What a painful realization: are you working so hard for life or for life?

Life and life are not two parallel lines, but twisted into a hemp rope, climbing and extending each other until the end.

65438+February 2, 20201,Beijing, 43-year-old hungry rider Han fell on the way to take delivery.

On February 29th, 2020, at 65438, Feifei Zhang, a 23-year-old employee of Pinduoduo, fainted on his way to work in the early morning.

Without exception, they are all sudden deaths.

Sudden death is like a bomb hidden in the body, which suddenly explodes at a certain moment and devours life at once.

Without exception, they are all on the road.

On the road, is it the dream road to pursue a better life, or the desperate road to overdraw health?

The fall of two young lives has left deep thoughts for the society, and we have to face up to the contradictory and tangled problems.

1. Can you live better by making money?

Living in this society really needs money, so making money is the premise of our life.

But unconsciously, the premise of life has quietly become the theme of life.

Therefore, we don't want to meet the needs of life, but want to earn more money. When we have100000, we always want to have1000000,100000, or even more.

One of my classmates stepped into the society after graduating from junior high school. It took him less than 10 years to start his own factory. When I was still in college, he had earned the first bucket of gold in his life early. When I was still trying to pay off my mortgage, he was already driving more than 800,000 Mercedes.

I should envy him and drive a luxury car in front of my boss. But he said that he envied me and that I didn't earn much money, but he was worried about making money every day. I didn't agree with it at first, but the great changes later completely changed my opinion.

Although the boss is busy every day, he strives to maintain customer relations and open up new markets. It seems that business can't be done without drinking hard at business banquets.

One day, he ate and drank with important clients from noon to evening. After the rest, he drove home alone and ran into a big truck parked on the side of the road. Mercedes-Benz was damaged and scrapped. He did not wear a seat belt and died on the spot. Because it is drunk driving, the insurance does not pay. Leaving orphans and widows, the factory was forced to stop working, and the life of an old and young family suddenly became two worlds.

There was a saying that was widely circulated: in the first half of my life, I exchanged my life for money, and in the second half, I bought my life with money. But in the second half of your life, you will find that the hollowed-out body has become a bottomless pit, and no amount of money can be filled in or bought back. Like terminal cancer.

2. When will the spinning top stop?

In this competitive society, everyone spins like a top. If you spin slower than others, you will be eliminated.

Even if you are a vegetable vendor, you can't get up earlier than others, and you can't grab fresh and cheap vegetables from the wholesale market, so your income will be worse than others.

Therefore, we don't have to whip ourselves, running hard on the crowded track, always afraid of being left behind by others.

The infamous "996" working mode: go to work at 9 am, get off work at 9 pm, and work six days a week. Although we hate it, we will never take the initiative to overthrow it unless we have to.

Kai-fu Lee used to keep this working state for a long time, until he got lymphoma, and he realized that it was meaningless to work so hard. But I think he should be the one who was forced to stop because of illness.

20 15 April "The world is so big, I want to see it." This letter of resignation with the word 10 caused a heated discussion on the Internet. In this way, Gu Shaoqiang, a female psychology teacher in Henan Experimental Middle School, bid farewell to Xin's busy teaching career and pursue her ideal life. I think she should be the one who stopped voluntarily.

I remember a company's job advertisement said, "We want someone to ask for money, so let's come in and talk. I won't talk to you about your ideal, because we know that your ideal won't work. "

This may speak for office workers who don't talk to others.

Because, when we are tired as dogs, we can't forget to comfort ourselves with such brave words: "Hold on a little longer, and when I earn enough money and realize financial freedom, I will travel around the world."

But in the end, I found that money was always not enough, and my dream was delayed until it disappeared in the long river of years.

3. Ask yourself why you are working so hard.

I think everyone can give many reasons for this problem. For example, a large family is pointing at me when eating and drinking Lazar, and they don't try to make money? My wife wants to buy cosmetics, and my children have to go to remedial classes. Don't work hard to earn money, okay? I don't have pension insurance. What should I do if I don't make money when I am young?

You will find that all the reasons for our despair can be summed up in two points: one is the desire to live in the present, and the other is the fear of living in the future.

The hunger of living in the moment thinks that the more money, the more instant satisfaction, and then pursue higher enjoyment. Once people fall into this functional fascination with money, they will quietly become greedy.

The house should be large in area and luxuriously decorated, from multi-storey to high-rise, from high-rise to villa, and from villa to villa. The brand of the car should be hard and the function should be advanced, from running to Mercedes-Benz, from Alto to Audi, from cars to sports cars.

You will find that your appetite is getting bigger and bigger and your taste is getting higher and higher. Only by making money hard can we satisfy all this.

Fear of future life, thinking that the more money you have, the more you can resist unexpected changes and improve your ability to resist risks in life. When this fear in my heart is infinitely magnified by reality, I will try to catch up with the time and accumulate energy that can compete with it before the accident comes.

"5+2" and "white+black", I wish I had 48 hours a day. I wish I couldn't have superhuman powers and work tirelessly like a machine just to earn more money.

When the future comes, you will be exhausted and find that your hard-earned money exceeds expectations, and your life has already been overdrawn.

I have said so much, not to advocate being aloof from the world, nor to advocate passive avoidance, but to say to you who have read this article: living in this world, people should find a balance between life and life.

Looking for the meaning of life in the boat of life, or looking for the meaning of life in the boat of life?

Presumably, everyone has his own understanding and answer.

My answer is: live, live for life.