Talk about couples complaining about each other halfway.

In people's eyes, everyone yearns for fairy tales and long-term happy marriages, but nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory, and so is marriage. Holding hands doesn't mean being together for life. Many people eventually become other people's halfway couples, thinking that they can be sweet and happy, but they don't know that halfway couples are more difficult. Many people don't think highly of half-way couples, because they always feel that such a family may not last long, and they often look at such marriages with colored glasses.

Some even say that both husband and wife are thieves halfway, describing that after the failure of marriage, both of them have bad feelings in their hearts and will guard against each other. I don't know if the second half sentence is more classic and can solve these problems perfectly.

In fact, it is difficult for many first-time married couples to open their hearts, let alone half-way couples. I have to say that some couples are very happy when they give up halfway, but there are usually the following reasons for being unhappy!

1. Can't open up.

Many couples are too hurt by their predecessors to open their hearts to their current partners. In many couples who give up halfway, they just live on each other. They are afraid of being hurt again and rarely have a frank heart-to-heart conversation.

There will be many psychological problems in marriage: we often look at this marriage from the perspective of the previous marriage and compare the advantages and disadvantages of the predecessor and the current one, which will easily lead to emotional cracks between each other and make the other feel embarrassed.

At the same time, due to the psychological effect brought by the last marriage, we may not have completely got out of the shadow brought by the last failed marriage, so we will be wary of each other, and every little thing in life will accumulate and eventually lead to quarrels.

2. Compare the former and the current.

Many couples like to compare the present with their predecessors. If the present is better than the predecessor, there are many advantages, and this marriage is easy to get along with. If you are not as good as your predecessor now, it will be even more difficult to get along with.

Money makes it difficult for them.

In fact, many couples give up halfway to live together, especially the older ones, because the failed marriage will make them have a defensive mentality towards each other. In their eyes, they no longer believe in love, but only in themselves. Especially in terms of money, it is difficult to leave the money earned to the wife like the first marriage. Even though many women marry men without children, they still have a second-child husband to guard them.

4. Children's issues

Give up halfway, most couples have one child each, or one has one child. No matter which side of the child, as long as it is not born to both husband and wife, it is difficult for them to treat the child as their own, forming two camps. You are good to children, and I am good to children. This practice is no different from anyone else, not husband and wife at all.

As far as couples are concerned, many will have their own children just like "having children at home". In the face of children's problems, many people will unconsciously favor children, and it is difficult to achieve "a bowl of water is flat."

In the face of children's education problems, it is also easy to quarrel with each other. Because everyone's educational ideas are different, many problems such as children's extracurricular tutoring and children's educational expenditure will become the fuse, leading to quarrels between husband and wife.

Step 5 haggle over every ounce

For halfway couples, the "experience talk" and "gossip" of outsiders can easily lead to the cold war between them. If one party haggles over every ounce, it will easily lead to a quarrel.

In marriage, we will face many things that are easy to haggle over: the support of the elderly, incomplete contact with the ex-husband, secretly owning our own small vault, and lack of trust, all of which will lead to the "cold war" and make the already fragile feelings worse.

The above situation makes many people less optimistic about halfway couples.

However, many people ignore the second part: tolerance and understanding are piled up! Following this principle can actually reduce the contradiction between husband and wife by half. Below, I also talk about the understanding of the second half sentence.

1, pay attention to communication

Everyone is not perfect, there is no perfect person, only the superposition of two fifties. On the premise of tolerance, the two sides should also communicate with each other, tell each other their own ideas and bottom line, and give each other a chance to clarify misunderstandings.

Careful care is also a lubricant for each other's feelings: rub each other's shoulders when they come home hard, take the initiative to do housework or cook a delicious meal when they work overtime and stay up late, and offer hot brown sugar water when the woman is special.

2. Be honest about your feelings.

The relationship between husband and wife halfway is relatively fragile and can't stand the toss. We should integrate into each other's life circles as soon as possible, increase in-depth understanding and achieve emotional transparency.

When feelings are not harmonious, we should learn to sit down together and "talk it over" instead of being suspicious. It is important to trust each other no matter what problems you encounter.

3, filial piety to the elderly, cut off the predecessor.

Everyone will become an old man. In fact, the attitude towards the elderly can also show their filial piety, but also show that they have regarded each other as a "family." As the saying goes, "If there is an old family, there is a treasure", and the experience of the old can also help us.

The relationship with the predecessor should also be cut off, and there should be no emotional entanglements. No one can stand the fact that the person next to him has "broken" with his predecessor. It is best to confess everything about your predecessor, so as not to "bury the mine" for future misunderstandings. Tangled love is actually a lose-lose situation. The nostalgia for the predecessor is the harm to the present.

If it's because of children, you must communicate with your predecessor and learn to discuss with your current one in order to solve the problem. Be transparent to each other and don't create emotional barriers.

If you really love someone, you will be jealous of him, and now he will feel uncomfortable because of your contact with your ex. Over time, people will not understand and have conflicts.

For our predecessors, we should "forget the past and let each other live alone."

4. Treat children equally and be tolerant.

The premise of marriage is affection and love. With these preconditions, we can "love me, love my dog", treat each other's children as our own and treat them with a fair concept.

The attitude towards children can actually represent the attitude towards each other to a great extent. If the relationship with children is relatively relaxed, it will also be of great help to narrow the distance between them.

For children, you need to be tolerant. It is naive to think that children are the world. If you are really kind to your children, it is easy to make the new family laugh. There are always contradictions between children and between children and adults, especially some material disputes. But as long as adults don't interfere in children's affairs, but make friends with children, cultivate a friendship, tolerate each other and understand each other, they will get along well.

If the other child makes a mistake, it is not just to blame, but to care for and find a solution to "love" with the vision of "treating yourself as your own". When it comes to things that are "unfair" to the two children, we should communicate, not complain.

Perhaps, your children don't accept your present position, but you should know that "everyone's heart is meat". When one person tries to influence another, children's hearts melt.

Husband and wife are still a good match, but the original match is gone forever, so learn to change: half-way couples are better.

In fact, when two broken hearts snuggle tightly, that warmth is enough to touch them for a lifetime. Perhaps, halfway couples have those precious experiences, and they know how to cherish them better. After all, couples are thieves halfway, and they know a lot of money!

I hope everyone can grow old together, feel at home and have a happy family!

Look at your own destiny through numerology. After the seminar teacher's prediction, you can know:

1. Analyze your congenital marriage and give you some suggestions on choosing a spouse.

2. Analyze the favorable years for your divorce/marriage in the future to help you grasp your marriage.

3. Analyze your congenital peach blossom and see your life.

Analyze your positive personality and characteristics to help you find the right person as soon as possible.

5. Analyze the years that are unfavorable to feelings and prevent emotional crisis in advance.

6. Professional karma numerology teacher gives you 20 19 happiness guidance to help you be happy for a whole year.

7. And your partner's personal information, such as:

Ta's most likely occupation or industry

Is Ta older than you? Still small?

What is the approximate height and range of Ta?

What are the personality characteristics of Ta? Introverted or extroverted

Is it through free love or friend introduction?

Will Ta change for you before and after love?

Is your married life harmonious?

Other appropriate improvement suggestions, etc.

Coincidence is not necessarily the person you are most worried about and moved by, but it is definitely the most comfortable person to get along with. Through the teacher's professional analysis, accurately grasping the positive fate of life can not only avoid detours when falling in love, but also minimize unnecessary harm and pain on the emotional road.