Being a daughter-in-law can't be clever, even if you are exhausted, your mother-in-law can't see it.

a good daughter-in-law across the hall is famous.

Because the old lady across the hall always tells people around her that she has married a daughter-in-law who is closer than her daughter.

the best friend across the street is famous.

Because after she got married, her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law got along very happily, and she didn't have to do any work at home, and she often listened to her mother-in-law's praise, which made us envious.

this "good wife" and "good friend" are the same person.

Today we will tell her story.

? In fact, to ask, it is not how virtuous and perfect she is. All this is due to her mother-in-law's tolerance and her "cleverness".

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Be sweet, and your mother-in-law should boast more

There is a custom in Xiaoyan's hometown to call her husband's mother "grandma".

Just after the door, the mouth is very sweet, and people often call "grandma" and "grandma" before and after. Who knows that mother is ungrateful, and often keeps a straight face, as if Xiaoyan had made any mistake.

Only after I got to know the people around me did I know what my mother-in-law really thought: "She is drawing a line with me. In her eyes, I am a' woman', not a' mother' at all. Hey, daughter-in-law and daughter are just different! "

After her mother-in-law's birthday, she held a glass and said, "Happy birthday, Mom."

this is the first time she called "mom".

at first, my mother-in-law may not have reacted. First, she was stunned, and then she kept saying "hey, hey, hey" three times. She was so happy as a child that she didn't know where to put her hand.

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Being coquettish makes her mother-in-law happy and satisfied

At first, the different eating habits made it difficult for Xiaoyan to fully accept her mother-in-law's cooking. Although she appreciated her mother-in-law's efforts to arrange three meals a day, eating was not a happy thing.

but later, she fell in love with her mother-in-law's rice crust porridge.

So, every time before cooking, she would say, "Mom, the rice crust porridge is so delicious. Shall we have rice crust porridge tonight?" Xiaoyan shook her mother-in-law's arm "coquetry", and her mother-in-law said smilingly, "Well, since Yaner loves eating so much, it's not a high requirement for us to do it every day in the future."

In this way, Xiaoyan's gluttony and resentment are satisfied without refuting her mother-in-law's face, and her mother-in-law's psychological needs of "being affirmed and needed" are achieved. As a result, both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are happy.

After a long time, through this method, she changed many cooking habits of her mother-in-law. Not only did she not make her mother-in-law feel uncomfortable, but she also let herself eat the food she wanted.

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If you are willing to spend money, you have to be cruel when giving gifts to your mother-in-law.

To tell the truth, Xiaoyan is not a spendthrift at ordinary times, but when it comes to buying gifts for her mother-in-law, she is totally different.

Every Mother's Day and Spring Festival, I will buy very expensive gifts for my mother-in-law. At first, my mother-in-law said that she squandered money and didn't know frugality, but she would show off in the community with a big smile on her back: "Look, my daughter-in-law bought this for me. I heard that she spent a lot of money and didn't know frugality, but it was comfortable to wear it! "

Every time I see her mother-in-law talking about her behind her back, I know she has done another beautiful thing.

many people will say that buying a gift for your mother-in-law should not be too cheap or too expensive.

Actually, put yourself in the other's shoes. Anyone who doesn't want expensive gifts has vanity, and so does her mother-in-law. This is their capital to show off!

Besides, your sentence "Mom, you have been frugal all your life. Now let's make money, so you can enjoy it."

you can get rid of the thrifty mother-in-law in an instant, and your charm value soars!

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Organizing more family activities makes her feel involved

Shortly after getting married, Xiaoyan suggested that the whole family go out for a trip.

My mother-in-law said she was too tired to go.

Xiaoyan said, "Mom, this is a family activity, and you are bored at home. Why don't you go out with us? I have arranged it so that you won't be tired. Go ahead!"

finally, my mother-in-law was persuaded and went out to play together.

later? Later, I heard her mother-in-law "complain" in the park: "Alas! I'm getting old. I can't afford to toss about. I won't get involved in where they go in the future, but I'll stay at home comfortably. Oh, by the way, my daughter-in-law asked me to buy a lot of souvenirs. I'll bring them for you when I have time ... "(Honey smiles ...)

Well, the effect is obvious, not only does it not make my mother-in-law feel" isolated "and have the illusion of" not being a family ". It also made her mother-in-law really feel that it was not easy to travel, and then she "traveled for two" with her husband.

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If you want to be "lazy", you have to do something decent first.

Xiaoyan and her husband are extremely busy at work every day, and they often work overtime, so their mother-in-law helps with all the big and small affairs at home.

However, her mother-in-law never complains about Xiaoyan's "disregard for home" and often says "You are tired from work". When she comes back, she will rest early and I will cook dinner.

how did you meet such a good mother-in-law? Xiaoyan said that this also requires skill.

in order to be lazy, you have to do more things.

Xiaoyan's mother-in-law has high blood pressure. She once saw a recipe of steaming lotus root with white sesame seeds and rock sugar on TV, so Xiaoyan steamed a plate of lotus root for her mother-in-law as a snack whenever she was free. Maybe I'm in a good mood, or maybe the folk prescription is really effective, and my mother-in-law's blood pressure has been very stable.

This is what Xiaoyan does in the kitchen, which she doesn't often go into. It's much easier than cooking, but my mother-in-law is happy and sweet!

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Getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is really a university question.

Some daughters-in-law work hard at home, but they are not appreciated by their mother-in-law.

However, some daughters-in-law are called good daughters-in-law by their mother-in-law.

the word skill, after all, is a routine, but it is not learning.

of course, the premise is that you are lucky and meet a reasonable mother-in-law.