Why does power only belong to some people?

The world is never just, and all you want is for yourself.

Living in this powerful society has always been to laugh at poverty rather than prostitution. If you want to strive for power or career success, this book is like a survival guide.

How is this book different from other successful science and politics popular in China market? The first is that it is systematic, not just the accumulation of personal experiences and stories. The second is that it is very academic and supported by a lot of scientific research.

Modesty and humor only work when you are capable. Don't be so modest, you are not modest enough. -Former Israeli Prime Minister Golda Meir.

Why do you need motivation?

Needless to say, everyone knows the benefits of power. Isn't the struggle of mankind for thousands of years a struggle for power?

In George Orwell's Animal Farm, a group of animals on the farm successfully carried out a "revolution", driving their human owners out of the farm and establishing an equal animal society. However, animal leaders, those clever pigs finally usurped the fruits of the revolution and became more dictatorial and totalitarian rulers than human masters.

All animals have the same interests. When people are rich, animals are rich. This is a lie and absolutely unacceptable.

Of course, promoting social progress is also closely related to power.

Everything has two sides. Facing a double-edged sword, it depends on who holds it.

If you have a great dream of changing the world, you must first have a complete set of equipment to realize it better. If Jobs is not Apple's chief helmsman, then his Apple empire may eventually be another utopia. Grasp the power and the right to speak.

The book tells us that one of the three obstacles to getting rid of oneself is not to believe the existing leadership knowledge and the preaching of successful people.

Through a large number of real cases, the author points out a real road to power and career success for each of us. This book is based on the reality of interpersonal communication and breaks the myth of idols and traditions.

The biggest obstacle to your strength is yourself. We usually set limits for ourselves and tell ourselves that I am not interested in power or disdain to participate in power games. In fact, as long as you are willing to play, any power game has a chance.

Characteristics of right holders

1, ambition. If you have no desire for one thing, you can't have the motivation to pursue it. In this process, there must be ambition, which can also be called "ambition". Napoleon once said that "soldiers who don't want to be generals are not good soldiers", which basically means the same thing.

2.energy. According to statistics, the so-called successful people are mostly "energetic", with an average sleep time of 5 hours. And time management also has super self-control and execution. Not to mention those who have made great achievements, let's talk about Hu Shuli, the boss of Caixin, a new media. According to her colleagues, an assistant is definitely not enough to accompany President Hu. He only sleeps five or six hours a day and works in the car. No one can persist all the time.

Step 3 focus. The first level refers to focusing on a specific industry or company, making in-depth understanding and establishing a more meaningful interpersonal network; Second, focus on limited activities or skills; Third, focus on some specific tasks or the most important activities at work.

4. Self-reflection ability. Li Xiaolai constantly reminds the so-called "three Japanese provinces" in "Towards Wealth and Freedom". What are you reflecting on? Reflect on your thoughts and results, and consider whether your thoughts are logically wrong. Want to know where your idea came from? What makes you think that? Are there any other possible thinking results? How are you affected? Are these influences well-founded? What should I do? Therefore, if only a few people do what everyone should do, the result will naturally be different.

5. Self-confidence. Believe in the power of faith. The simplest sentence is, if you don't believe in yourself, who will believe you? Confident people will also bring their own energy and infect people around them, which is also one of the personal charms of power owners.

6. Empathy. A world with good popularity. How do you measure others? Think of others and they will repay you.

7. Ability to face conflicts. The trait of a leader is the ability to solve contradictions and conflicts. The godfather became a godfather because he can solve problems for others. Anyone who is in trouble, finding him is equivalent to finding the answer to the question. In this way, he gained trust and dependence.

The road to power

The first step is to be the most eye-catching one.

Brave enough to be noticed. Being too modest will make others ignore you. You should tell others loudly: I am the best person for you.

Praise your boss and let him remember you.

The creed of American Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice is that people may oppose you, but when they realize that you can hurt them, they will join you. A study by Harvard Business School shows that people who are negatively evaluated are usually considered smarter and more capable. The name of this paper is "Smart but Cruel", and this topic has explained everything. It doesn't matter if you don't like it before you get power. Power will make you like it.

You must show yourself. What are your advantages? What kind of value can you provide to others? It is a rule in the field of power.

The second step is that whoever owns the resources will have the power.

Needless to say, everyone understands this logical relationship. So the key is how to obtain resources.

1, be kind to others as much as possible. Resources are exchanged.

2. Do important little things. Everyone needs the goodwill of others, and it is easier to gain trust, especially when they are concerned or helped in details.

3. Actively seek and utilize resources. When you have resources, you should make more use of them to create more opportunities for yourself and others.

4. Create your own unique resources. Hone yourself to be irreplaceable, no matter what kind of skills. We must spend time and energy to build ourselves. Self-growth is an eternal passport.

The third step is relationship, the eternal king.

Interpersonal networks are sometimes called social capital. The importance of your interpersonal network depends more or less on your work, but there is evidence that developing interpersonal relationships is very important to people's careers. Because people don't choose people they don't remember or know.

Interpersonal communication ability can be improved through exercise. Zuckerberg made a 20 13 annual plan for himself. He stipulates that he must meet a new friend every day and expand his life.

Not everyone has the same value to you. You should consider how to make proper use of the interpersonal relationship of time walking.

There are many sayings about this, for example, the value of your wealth is about equal to the average value of your circle of friends and so on.

The fourth step, acting and speaking.

Yes, the performer "plays" and the smooth talker "says". The secret of leadership is performance.

First of all, there are rules of "performance" power. If you want to learn, look at the following points.

1, be sure to show confidence. When I didn't know where Intel was going, I lied to them and made people think I knew, said Andy Andy grove.

2. Pay attention to your audience. Be observant and pay close attention to the reaction of your audience. Also, let others feel that you care about each other.

3. Show anger, not sadness and regret. Being good at expressing anger properly is a sign of confidence. Humility and humor only work when you already have power.

4. Learn to use body language and pay attention to self-image.

5, mobilize the mood suitable for different occasions.

6. The details of the performance stage can't be ignored.

7. Don't respond in a hurry.

Second, the skill of "speaking" is also important.

1, learn to use interrupts. People who interrupt others have more power;

2. Learn to question the premise of discussion;

3. Exercise the persuasiveness of your own language.

Nowadays, speaking skills are playing an increasingly important role in both the workplace and the entrepreneurial process. Learning to speak in public on different occasions can not only show personal charm, but also serve as a platform for brand building and promotion.

In any case, preparation in advance is the premise of making a good speech.

The fifth step is to establish your own reputation.

A good impression is the basis of gaining respect and trust from others. Sometimes prestige belongs to individuals, but sometimes individuals have good prestige because they are connected with higher institutions.

Carefully plan and establish an image. Especially in the media. The reason for all this is that sometimes negative information may add fuel to the fire. Gain a reputation in the conflict.

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How to deal with contradictions?

On the way or after gaining power, there will be strong conflicts. The ability to handle these conflicts determines how long you can have power.

1, be kind to your opponent and give him a step down.

Don't create unnecessary trouble for yourself.

3. Keep good relations with key people.

Persistence is the prelude to victory.

5. Many fronts go hand in hand. A variety of resources can be used.

6. Take action and seize the fighter plane.

7. Reward your friends and punish your enemies.

8. Make your goals more meaningful to society.

Three strategies to turn defeat into victory

1, don't give up;

2. Continue to do what you are good at;

Always show that you will win the final victory.

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Five major costs that electricity must pay.

Everything has its gain and loss, so you should measure it yourself. In the pursuit of power, you must pay the price.

1, the pressure of "fame". Remember Ma Weidou said, how famous you are, how much negative pressure you have to bear.

2. Loss of "autonomy". I can't help it James march said: "You can have power or autonomy, but you can't have both."

3. Sacrifice family and personal life.

Not everyone can be trusted. It's too cold up there. When Emperor Kangxi was in his twilight years, he was afraid that no one could have an equal heart-to-heart, and everyone was afraid of him.

5. Power is addictive and addictive.

Beware of six factors leading to power failure

Ask too much and pay too little.

conceited

lose patience

Tired, let people relax their vigilance.

Times have changed and tactics remain the same.

Unwilling to take power

Conclusion:

Most of us tend to be modest and unwilling to brag about ourselves. You must learn to overcome this basic human tendency. The most important obstacle to break through is yourself. Dare to say to others, "I am the best, which is why you need me to do this job."

This is a society full of hierarchies. Dare to compete for power and become the biggest winner in the power contest.