The eccentric mother-in-law gave the house to her youngest son and went to live with her eldest daughter-in-law, saying that it was natural to raise me. what do you think?

Nowadays, with the opening of the second child policy, more and more people choose to have a second child. Especially the older generation, they are in favor of having a second child. In the era of family planning, some elderly people want to have more children regardless of fines. This idea is really puzzling.

Especially in areas with relatively backward economic development, the obsession with having children is deeper. The saying that many hands make light work has been deeply imprinted in their minds, and some families even gave birth to five or six children, which is incredible to think about.

Personally, I think giving birth to a child should be one of the important things in one's life. Things that need to be discussed and considered by husband and wife. Because the birth of a child means that both husband and wife have another responsibility from now on. Raising children is the responsibility of every parent.

I don't think you gave birth to the baby either. Just feed it. But to provide a good living environment and education, so that he can live happily. At this level, it belongs to the point of "prenatal and postnatal care".

But in my opinion, most parents in our country have not done the above two points. In the hearts of these couples, having children is a very common thing, and you can have them if you want.

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More than half of the couples in our country simply can't achieve "prenatal and postnatal care". Giving birth to a child is just a thing that must be experienced in life in their hearts. When others are born, I am born. That's it. Simple thinking.

Before giving birth to a child, I never thought about whether I was ready to be a parent and whether I had the ability to give my child a good family environment. These problems have not been considered, and giving birth to children is step by step.

I once thought, how can such parents educate high-quality children? It's just that generations continue the path taken by their ancestors.

Moreover, in those families with many children, parents can't treat each other equally. They always prefer a child to a child. Such a family environment will also cause a certain psychological burden on the growth of children.

What every child fears most is that their parents don't love themselves, or that their parents are partial to other brothers and sisters, but they are not good to themselves. This childhood experience has done great harm to children. But in many families with many children in China, it is very common to favor one of them.

For example, son preference is very common, and many parents of families with many children will have the idea of son preference to a certain extent. This is also extremely unfair to her daughter.

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If parents' love for their children is not fair, then what do you need so many children for? Parents should bear most of the responsibility for children's failure to grow up normally. Most parents just don't realize this. They always think that I was born to do whatever I want.

It is a problem for every parent to treat their children as their own private property. They don't realize that every child is an independent individual, and they always think that children are their "objects".

Being born in an eccentric family is very harmful to children. Many people are sensitive and lack love because they have not received enough care from their parents since childhood.

I wrote this article today because of the contribution of reader Xiao Juan. She told the story of her husband's family and showed us the harm that an eccentric mother did to her children and her marriage.

Xiao Juan and her husband Adong have been married for almost ten years. The relationship between husband and wife has always been very good. In Xiao Juan's mind, Adong is a trustworthy man, a husband who loves himself and his family. But at the same time, Xiao Juan is also very distressed about Adong, because his family environment is more complicated.

Xiao Juan never thought that there would be such strange parents in this world. They are all their own children. Who can do this?

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When Xiao Juan and Adong got married, they were almost naked. No room, no car, no bride price. Xiao Juan couldn't understand at that time, how could a parent do this, and his son got married and gave nothing. This is just a party.

Later, Xiao Juan listened to Adong's words and realized how complicated his family environment was.

Dong Jia has three children, an elder sister, Dong and a younger brother. Adong is the second child in the family, and his parents gave birth to a younger brother when he was three years old. For my younger brother, the whole family loves him very much.

Adong, on the other hand, was sickly since childhood, and his parents didn't like him very much. He was brought up by his sister.

After school, Adong's academic performance is not good, while his younger brother is very smart and always comes first in the exam. Parents prefer their younger brother, and for their second son, they are more blaming and belittling.

It can be said that Adong has lived in the shadow of his younger brother since childhood and spent it in his parents' partiality. This also developed his sensitive, loveless and self-abased character.

Adong High School was forced to drop out of school by his parents before he finished school, and he was asked to go out to work to earn money for his younger brother to study. Adong, accustomed to resignation, agreed.

He worked part-time until he got married, and all the wages he earned were in the hands of his parents.

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Xiao Juan married Adong, and Adong's parents directly said to them, "When you two got married, there was no money at home, so all this money should be reserved for your younger brother's marriage. You are the eldest brother, be sensible. Depend on yourself, not on your parents. "

From that moment on, Adong's heart was broken by his parents. He cried and told Xiao Juan that he didn't want to take care of their affairs any more in his life.

Xiao Juan is very distressed by Adong, and at the same time she is very angry with her husband's family. After the marriage, the couple went to work in other places and never went back.

Dong is very diligent. He and Xiao Juan have been dating for so many years. Finally, they started a small business in the local area, saved some money and bought a house. The days began to develop in a good direction.

Moreover, Xiao Juan also gave birth to a son. She thought about having a second child, but Adong firmly opposed it. He doesn't want to hurt another person because of partiality, and he doesn't want his own tragedy to be repeated by his own children.

Adong and Xiao Juan have never been back to their hometown since they got married, and Adong rarely contacts his parents. Even if his brother got married, Adong didn't go back. It can be seen that his family is still worried about his injury.

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But just a year ago, Adong's father died of illness, and Adong and Xiao Juan went back to take care of things. The first thing my mother said when she saw them coming back was, "I have all your father's money, so don't think about it." Mother-in-law thinks that Xiao Juan and his wife come back to share the property.

Xiao Juan's heart was furious, and Adong's face was extremely sad. She said directly to her mother, "I'm not here to divide the property." I am not interested in your money. In your heart, am I really myself Why are you doing this to me? "

The mother didn't answer him, but said that she would go to her youngest son for retirement in the future, so you don't have to worry.

After dealing with his father's affairs, Adong took Xiao Juan back. He doesn't want to stay in this house for a day.

I thought it was all right. Unexpectedly, a few months ago, my mother-in-law actually contacted Xiao Juan and told her that she would go to see her in a few days.

Xiao Juan said coldly, "Have you talked to Adong?" My mother-in-law replied, "I called him, but he didn't answer." This baiwenhang, I'm his mother anyway. "

Xiao Juan asked her, "What are you doing in my house?" I didn't expect my mother-in-law to say, "I'm old and I want to raise my son."

Later, Xiao Juan heard from her sister that since her father-in-law died, her mother-in-law had given her youngest son the house at home, thinking of providing for her youngest son. However, the younger son's daughter-in-law disagreed and said that she would send it to a nursing home.

The youngest son is a hen-pecked wife, so he told his mother.

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The mother-in-law doesn't want to go to the nursing home, and the younger son can't get in. She wants to go to the eldest son to support the elderly.

Knowing this, Xiao Juan discussed it with Adong. After the two reached an agreement, Xiao Juan said to her mother-in-law: "When you said we didn't need to support the elderly, don't come to us."

My mother-in-law even shouted, "I am his mother, that is, your mother." It is natural to give me a pension! "

Xiao Juan looked at her mother-in-law's importune appearance, and her anger broke out: "You can come, and we will take the money directly to the nursing home for you. In short, you can't enter my door! "

My mother-in-law was scared by Xiao Juan's words and didn't dare to go. Now she lives in her eldest daughter's house for the time being, but Adong and her brother say I don't care. You have all my parents' money, so you should be responsible. The younger brother can only send his mother to a nursing home.

Xiao Juan suddenly felt as if he had bad breath. It was not clear who was right or wrong, but the only thing that was clear was that the whole family was ill and everyone was wrong.

But these are not of interest to Xiao Juan. She tidied up her mood and wanted to meet a better tomorrow with her husband Adong.