Experiences of spending time with children during the epidemic

I am a trainer and a mother of two girls. The eldest daughter Chen Shiyan is studying in Class 3 of Tsinghua Wanbo Experimental School, and the younger daughter is 2 years old and studying at home

At the beginning of 2020, an epidemic affected the family lives of many people. Because of the epidemic, my aunt and grandmother were stranded in their hometown and unable to return. The heavy responsibility of taking care of the family's daily life and accompanying their children to study and play fell on me as a mother. Compared with people who are suddenly idle and overwhelmed and bored, my life is very compact and challenging

Whether it is for the winter vacation that just passed or during the special start of school. , I have gained a lot of experience in living and studying with Xiaodoubao, and I would like to share it with you here

I am doing training related to psychology, and I have learned a lot after having a child. Regarding family education courses, this holiday is a practical assessment for me! The kind that can't be seen for 24 hours. Faced with endless housework and wars that could break out at any time, the most important thing is her daughter's various little emotions when faced with a new way of learning. As parents, we all know that kind of struggle, and you can roar like a lion in a matter of minutes. Like many families with two children, I held the second child in one hand while studying with the eldest child, and I was just as excited as the dog.

In this process, the mother's emotional management is the first priority. I always believe that education in every aspect of life is not about what you say to her. She cannot hear what you say, she will only see what you do. Teaching by example is worse than words. Emotional management is a life issue that everyone has to face. This period of time is also the longest time parents spend with their children. Helping children learn to manage their own emotions during daily interactions with their children will benefit them throughout their lives. The following points are shared with you

1. When children are in mood and do not want to do homework in class, deal with the mood first and then talk about things. This trick works well

After staying at home for so long, facing In response to all changes and pressures, the irritability and anxiety of us adults will be intentionally or unintentionally vented on our children. Children themselves also have many emotions such as unmet needs. For children, it is particularly important to see their needs first! When facing children, look more at their strengths and progress and be more empathetic and accepting. Your mood will be much calmer. Hedong Lion's Roar not only did not help her study, but also destroyed the parent-child relationship. In family education, the parent-child relationship is the foundation! A parent-child relationship without love and mutual respect is just like building a building. Without a good foundation, it is just a shoddy project! As a parent, you must first manage your own emotions. Only after you have calmed down can you "pacify" your children and solve problems. Every child is different. Exploring your child's strengths can effectively stabilize your emotions. There is no point in being anxious.

Always ask yourself "Am I patient enough?"

2. Stimulate the motivation for independent learning.

In learning, children are the main body and parents are the assistants. Leave your studies to her, whether it's making a schedule or completing homework. Doing it independently doesn't mean leaving her alone. But help her learn to be independent.

I don’t spend much time with her doing homework because of Erbao’s interruptions and troubles. I am more like an instructor.

Ask your children, "What do you think about this question? How do you want to deal with this matter?"

After learning that due to the impact of the epidemic, the school opening has been postponed. After receiving the latest news and arrangements, I immediately chatted with my eldest daughter for an hour. The purpose is to build awareness about homeschooling and let her know that it is not an extension of the holiday, but a new form of starting school! Let her pay attention to her attitude and take it seriously. I think that for Xiaodubao who is new to school, the child's attitude towards learning is far more important than the learning itself! Establishing good study habits and interests is more important than the grades themselves! And a child's attitude towards anything depends on the attitude of his parents! At this point, I very much agree and support Tsinghua Wanbo School’s concept of home-school cooperation. Family education is always greater than school education!

3. Protect and utilize your child’s self-esteem.

Provide timely positive feedback on children’s little progress.

Small progress is especially easy to be ignored by parents, such as "the word written today is much more correct than yesterday" and so on. Praise her for her efforts and attitude!

I strongly disagree with the use of exchange and reward mechanisms for children to do homework.

If they only study to get rewards, avoid punishment, and please their parents, they may see short-term effects immediately, but it is not conducive to their continued learning and satisfaction in learning.

4. Say more positive words.

Every word from parents has magic! Either inject love, belief, and positive power into your children! Either it is harm, denial, negative power!

"If you get up early in the morning, you will be in a good mood!"

"Write carefully and neatly, and slowly your words will become more and more beautiful!"

< p> "If you fold the quilt neatly, you will be in a good mood!"

This is how I remind myself every day to speak positive words.

Recently, every time before she goes online, I will say, "Start your little motor, come on...!" She goes to class happily

During this time , I deeply experienced what it means to grow up with children, apply what I have learned in life and examine myself. As a parent, it’s not that you can’t make mistakes, but you need to have a clear understanding of what you have accomplished and what you are still on the road to and need to adjust and change. If it is said that children are seedlings, parents are the soil. If you want the seedlings to grow To grow taller and bigger, what needs to be improved is the soil, and pulling out seedlings is useless.

To summarize the five core cognitions in educating children:

1. Family education is always greater than school education;

2. Childhood education is always greater than adult education; < /p>

3. Parent-child relationship is always greater than parent-child education;

4. Parent-child relationship is always greater than parent-child education;

5. Only if parents study hard can children make progress every day< /p>

Love is a kind of ability. We should not be nanny mothers or police mothers, but angel mothers. We should discover the advantages of our children and focus on their children’s advantages. Even if it is just one advantage, we should constantly amplify it. Let this advantage amplify and shine like the sun.

We *** work together