What is it like to fall in love with a colleague?

Office romance has always been a double-sided mirror. Falling in love with colleagues is much more complicated than falling in love with others.

First of all, if the other party is your superior or subordinate, then one party must accept that the other party has absolute control over himself at work. My friend's ex-boyfriend used to be her immediate boss, and the two of them got together because they appreciated each other's abilities. But when they fall in love, there will be all kinds of conflicts. As her boyfriend, she should take more care of her, but as her immediate boss, she has various stringent requirements for her subordinates. In the words of a friend, getting along with him feels like both of us are about to have a schizophrenia. And the person who is not sufficiently divided is the most vulnerable to injury. It only took them half a year to fall in love with each other from the beginning to the end of the relationship. Therefore, if there is no way for each other to distinguish between public and private affairs, it is best not to challenge office romance easily.

Secondly, it is very happy if the office romance is successful, but it is particularly embarrassing if it does not succeed. If two people fall in love and achieve positive results, it is of course a good fate. They can take care of each other whether at work or in life. But if you break up, it will be particularly embarrassing. After my cousin graduated from college, she entered a company and fell in love with a male colleague. When they fell in love, because their work and life were at the same pace, they had a very sweet love time. Later, they separated due to personality differences. They would not look up at each other in the company, and the colleagues next to them would also be taboo. As sweet as the love was at the beginning, it was so embarrassing after the breakup. In my cousin's words, I wish I had never known this person.

Of course, there are also many people who have achieved positive results, and that is the one who is envied among colleagues. For example, my immediate boss and his wife have a very typical office romance and have a very happy family. What is enviable is that when my sister-in-law came back from maternity leave, she brought her child directly to the company. When they go to work, they leave their children to someone nearby to take care of them, and when they get off work, they take their children home together. To be honest, we were extremely envious at the time. Because they all understand when the other person is particularly busy, and will provide appropriate help in life. This is something that is difficult for people who are not in the same company as you to reconcile.

So some people feel very happy when they fall in love with colleagues, because they can find people with similar interests and who can achieve mutual success. Some people find it very painful, because when your relationship is unstable, the negative emotions it brings will radiate to your work. Falling in love with a colleague, whether it is happiness or misfortune, must be doubled.