What are the special routines for men and women to chat when picking up girls?

I believe that when you finally got that girl's WeChat, you didn't know how to chat at all. After a few words, you died. Today, I'm going to tell you some tips for communicating with the opposite sex. First of all, let me talk about one of the most common mistakes that everyone makes-auditing the accounts will obviously make the other party unhappy. Why do boys always like to chat through questions and answers when chasing girls?

Because we want to establish contact with this girl and enhance our feelings, but we don't know what topic to start with, so we can only establish contact by asking questions. It's like "Are you there?" "What are you doing?" "What's your major?" Is not an effective way of communication. Therefore, when chatting with the opposite sex, we should pay attention to methods and strategies, use less rational thinking with a strong sense of logic (commonly known as straight thinking) and use more emotional expression.

Strategy 1: The correlation is high.

Really effective communication refers to your topic, which can arouse the other party's interest enough and give good response and feedback. How to trigger good feedback needs to introduce a concept first. The information filter in the hippocampus is like a private secretary, deciding what information should be submitted to the brain for processing. In other words, in order to achieve "effective communication" with the girl you like, you must first filter through the hippocampus. What kind of information can interest girls?

1. Highly correlated

2. The higher the contrast value, the higher the correlation and contrast value, the more interesting and the less interesting it is. So we try to choose topics that are highly related to girls to talk about.

1. Hobbies (private)

This kind of information can be learned from a girl's circle of friends or blog, such as her favorite band, her favorite writer, and her other hobbies such as playing the piano, drawing, riding horses and so on.

2. Hobbies (general)

Choosing a common topic for girls to talk about will basically not get negative feedback. Common topics are: food (delicious), travel (fun), constellations (gossip attribute), pets (love show), popular movies and TV series (the entertainment mode of most girls). 3. Meet the emotional demands of yourself or friends around you, similar to ex-girlfriend cheating, good friends coming out, taboo: don't talk about topics that girls don't understand. Boys often like to talk about topics that they are good at. To highlight their "wide knowledge", such as: their own work (which industry giants have cooperation with), military (advantages and disadvantages of American F-series fighters and our J-16 fighters), politics (bilateral relations between China and the United States), economy (future housing market trend), games (how to win LOL) and so on. Of course, on a case-by-case basis, if the girl you like especially likes to study military topics, then you can talk freely as a highly relevant topic.

Strategy 2: Topic extension

Let me give you a simple example: "I went shopping in Xidan yesterday and saw a beautiful dress in XX style." Girlfriend's reaction is generally "Yes, I also think XX style skirt suits you very well, especially with your current hairstyle." Last week, I also went shopping, went to Dongdan and watched a movie with my boyfriend. It was awesome. But what do you think will happen if this girl says the same thing as her boyfriend? Girl: "I went shopping in Xidan yesterday and saw a beautiful skirt in XX style." Boyfriend: "Do you like it? Buy in buy buy! " Title, pawn. Did you find out? Girls and girlfriends will last for a long time, so find the key words in the sentence to delete. "Yes, I also think XX style skirt suits you very well, especially with your current hairstyle, which is very temperament." Cut to the chase according to "Nice skirt".

"I went shopping in Xidan yesterday and saw a beautiful skirt, which is XX." According to Xidan Shopping, we cut into the topic. Boyfriend regards the girl's sentence as a problem that needs to be solved, so in his mind, he only needs to give a solution. The solution to this sentence is "Buy in buy buy!" (Of course, the girl mentioned that this dress looks good, and it must be a bonus to buy it for her secretly. To give another simple example, the way girls say "I will go to Shanghai with Xiaohong tomorrow" is: the key words "Xiaohong", "Ha, you have a good relationship with Xiaohong. That's the last group of girlfriends you took together. "Key word" Shanghai "? "I heard that the steamed stuffed bun in Shanghai is particularly delicious. Where are you going to play? " The way to end the topic is: "Pay attention to safety and have fun." Therefore, straight men, what you usually say about yourself is a classic template for ending the topic, such as "Good night and sweet dreams", "Go home early", "Pay attention to rest" and "Drink more hot water"