How can a son be poor and a daughter rich?

When Yang Lan was three or four years old, she lived with her grandmother in Shanghai. Her young uncle often took her to the top red house restaurant for western food, took photos at Huaihai Road, and went to see the latest three-dimensional movies on weekends when she was paid. The elders accused him of spending money recklessly for a child. He said that a girl should see the world, or a piece of cake would coax her away in the future. If the family is well-off, let the daughter see the bustling world more, broaden her horizons, make the girl smarter, and pay attention to the difference between vanity and cultivation. If there are no conditions, let her read more books. A good book is only a dozen or twenty dollars, but it can let her daughter discover how wonderful the outside world is. The main essence of a girl's rich upbringing is to cultivate her temperament, broaden her horizons, increase her ability to read the world and enhance her knowledge. A pampered girl knows what she wants and what is really worth pursuing, because she is well informed, independent, independent and smart. When she reaches the age of sixty, she will not be easily tempted by all kinds of glitz, prosperity and vanity. The most important quality that girls should cultivate is understanding. She has a good personality, can control her emotions and is grateful to those who help her. She is an elegant lady. A father once taught his daughter this way: "It is not easy for a man to become noble. He must have a successful career, prominent position, enough money, good knowledge and cultivation ... It is very simple for a girl to become an aristocrat-she doesn't have to have the status of a princess, rich family background, gorgeous clothes and aristocratic education ... just keep a distance from those smelly boys and always respect her body and mind. No matter what era, East or West, for both sexes, as long as a girl is awesome, she will be noble in men's hearts. This has nothing to do with when or where. The so-called trendy concepts are temporary. " First, girls with taste will begin to learn to manage themselves with care when they are in their twenties. Reflected in their appearance and cultivation. Every girl is special and should have her own unique taste. Many girls may think that taste is linked to fashion or luxury goods, but it is not. Taste is a person's attitude towards things. Different versions of the same thing will appear in different people's sight, and the value and taste of the item itself are not high or low. To some extent, a person's taste and her temperament complement each other. The taste depends on a girl's discovery of new things in her daily life. Taste is her own unique taste, and every girl should have her own taste. A cheap piece of jewelry, as long as you wear your own variety, can also show your own taste. Usually you can read more fashion magazines to improve your appreciation of clothes. When girls are in their twenties, they have already begun to get in touch with society slowly. In the process of interacting with others, conversation and cultivation are the best ways to conquer others. I don't trust a girl who doesn't like reading. She will be full of wisdom. When you have nothing to do, go to the bookstore and carefully select some books that can improve yourself and buy them to read at home. Whether it is a masterpiece, financial management or encouragement, there are places worth learning. Books can enrich people's lives and change people's minds. Choosing to read a good book is better than an excellent tutor. Second, develop good reading habits. A girl who likes reading must be calm and have a good attitude, because in the sea of books, a girl can absorb nutrients with a big mouth. A girl who likes reading, she must be an elegant and intellectual woman. Studying hard can make people feel calm, and there is a lot of fun hidden in the book. When you meet the books you are interested in, you will find that you are in a happy mood, and every book has great wisdom. The books you have read will be the social capital for girls. I believe no one will like to associate with a superficial girl. Choose the right book, it can teach people a lot of philosophy, and will let you learn to meet the pain or happiness in life with a peaceful mind. Women with real taste have the habit of reading. Third, try to find that beautiful girls in life will escape those gloomy novels when they are in their twenties. It will only bring us closer and closer to sadness, and life is not a replica of the plot in the novel. Don't always remind yourself of your misfortune. You know, there are still many people in this world who are less lucky than you. As long as you can look up and see the sunshine, you are lucky. Those setbacks in life are just an episode compared with a person's life. If you want to gain a foothold in this society, you must have a peaceful mind. In the life of suffering, we are always choosing and being chosen by others. We should have the spirit of Ah Q, and a painful and happy life is our choice. Why should we indulge in pain? Some people fall into an unfortunate thought because of emotional or work setbacks, which leads them to become pessimistic people. No matter what you do, you are afraid of losing, or you feel that you will not succeed. What a person pretends to be, she can only live in the prison she has set for herself. Who is qualified to say that she won't succeed? Who can say that he won't succeed? People who want to succeed are optimistic, pessimism is always an obstacle to success, and only positive emotions can make life better. I believe tomorrow will be better than today. As long as you work hard, society will be fair Don't complain about your life, otherwise it will only prove that you haven't really worked hard. Make friends with thoughtful people. When girls are in their twenties, they will start to choose friends purposefully. Social contacts are very important, and the circle of friends you choose to join will also have a great impact on your life. If your friends are all positive and optimistic people, you will be infected by them. If your friends are pessimists, they only complain about life all day, but they don't work hard for long. It is very important for people to choose their friends. Sometimes, if you want to know a person, you can also know him from what kind of friend he is. Don't make friends easily, but also pay attention to who you choose to make friends with. A good friend can make great changes in your life, and he will make you optimistic. Girls in their twenties should make more friends and be selfish. In other words, they should make more helpful friends, and you can learn from them. But if you want to make friends, you should be sincere to them. Don't associate with them in order to take advantage of them. No one is a fool. Others can clearly see how good you are to others. Use your sincerity to make friends with those excellent people with ideas! 5. Stay away from bubble idol dramas. Girls in their twenties still like to watch idol dramas, which shows that you are too naive and ridiculous. It's time to stay away from those fake idol dramas. Prince Charming and Cinderella on TV are what boys or girls in life yearn for. They don't really exist, and some plots in TV dramas sometimes deeply affect people's ideas. For example, there will be a vicious mother-in-law in some TV dramas, or the people who love themselves are actually their own brothers and sisters. These plots are designed to make people feel emotional. They can't be associated with real life. They are beyond life. Girls should stop indulging in this false fairy tale atmosphere and watch more programs that can help them when they have time. If you want to understand society, you can't pass those bubble idol dramas. They are poisonous. When some people are deeply poisoned, it will directly affect their outlook on life and values, such as getting rich overnight or being penniless overnight. They may exist in life, but they are not as simple and direct as shown in TV series, and love and affection are not as decisive and cruel as shown in movies. Idol dramas will affect people's ability to judge society, so please stay away from bubble idol dramas. I believe that an excellent girl will not spend a lot of time indulging in idol dramas. Sixth, learn patience and tolerance. When girls reach their twenties, they will gradually learn to be patient and tolerant. Society is not a wayward place, and the temper of those big ladies will gradually converge, because sometimes it may make you lose your self-esteem and become an accused uneducated woman. Giving those unfriendly people a kind smile can not only make them feel ashamed, but also leave a good impression of generosity and understanding. Patience is not cowardice, nor does it hurt self-esteem, but tolerance. Please let go of your bad temper of righteous words and give way at an appropriate time, which will not only show your self-restraint, but also make you a popular girl. There are many unfair things and people you can't accept in your life. We can't try to change others. Instead of criticizing others' behavior loudly and angrily, it is better to give others a smile with an understanding attitude. No one will hurt a kind person. Arguing with others at the top of your lungs will not win the so-called self-esteem, but will make you lose it. Seven, cultivate a healthy attitude, pay attention to your body. When girls reach their twenties, they must learn to adjust their mentality and protect their bodies. Health is the most important thing, I believe everyone knows, but when it is really done, it is not a simple matter. Girls in their twenties should start to pay attention to their diet. It is recommended to read more books on diet. No girl should ignore her health for one reason or another. No matter how beautiful tomorrow is, you always greet it with a morbid attitude, and you won't feel its beauty. Eight, let beauty become your own capital. Girls are young. This is beauty. There are no ugly girls, only lazy girls. The average girl will have her own unique beauty as long as she dresses up a little. When a girl is in her twenties, she will start to let your beauty play a role and give your beauty enough voice at the right time. Not every girl has a beautiful appearance. Make your beautiful appearance your capital and use it when necessary. It can open many difficulties in your life. Although some people sometimes say that a beautiful girl is a vase, a vase is a work of art if it is put in the right place. A girl's youth and beauty are only a few short years, so make good use of your beauty. However, girls can't be complacent because they are beautiful. Only a beautiful appearance and inner wisdom are excellent women. Please make rational use of their beauty, and don't let yourself sink because of their short-lived beauty. You will live well without any man. When girls are in their twenties, they should treat their emotions rationally. Many girls live a miserable and negative life because of a man. No one can grasp the emotional things. Why do they want to be caught by a man? A man who doesn't appreciate you is not qualified for you to pity him. Every girl is beautiful. She is waiting for a man who knows her to appear. When a man leaves, he can only say that the man who understands you hasn't appeared yet. A man is not a girl's whole life. Instead of letting yourself fall into a hopeless love, it is better to turn around smartly, enrich yourself and devote yourself to work and study, and wait for the man who left you to find out that you are like this. Once I thought I couldn't live without him, but later I asked myself a hundred times: Can't I live without him? One hundred and twenty times, the answer is: I will live well. Girls should never trample on themselves, and don't think that you can get men's love if you are satisfied with perfection. Love is beautiful, girls are beautiful, and no man can blaspheme! Leaving a man who doesn't appreciate you is the most gorgeous turn. Although I am unwilling, the painful torture makes me have no energy to run your work or study. Ten, with the motivation of financial management, learn to invest and manage girls. When they are in their twenties, they must begin to learn how to manage money. Don't think that they can't become rich, so they spend money lavishly, and don't think that there will be endless money tomorrow, but spend today's money in the wrong place. There are many books on financial management on the market now, all of which are good. Girls can have a look when they are free. To develop good financial habits, you can read more books on investment management that can make money, which are intangible wealth. Girls, no matter how much money you earn now, you should plan for your tomorrow. A clever woman should know how to spend money. How to spend money is actually an art. Mary's husband is a very rich man. She once told me about her husband. She said: My husband sometimes prefers to spend a lot of money on something, but he cares about spending a little money. I didn't understand it then. Later, I thought about it and found out that her husband was rich because he knew how to spend money and spent it on practical things. No matter how expensive it is, he doesn't blink, but some extra money in life can be saved. Some rich people will also show meanness in life, which is their habit all the time, otherwise, they will not become rich. 1 1. Love and marriage can be shared. Girls in their twenties will face the pressure of marriage. Some people will say that love and marriage are two different things. A woman and a man can live together when they get married, which is not necessarily what she really loves. The man a woman marries can provide a warm and comfortable home for herself, but he may not be the one she really loves. Faced with these remarks, it seems that many people get married for the sake of marriage, and under the pressure of family and society, they get married for the sake of marriage. Some people get married for a purpose, perhaps to give themselves a place to stay, perhaps to help their future careers, or perhaps to get something from each other. Ask those sweet newlyweds and you will know that sometimes love and marriage can be owned together. Marriage is the grave of love. It can only be said that neither side knows how to manage love. I believe that before two people decide to get married, they must have feelings for each other, but the day after marriage makes love dull. This is only because after marriage, both men and women put aside the romance in love and devoted themselves to their work. Those unmarried girls should never get married for some purpose. Getting married is a very simple thing. Don't make it so complicated. I believe that every girl longs for love. When a girl meets the person she loves deeply, she will find that if she wants to be with him, whether she is rich or poor, whether she is alive or dead may not matter. Girls should not get married for the sake of marriage, nor should they get married for a certain life. 12. Who says that women are not as good as boys and girls in their twenties? We must firmly believe that men are not the only ones who can make achievements in life or in the workplace. Nowadays, women's thoughts are trendy, and successful women appear in all walks of life. As long as a woman works hard, she can also shuttle in a man's world. Women have a lot of capital, and they have a slight advantage in the workplace. In some industries, women will play their unique advantages to fight for it. They are all beautiful, capable and tough, and can make men submit. Women should not always think about developing in the kitchen, only capable women can be appreciated by men. Now the role of housewife is out of fashion, and there are still many wonderful worlds waiting for women to pursue. Women don't want to be attached to a man. In this society, no one must care about anyone for no reason. A woman has no idea of how to attach herself to a man. In this personality environment, men also like women with personality and ability. Who says women are inferior to men? Work hard, as long as you have your own sky, are you afraid that there are no white clouds under this sky? As long as you are a talented woman, are you afraid that excellent men will not appreciate you? The true meaning of "poverty" as a parent raising a boy must be clear. Now that my son has suffered, he will become a "rich" person and a real man when he grows up! "Boys are poor, girls are rich" is a long-standing godson motto in China. Deep-rooted. There must be a reason. So, why should boys be "poor"? How should we understand this traditional educational concept? What is the profound truth and connotation of "poor" raising boys? This is undoubtedly a question that every boy's parents should think carefully. For every boy, whether he grows up or matures, he needs self-reliance, more responsibilities, greater difficulties and unremitting self-struggle. It can be said that the growth and maturity of a successful man is a process of constantly challenging himself and striving hard. Perhaps, many people think that raising a boy "poor" means controlling the child's expenses and not giving him too much enjoyment to avoid spoiling him. This understanding is one-sided, which is different from what we call "poor" raising a boy. We believe that the more important significance of "poverty" in raising a boy is to understand the child's will, quality, character and mentality through personal feelings of "poverty" and "bitterness". Without this process, boys will easily form the habit of profligacy, coveting enjoyment, being fragile, incompetent, irresponsible and ignorant of the world. Just like some city pupils who heard that there are children who don't have enough to eat in the countryside, they were surprised and asked, "Why don't you eat chocolate when you are hungry?" This can't help but remind people of the dementia emperor Jin Huidi in history. The world is in chaos, and the people are in trouble. He said, "Why not eat minced meat?" How can such a boy face the test of future life? Sooner or later, they will be eliminated by society. As the old saying goes, "When you are in trouble, you are successful." Boys can only "succeed" if they become talents and do not avoid "difficulties and hardships". Let boys approach "rich" prematurely and avoid "poor". It seems that they like it very much, but it actually hurts. Therefore, boys must be tempered in the necessary "poverty" and "bitterness", and know how to be proud of their efforts and ashamed of their arrogance and extravagance. Tung Chee-hwa, the former chief executive of the Hong Kong Special Administrative Region, is the son of Dong Haoyun, the world shipping king. Dong Haoyun is one of the richest people in Hong Kong. He is very strict with his children and never dotes on them. Tung Chee-hwa understood his father's painstaking efforts. When he was studying, he lived a very simple life. He goes back and forth between campus and residence by bus every day, and devotes himself to his study. He has never been different because he is the son of the ship king. After Tung Chee-hwa graduated, everyone thought that Dong Haoyun would arrange his son to go abroad for further study or take charge of the family business, but unexpectedly, he arranged for his son to join General Motors as an ordinary employee. He said to his son, "Xiaohua, I don't doubt that you are an ideal person, but I'm worried that your fighting spirit is not enough." You shouldn't think you have something to rely on. You must take the initiative to find bitterness, temper your will, accept the challenge brought by life and overcome it. " Tung Chee-hwa listened to his father and worked hard in the United States for four years. He not only learned advanced management experience, but also learned to be a man, cultivated the spirit of hard work and laid a solid foundation for his future career. It can be seen that Dong Haoyun, as the richest man in the world, is well versed in the way of "poor" raising children, and finally raised a very excellent son. Of course, when we say "poor" to raise boys here, we don't want boys to eat chaff and swallow vegetables, recall bitter thoughts and sweet thoughts, and make boys suffer unnecessary inhuman torture and pain. Instead, we want parents to reduce their pampering of boys and arrange boys to replace them, so that boys can have more experience and exercise from childhood and cultivate their tenacious character. To sum up, we can understand and grasp the connotation of "poor" raising boys from the following aspects: let boys live a "hard life". Rich material life, giving children a lot of money, is the first killer to ruin children. Some people joke that children have a lot of money, not only for enjoyment, leisure and comparison, but also for prison cars and prisons. With the rapid development of economy, it is understandable that parents with bulging pockets spend money to train their children, which can create good learning conditions and environment for their children, but they must not give them too extravagant material enjoyment. Otherwise, it's not too late to save money for your son when he grows up and has a normal view of money. For the sake of his son's positive progress, for his son to develop the virtue of diligence and thrift, and for his son's lack of warmth and bad thoughts, it is better to let him live a "poor life." The second connotation of "poverty" training: let boys experience frustration. The flowers in the greenhouse can't stand the storm. The concept of loving children, contained in the mouth and held in the hand, will make boys weak-willed, psychologically weak, and go to extremes if they are slightly frustrated or frustrated. Frustration will inspire the boy's fearless spirit and face difficulties positively. As parents, we must let our son encounter "setbacks" and encourage him to overcome them. Connotation 3 of "poverty" training: let boys learn to live independently. "Clothes come to reach out, food comes to mouth" and "everything is arranged", which is the taboo of educating people. Many college students can't cook, wash clothes and fold quilts, which is incredible. Can such a person accept the challenge of society? Can you be creative? Therefore, parents should teach as early as possible from an early age, so that they can independently undertake what they can. It is inevitable that people should take care of themselves, do housework, cook and do things independently! Connotation 4 of "poor" support: let the boy suffer some grievances appropriately. Boys must learn to be strong. If you are wronged properly, you will have a deeper understanding of life When a son does something wrong, it is necessary for parents to give him appropriate criticism and punishment. Even if he is wronged, it is a strategy to educate people. Such a child, after experiencing all kinds of emotional experiences, has less rebellious psychology, strong psychological endurance and healthy psychology, and is easy to achieve great things. Connotation 5 of "poverty" training: let boys learn to take responsibility. Responsibility is a badge on a person's shoulder. Men are more attractive because they dare to take responsibility and don't shirk it. So parents should educate boys about their sense of responsibility from an early age. Let them shoulder the dual responsibilities of family and society in the future and become a man with indomitable spirit. Connotation 6 of "poverty" training: make boys more optimistic and loving. Optimism and kindness are essential qualities for a mature and excellent man. Therefore, parents should guide their children through different ways and means, wipe away the dirt in their hearts, eliminate selfishness in their hearts, and let their children grow into an optimistic, cheerful, kind and sincere person. Every parent loves his son, but love can be divided into "little love" and "great love". The practice of blindly doting on your son is "little love"; The practice of "poor" raising a son is the real "great love". Love is boundless. Only under this kind of education can boys grow into healthy, happy and excellent men.