If you don't belong to your circle, don't squeeze in.

We often hear a saying, "If you don't belong to your circle, don't squeeze in".

I didn't understand this sentence at the moment. Why do you say that? Do not belong to my circle. What can I do if I squeeze in? Don't many chicken soup articles say that if you want to be what kind of person, you must try to integrate into the circle of such people?

Until I was watching Only Thirty, I saw Gu Jia trying to integrate into the circle of "not hers" in order to let her son go to an aristocratic school. Although she tried her best, it was the first time that her photo was cut. At that moment, she should feel bad. Anyway, when I saw it, I didn't deserve it for Gu Jia. Later, Gu Jia seemed to blend into that circle, and it was not until she was cheated by Mrs. Li that she broke out completely. She couldn't bear it any longer and broke up with those ladies directly.

Let's talk about myself. I used to have a small WeChat group full of friends I have known for many years. We are all familiar with each other, so we often chat in groups. They often talk about topics that I don't understand. It doesn't matter. I can watch them not talk, and occasionally they will make fun of me. This is acceptable to me. After all, we are good friends, and everyone is just joking. However, I occasionally raise a topic, but few people respond to me. Many times they bypass my words and talk about something else. In fact, I am very sad inside, but I have been trying to endure it. The tone of chatting in the group has always been sad. I don't like it very much, but I think everyone is a friend, so just bear with it and stop talking. Until one day, I felt I couldn't take it anymore. I am so wronged that I have nothing to say. I want to regard our place as a place where everyone can share happiness and sadness, and it is also our secret base. But after so long, I found that it was just my wishful thinking. Finally, I took the initiative to choose not to speak in this group, and also canceled the top of this group. Now, I also accept this fact. I finally admit that we don't belong to the same circle, so I don't want to squeeze in any more.

From then on, I began to join some community chats selectively and do what I want to do selectively. Fortunately, at the age of 30, I began to want to be myself.