Grandparents spoil their grandchildren too much. What should children do if they think I am too strict?

The biggest disadvantage of loving a child is that you give the child an imaginary, he-centered, irregular world, and then when he grows up, he will get lessons and pains in the real society, and then learn from the pains what others learned from childhood to college. First of all, why do old people like to spoil their children? First, it is too easy to spoil and educate children. Follow the children, the children are happy, and the adults are at ease; To educate children, we must set rules for them, let them move towards self-discipline, have the ability to live independently, and strive for a place in society in the future. This is a job that requires energy, physical strength and intelligence. Second, children are grandchildren, not sons, and old people don't have to consider their children's future. It's so pleasant to spoil him and let him try to turn around his knees. As for the adult family of the child in the future, it is natural for the parents of the child to be worried. Then let's talk about what spoiled children look like when they grow up.

Friends who read Ode to Joy may remember Fan's brother, who is over 3 years old. He can't even do a real job, and he is heavily in debt. A family of three is still gnawing at the old man and sister, feeling at ease. Although I am spoiled by my parents, I feel that I am the center of the world since I was a child, and I have to rely on others to do bad things. He didn't learn self-discipline, tolerance, getting along with others, hard work, persistence, gratitude and consideration for others. Although his parents spoil him, I doubt that he will be able and willing to repay his parents in the future.

1. Strong self-centeredness. When a child is one to two years old, he naturally thinks he is the center of the world because his cognition is very limited. If when he was a child, most people around him (family, relatives and friends) spoiled him, or the most powerful and authoritative people spoiled him and made him feel dependent, he certainly felt like a king, a princess and a "bully" at home. If the school suffers a little injustice in the process of growing up, his family will call him to make a decision, and his self-centered cognition will continue as a child. Self-centered people are particularly difficult to get along with, without good friends, colleagues are difficult to get along with, and so on. Some only children find it difficult to get along after marriage. One of the important reasons is that both of them have a strong sense of self-centeredness, and no one wants and doesn't know how to get along and communicate with others.

2. Poor self-discipline. We are all social people, and we all need to learn to control our own desires and adapt to the needs of rules; To achieve the goal, we need self-discipline, persistence and sometimes even hardship. Spoiling children means having no requirements or rules for them. For a long time, how can children be willing and used to doing things within the rules when they grow up? When I grow up, I naturally don't want to abide by school discipline, social norms and work requirements. After such a person takes part in the work, he will either suffer for a while and suddenly wake up, or he will not be able to do any work for long.

3, can't insist, poor happiness, and I don't know how to be grateful. It may be because their demands were quickly met from childhood, and the doting children were unwilling to wait and were dissatisfied with the happiness they generally felt.

In a word, I think the biggest disadvantage of doting on children is that you give them an imaginary, he-centered, irregular world, and then when they grow up, they will learn from the real society, suffer hardships, and then learn from the pain what others have known since childhood. However, some of them will change themselves when they realize this, which will be more painful.