

Since you are married to your husband, you should choose to trust him. Believe that he is the one who can protect you. I believe he will change for you. Women must learn to solve problems instead of turning themselves into tigresses or disgruntled women.

The more difficult the environment is, the more you have to find ways to change yourself.

Marriage is also a process in which a girl grows up and becomes a woman and mother. Without the love and care of parents, everything has to start again and learn again.

Be patient with yourself and your lover. The family needs to run, and there is no ready-made happiness.

Let's go

Let a mother-in-law scold her daughter-in-law. She is old, and she can scold for a few years. But then again. Daughter-in-law did nothing wrong. My mother-in-law won't scold her out of thin air unless she is crazy. Or Alzheimer's.

Mother-in-law is the elder, so we can ignore it, pretend not to hear it, and think of other ways, but it is the most unwise to go back.

It's great to go back for a while, but what can it bring you? Your daughter-in-law's reputation, your relationship with your mother-in-law is even worse, and your husband is quite dissatisfied with you.

Going back is a soldier's act of killing one thousand enemies and losing eight hundred.

That's how I used to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Marriage was in jeopardy.

Later, I changed the way I handled it.

I began to look for allies, that is, to pull my husband into my camp.

This is difficult, because the old mother who gave birth to him and raised him is standing opposite.

I used my deadly weapon. I said I wanted to go to work. Because I take care of two children by myself, basically I am in charge of the rear and he is in charge of the war ahead. This is the division of labor we discussed before.

Sure enough, the goods began to listen to me carefully.

In fact, many times my mother-in-law has a problem with her thinking.

She will say "what's wrong with us", "what should you do" and "what should other people's daughters-in-law do" ... she will compare them, and then she will lose control of her emotions and scold them.

Later, in retrospect, I really felt that my parents hated iron and gnashed their teeth.

I feel much better when I think about it.

I will laugh when I hear her scold me again, and then I will easily tell her what I think after laughing.

"I'm too lazy to get up so late like a pig."

"Mom, I slept late last night."

Don't sulk, give a reason, whether it is true or not. This is a response.

Not responding for the first time seems to avoid contradictions and disputes, but your backlog of emotions will erupt completely for the last time.

"People say you are really ugly, and you don't know how to dress up. You are ugly, man embryo. "

I can't answer, please take out your husband.

"Mom, she is my wife, and I like her appearance. Don't say that again. Isn't this hitting your son in the face? "

Sure enough, my mother-in-law won't say such things again even if she is not satisfied.

I can cope with my mother-in-law's bad words, but I can't cope with the alliance.

Of course, you can also save the country by curve.

Pushing the child among you and letting the child get the favor of her mother-in-law, naturally I can't bear to accuse my mother of "loving me, loving my dog".

Although there are many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many of them are due to different concepts. Since it is difficult to change others, change yourself.

Start with a gentle thank you, "Mom, you have worked hard". You have seen her efforts, and she won't say a bad word for your thanks again.

What should the daughter-in-law do when her mother-in-law scolds her daughter-in-law? This problem, I think. This is not a case, especially in rural areas. There are quarrels between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law with low educational level, and one is more capable than the other. When I was in the countryside, I often saw my mother-in-law scold me, my daughter-in-law scold me for going back, and the idle people in the village watched.

Mother-in-law has arrived? I don't think I should scold my wife. To be an elder, you should look like an elder. Be reasonable first anyway. When your daughter-in-law comes to live in your house, you should first treat her home as a relative.

In addition, you yourself came from the wife of another child, so think more about each other. Don't be a wife for ten years and forget the beginning. You should know that respect is mutual.

If the mother-in-law just scolds her, what about the daughter-in-law Go back? No, if you go back, you will be as annoying as your mother-in-law. What should you do?

I think, first of all, it is reasonable, that is, trees have roots and words have causes. It is impossible to scold suddenly. If it doesn't make sense, don't forget, there is still the biggest backer, husband.

You can tell your husband what happened and let him judge. Let the husband handle it. I don't think a mother will listen to her son, will she?

If she doesn't listen, she can't live in this life? Usually the problem is solved as soon as the husband comes forward.

Tell two real examples around you.

One is my colleague. His mother and daughter-in-law scold each other, one worse than the other. After the colleague came home, his wife was slapped several times.

One is my cousin, and his mother scolds his wife. The daughter-in-law cried as soon as she finished explaining. When cousin sees the situation, tell his mother to shut up at once, or you can go anywhere. After the usual rest, we will communicate again. As long as you want to live, there is nothing difficult to solve.

Therefore, every family has a difficult experience. However, as long as you put your heart into it, you can still learn. After all, your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law came together because of a man. If you love this man, there is nothing that can't be solved. Right?

There is no perfect family background and no perfect relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Mother-in-law is happy when her son marries a wife. The reason is for her son and for herself.

There are problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is a normal phenomenon between people. The closer people are, the more angry they are once there is a contradiction.

It's not appropriate to scold your daughter-in-law. We don't know whose words and deeds are wrong from the beginning.

As a mother-in-law, I need to think about why my daughter-in-law and I have conflicts, whether we have different ideas and living habits. Daughter-in-law can also think about whether some of her lines or words have been misunderstood by her mother-in-law, or what happened to make her mother-in-law angry.

Instead of being sad or depressed, think about what the problem is.

Then analyze the problem and find ways to deal with it slowly.

There is still a long way to go with my mother-in-law. If you really can't tolerate it, try to be calm at present.

One day, it may be put down naturally.