After marriage, what kind of behavior makes you think it is a widowed marriage?

Of course, after having children, I feel that I am taking care of the baby alone.

The so-called "widowed child-rearing", or "widowed child-rearing", reflects that in today's society, in couples with children, female friends undertake most of the child-rearing work, and as fathers in the family, their figure appears in children's lives for a short time.

The first kind of widowhood is caused by external forces. In some families, fathers have to work hard to make money to make a living, and people's energy is limited. As a result, such families are forced to become widowed families with children. This is also a very sad thing. The burden at home is all on the mother, and the burden outside is all on the father. The whole family is carrying a burden. Of course, families with old people will be relatively better. This is a baby who is forced to be widowed, and it is a phenomenon that human resources cannot be changed for a while.

The second kind of widowhood is caused by your own reasons. Of course, this self-reason is basically on their father. This kind of father has no time and energy to help his wife share the pressure of raising children, but he doesn't want to share it. They think it is natural that children should be taken care of by their mothers, and men should not take them. Others are completely lazy. As soon as they get home, they play mobile phones and games. They never accompany their children, and they don't care whether their wives are busy or not.

This is entirely their own problem. This kind of widowed parenting is completely different from forced widowed parenting caused by external forces. This kind of father should deeply reflect on himself and understand his wife's difficulties. This kind of family is also the most prone to family conflicts. After all, giving birth to a child is a matter of two people, and taking care of the child should also be a matter of two people.

Since ancient times, China has been paying attention to men being the master and women being the master. When a woman gives birth to a child, she has to give up everything and start taking care of the child. Until today, this "custom" has not changed much. Many women give up their jobs for their children and families from marriage to having children, and the father of the child is responsible for making money to support the family. Regardless of the children, they are also very confident. After all, they are the ones who make money.

However, in the process of children's growth, both fatherly love and maternal love are indispensable. Children need to grow up in a sound family in order to have a more sound personality. The absence of either party will have a bad influence on the children.

In fact, no matter what the reason, the most fundamental reason is the lack of communication, but most parents ignore this. Because in either case, there is a lack of communication between people, and there will be problems.

When you find yourself "widowed with a baby", you must communicate with your partner or share the related work of taking care of the children equally. For example, children's food, clothing, housing and transportation can be managed separately, and mothers are responsible for food, clothing, housing and transportation. This reasonable combination is also good for children's growth.

Otherwise, couples always quarrel about who will take care of the children, which will have a negative impact on the formation of the children's personality. Therefore, if you are facing widowed parenting, you must communicate with each other, otherwise it will not only affect the feelings of both husband and wife, but also affect the growth direction of children. Parents should pay more attention.