What should I do if I am disappointed in my boyfriend but reluctant to break up with him?

I feel very bad when I see this question. I feel very unworthy for you love-minded girls. You waste your sincerity on someone who doesn’t love you and doesn’t cherish you. This heart is still worth it. The other party will prick you with holes. The worst thing is that you are not willing to break up yet. Baby, please wake up!

I have summarized two key issues regarding your troubles:

1. I am very disappointed with my boyfriend’s various behaviors.

2. Even if my boyfriend treats me badly, I don’t want to break up with him.

This is what I experienced at the beginning. It is exactly the same as your current predicament. I have never been too happy since I broke up. I will share with you my own experience below. I hope you can make up your mind after reading it. determination.

I will express my opinion first and break up! Leave this kind of boyfriend immediately, stop dragging your feet, and stop fantasizing about giving him a chance!

First of all, the first question: I am very disappointed with my boyfriend’s various behaviors.

There are too many aspects of behavioral performance. To be specific, I estimate that I can sit in front of the computer and type for a whole day. To sum up, maybe he doesn’t pay attention to your feelings and uses cold violence against you. Insulting words, PUA, unmotivated, cheating, etc.

No matter what the reason is, we cannot blindly accommodate him and humiliate ourselves! You are definitely a love brain, or maybe he is used to using sweet words to coax you into being stunned, so when he treats you badly, you can numb yourself even if you feel very disappointed, but like this The result is that you are unhappy all day long. When people fall in love, it’s like falling into a honeypot. Why do you turn yourself into a "vindictive woman"...

Let me ask you, if he is not you As a boyfriend, but as any other person, you will mind it if he disappoints you once, and you will not be able to tolerate the other person again and again, so you must pay attention to your inner feelings and don't love so much. Humble! If you tolerate him so much and love him so much, will he do this to you? Why feed the dog with all your heart?

Second question: Even if my boyfriend treats me badly, I don’t want to break up with him.

Anyway, your disappointment with a person must accumulate over time. Only when you have accumulated enough disappointment will you want to leave, but you may still have illusions about him and want to give him another chance (think You can change him and make him the "prince" you are satisfied with).

I really want to wake up you naive girls. How can a person be changed so easily? To put it bluntly, a dog can't change his eating habits. Instead of trying to change another person through himself, why didn't he find a partner according to his own standards in the first place? Instead, find a person who touches your heart. To be honest, if you stay with such a person, you will age much faster than your peers because you are tired!

For a relationship that is physically and mentally exhausting, it should be cut off immediately and let these terrible people and things go to hell! Let me talk about my experience:

That was my first love, my ex-boyfriend. I encountered the same situation as you. There were many reasons why I was disappointed with him at the time. He was not motivated and liked to play games. He was also a bad person. He is quite selfish and doesn't care about my feelings at all, and even sometimes PUAs me (I only realized this when I thought about it after we broke up), but he is very good at sweet-talking me. Maybe it was the first time I fell in love that I was fooled by lard. , just believed his words and treated him wholeheartedly!

As a result, I was very tired during this relationship. I wanted to break up countless times and also proposed breaking up. Every time, he just coaxed me away and later ignored your suggestion of breaking up. It's a problem, because after talking too much, he also thinks that you won't leave (he has already figured it out), making himself look like a fool.

But some people are useless no matter how much you show your heart to them. They take your kindness to them as a matter of course. What made me decide to leave was because he was mentally cheating! His Bai Yueguang, at that time I found a notebook in the drawer of his computer desk, with a few pages written: xxx, I miss you so much. My heart dropped at that time, I knew that was his name Bai Yueguang.

I couldn’t help but question him directly later. The look on his face makes me sick even thinking about it now, and he confidently said that I just miss her. If it weren’t for me, he would have gone to the station to pick her up, TM It was none of my business and the blame was placed on me, making him still the victim. After that, I made up my mind to break up with him and blocked his number. I saw in the blocked text message that he didn’t want me anymore. He sent me a message asking to get back together. I saw that it was not too sarcastic, and later added me as a friend through Alipay, but ended up asking me to borrow money! His face was thicker than a city wall. I couldn't bear to be bothered and I changed my number directly.

My boyfriend is so good to me now. I don’t have to worry about anything, and I feel very happy mentally. Compared with the past relationship, day by day, I feel really happy. There is no need to waste your youth on an unworthy person. In the end, he will say that you deserve it.

So my advice to you is to leave this person immediately. Don’t wait until you are tortured and bruised before letting go. Don’t have masochistic tendencies! Don't hesitate to break up immediately, and change your mobile phone number to avoid being soft-hearted again when he comes to you. If you continue like this, you will only fall into an endless loop. You are neither happy nor willing to let go, so why torture yourself!

We girls must learn to love ourselves, maintain our own independent thinking, insist on our own opinions, and don't let those scumbag men think you are stupid and easy to deceive!