"Daughter, why should I advise you not to marry a poor boy?" What is my father's reason for not letting you marry a poor boy?

Dear daughter, I know that in the mood of love, you long for pure love. You once fantasized that you, like the heroine in an idol drama, broke through the shackles of the world and finally married the person you love, and then lived a happy life.

You are still young, don't understand reality, and treat life as a fairy tale. I don't blame you, but I still want to advise you not to marry a poor boy.

I know you will think I am worldly snobbish when you see this sentence, but I still have something to say.

I am a doctor and your mother is a teacher. Our family has two full-price rooms in the city center. We are not rich, but we can reach a well-off level. We don't expect much from you. We just want you to find the right person to marry.

Marriage is a lifelong matter, and there is no room for carelessness. As long as you step into the thorns, even if you turn around halfway, you will be scarred in the end.

And that's the last thing your mother and I want to see.

In order to change your prejudice against home, I'll tell you the reason why I won't let you marry a poor boy.

Happiness is not for gambling.

There are always girls who have the best expectations for marriage. In order to be with the people they love, they are willing to choose naked marriage and even give up everything.

They think this kind of behavior is great, but it's just an adventurous monologue.

02

You bet the happiness of the rest of your life on that poor boy. If you win the bet, you will have a happy life after suffering for several years. If you lose the bet, you will have no chance of happiness in your life.

But what did the poor boy who told you to give up everything in desperation lose in this gambling? He didn't lose anything.

If he succeeds, he can choose to be good to you, or bad to you, or find someone better than you.

If he fails, he can continue to come back to this home and live in poverty with you. Although life was a little hard, he finally won a home.

You think this is between you two, but in fact, this gamble is your own business from the beginning.

You are not as great as you think, and you can't live for some days.

You are the apple of our eye, and we have held you in our hands since childhood, so that you won't suffer anything.

The smooth road makes you develop an innocent, lively and kind character, which is a good thing, but it is also a bad thing.

Being naive, lively and kind is an advantage in itself, but your unrealistic ideas are another disadvantage.

You've never suffered or lived a hard life, so you think everything too easily. But unlike those who used to be poor together, you can't stand the real hardship.

Do you think that as long as you are with the person you love, even if the saliva is sweet, you can really drink boiled water all your life?

03

You have been spoiled since childhood, and your fingers have never touched the water. If one day you really want to do laundry and cooking, do all the housework, and even go to the countryside to farm, you can't buy anything you want, and you care about the living expenses such as oil, salt, sauce and vinegar every day. Do you still have the heart to love?

In TV series, many ladies and even princesses fled their homes for so-called love and stayed with poor boys, but what was the final outcome? As long as they continue to associate with poverty, they can't get happiness, because that kind of hard life is beyond their imagination.

Tv plays beautify love, so you will have fantasies. If you really live like that, you will be miserable in six months.

It is better to stop loss in time from the beginning than to regret it at that time.

People are poor for a reason, and it has nothing to do with discrimination.

I never discriminate against the poor, because every poor person has his own different reasons.

But have you ever thought that if a family has not suffered from natural and man-made disasters, it is still poor and can't even afford a suite. What does this prove?

It is understandable that young people can't give themselves a home because of the high housing prices. After all, they just graduated from school not long ago, and it is more difficult to buy a house independently than to ascend to heaven.

But what does it mean if their parents can't help at all?

Aside from natural and man-made disasters, there are only two reasons why people are poor: they are either lazy or have insufficient IQ.

Under normal circumstances, families with sons will prepare houses for their sons early, and both parents will work hard to make plans for their sons' future.

04

Decades have passed, and they can't even get a down payment on a house. Such people are either lazy and have never considered their children's future, or they have insufficient IQ and don't know how to make money. They only repeat meaningless things every day.

And these two kinds of people are not worth getting married because you will never see hope in them. You think it's just a temporary muddy road, but in fact you're jumping into a bottomless black hole.

Marriage is not about two people, but about two families.

Marriage is never about two people, but about two families.

After you get married, you will find that his home is a "trouble" that you never want to face in your life.

Now that I am married to him, I have to face his family. From then on, you are not only a wife and daughter-in-law, but also a poverty alleviation professional.

Family chores and worldly affairs will be more terrible than you think. On that day, you will regret your original decision, but there will never be regret medicine in this world.

You usually like to follow the drama, and you should have seen many cases about Phoenix Man. TV plays come from life, and those are bloody examples.

If you don't want to follow in the footsteps of others, don't fall in love with a poor boy, let alone talk about marriage with him!

05

This is a letter written by a father to his daughter, and many young people who have "first love" wake up instantly after reading it.

Poor Cheng Feng, everything my father said was from the heart, and he did his best for his daughter's future happiness.

The better the living conditions, the simpler the girls are. They are full of idol dramas and fairy tales, and even often bring themselves into them.

They think that love is the greatest thing in the world. Love can make people live or die. It is a great feat to break the bondage of secular love and ignore the concept of family.

When they really set foot in it, they found that love is never the whole of life, and marriage is far more realistic than they imagined.

Not marrying a poor boy is not discriminating against a poor boy, but based on a concept that suits each other.

It is true that girls yearn for beautiful love, but they can't ignore the reality because of love.

As the saying goes: "If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer." Parents have crossed more bridges than you, and the life experience they have gained is of great benefit to you.