What is a perceptual topic? Let’s talk about some interesting perceptual topics.

①Talk about past experiences and past memories.

Just like applying for a job and submitting a resume, you cannot talk about too many negative experiences or bloody experiences. No one will like you more because of your failure experience. They will only reflect on whether you are incompetent. , you have to pretend to be successful, even if you are a frequently defeated general.

It is best to be meaningful, change yourself, and face life experiences more positively. Even if it's an interesting trip, where to go to teach, if you have good K skills, good basketball skills, and good articles, you can show your strengths and attract the other person invisibly.

You can’t help but mention some shortcomings. You are not a saint. It is easier to give people a real feeling if you have some insignificant shortcomings. You are very sincere and real, and will not feel fake. For example; taking things too seriously, or caring too much about others and neglecting yourself.

Memories are the most beautiful things, your own memories, interesting stories from your school days, struggles in your first career, preferably happy and interesting memories. If you don’t want to develop into so-called friends, you As for the relationship history, just avoid the important things and go through them in an understatement. If you like to talk about your beautiful love memories too much, you can only make the other person think that you can't forget the other person and you are not willing to pay for contact easily. Let them go by the past

② Talk about the homogeneity of friends and jobs with ***

Most people on blind dates are people who have the same acquaintance with ***, even if they are introducers, the other party Friends at work and classmates in school.

Dacheng can talk about each other and compare the homogeneity of work. For example: if the other party is Coca-Cola, you can say Coca-Cola, and then extend it to Pepsi-Cola. The two companies’ taste, market positioning, love for people, creativity, etc. In oversea chatting, it is best to know more about it so as not to be indifferent. More importantly, always observe whether the other party is interested. Don’t continue chatting overboard even if you are not interested. That is playing the piano to a bull. At this time, you need to quickly change the topic to a new one. It won't be boring.

A small town is such a big place, and you will make acquaintances when you go out. There should be a lot of intersections with the same kind of people, so there will be more topics of the same kind, and friends with the same sex are the ones to chat with. It's a big deal, but trouble comes from the mouth. Don't speak unobtrusively, and don't speak ill of the secrets and bad things about *** and friends. First of all, you won't know the relationship between the other party and *** and friends, or what their connections are. When interacting, it is easier to offend someone through casual chatting. Secondly, those who say bad things behind their back are villainous behaviors, which will give a bad impression to the loved ones and thereby deny you as a person. It is better to tell interesting things and praise more*** If you are a friend of the same person, it will also add a lot of points to your interpersonal relationship if it reaches this person's ears.

③Discuss interests and hobbies.

This is the best time to understand each other, and you can understand each other's negative sides from different aspects.

Since men and women are very different, one is more rational and the other more emotional, and there is not much overlap or sexual similarities. Of course, this is not absolute, because some people still chat more speculatively. We still need some common ground, so that we can develop better in the future and have more language points, so that we can have more interesting conversations.

For example: we are reading the same book, the man reads economics and philosophy, and the woman reads romance and time travel. How can we talk about this together? If you want to have something to say, you need to enrich yourself and make up for the lessons. It will be good. A little bit, if you don’t believe me, you can try it.

The biggest similarity between men and women is that men like to talk about women behind their backs, and women like to talk about men behind their backs. This is the innate attraction. Don’t deny it, it will happen more or less. .

In addition,

Men are interested in: sports, such as football and NBA (choose a few popular teams and pay more attention, you will find it very interesting) , military (know the latest national military weapons, you will find the new weapons very shocking) war (know the North Korean war, Vietnam harassing the border, Gaddafi), news (concern about national affairs), economy, stocks, at least know who It’s Buffett, who is Soros? Even if you know a little bit about the famous movies of international celebrities, it’s better. It’s much better than those illusory romance novels and time travel, and it’s much more interesting than those stupid idol dramas. It’s not just for you to learn everything. If you learn a little bit and understand a little bit, it will be good for you if you don’t care about others.

What women are interested in is: To be honest, I really don’t know what the hobbies of the beauties around me are? It seems that the theme is to beautify themselves, even if it is inner and outer, I burst into tears. . .

Shopping (a major feature of women’s hobbies, most people love it), makeup (there is no beauty, only more beauty), manicure (make your nails beautiful), fashion information, musical instruments, cooking, likes Learn a certain language, and also collect some things, such as stamps, ancient coins, sports (swimming, badminton), watching movies, and most of them also like to read novels, romance, time travel, inspirational economics, food, and clothing matching, K. . .

There are too many. After all, people are different. One person cannot think of too much. Those who are interested can add more. I can only think of so much for the time being. Find more similar interests and hobbies, and the conversation will be better extended.

④ Share recent life moments, new and interesting things.

This can be something you met on the way to work, or something you saw on the Internet, but it was carefully collected in the past. As long as it can bring happiness, it is a good thing, so you can share it, interesting things, classics Metaphors, philosophical quotes, to attract, you always have to be different to attract the other person's interest. The most important ones are those few sentences, "Have you eaten? What are you doing?" It will be very boring.

⑤ Pay more attention to recent popular topics.

You can stay at home or not like to go out, but you can’t be detached from the outside world. You don’t know Internet buzzwords and the latest popular topics. How can such a devoid of freshness keep your relationship fresh? ?

If you know the latest popular topics, you can talk to the other person. They will think that you know a lot, which is an opportunity for your development. If the other person also knows, wouldn’t it be better? It will be a good conversation. , the topics become more, the feelings become deeper, the development is better, how good it is. Although the topics are not deliberately created, only when there is a book, ink and real materials in it, can we talk eloquently.

Take Brother Chuan as an example. Just because he knows a lot about astronomy, history, geography, Buddhism, and the Book of Changes, it is easier to attract the other person when chatting. If you ask three questions, you will not know how to continue better. How about going on? You can't go on with just your face. The main thing is talking and communicating.

⑥Talk to each other about future plans.

After a period of understanding and contact, the relationship will heat up, and you may have nothing to say at this time.

What now? It’s best to talk about your respective future plans and plans. This is very beneficial to the man. You may not be good-looking, you may not have enough money, and you may not be tall, rich and handsome, but you have For a good career plan, if you have the right direction, a progressive heart, and the determination and perseverance to create a happy life for the other person, then at least in the other person's mind, although it is not a blue chip stock, at least it can become a potential stock. In this way The chances of giving yourself to you are greater and the success rate is higher. A man who is enterprising is very attractive, so consider making a plan.

This era is no longer just an era where men take charge of the outside and women take charge of the house. A woman has financial, personality, and emotional talents. Therefore, beauties, don’t just rely on men, you should also have a plan for yourself. When you are old and young, you still have your career to support you. A woman who has plans for the future is very charming. You don't have to be smart or beautiful. You can't ignore yourself and give up your own wonderful life.

Through this understanding, you should know whether the other person is the person you are looking for. Then work hard to get along and go hand in hand. As long as you have harmonious goals and complementary plans, you will be the most suitable. , are the pair that really should be together.

⑦The final trump card is that no topic is a topic in itself.

What if two people really like each other, both are introverts, and really can’t find the same topic? This is a new topic. If two people don’t have a topic, they can talk and communicate. Why don’t we have a topic? How do we have a topic? How do others come up with topics? Thus, the topic continues to be extended.

Most blind dates have no topics because of psychological reasons, nervousness, and sometimes rejection. People they don’t understand are people they don’t know. People who don’t know each other also because they want marriage as a premise and as prospective boyfriends and girlfriends. As a benchmark, when you get in touch, most people can't accept it, and there will be invisible pressure. Since you have chosen, accept it, otherwise you will find it yourself.

I wish LZ all the best!~