Get married and go back to your parents' house for a few days (there is a tradition of going back to your hometown for seven days)

Great China has a long history of more than 5,000 years, which makes every region have different customs and habits, but one thing seems to maintain national unity, that is, "Huimen". Huimen, also called mothering, is a traditional marriage custom in China. This custom refers to the girl's first visit to her parents' home after marriage, which usually lasts for seven days. So what will happen in these seven days? Generally, the customs of every place are different, but there are many similarities. Now let's look at them.

Let's talk about our hometown first. My hometown is in a very rich mountain village in the north. Usually on the third day after marriage, the couple begins to prepare to go back to their parents' house for seven days. Over the years, although many traditional customs have been forgotten, many have remained. Although modern people don't live in their parents' homes for seven days because of their busy work, the custom of returning home has always been preserved. Many people are curious. What did the old mother say to the bride after living in her family for seven days?

Let's talk about what to pay attention to when going back to the door.

It may be easier to go back to the door than to get married. When I got married, I went through all the complicated etiquette, so these customs of returning to the door are nothing. Although simple, there are still some things to pay attention to. The young couple put on new clothes, dressed neatly, brought gifts and went back to their parents' house happily.

Although it is said that a girl is a guest when she gets married, it is just a cliche. In modern times, whether a girl is married or not is a treasure in the hands of her parents. Going back to the door these days is also a good time for the new uncle and his family to enhance their feelings.

One thing to note: go back to your mother's house and sleep in separate rooms.

Some people don't quite understand this custom, but in fact it is the case in many places. When going to bed at night after returning home, the couple should be separated. What is this custom, sleeping separately when you get married? Because parents still can't accept their daughter's marriage psychologically, they are usually allowed to sleep separately. Some say it's because the old mother will call her daughter to her side to talk sweet words at any time these days, and the two will talk more, say what they think and say more.

Many people can't understand this custom, and they always feel that there are many things they can't say during the day and wait until the dead of night at night. In fact, in ancient times, because of the long distance and inconvenient transportation, many girls rarely went back to their parents' homes when they got married.

There are also many people who are curious about what a mother will say to her daughter. In fact, the old mother pulls her daughter to her side, and besides talking about her family, she will also say some intimate words to her daughter, which are generally these aspects.

Ask your daughter if she is used to living in her husband's house;

In ancient times, because of the inconvenient transportation, I couldn't often go home to visit my relatives, so whenever I had the opportunity to go back to my parents' house, my parents would always tell my daughter, not to mention this is the first time. After all, there was no telephone in ancient times, and it took a long time to write letters. Therefore, both parents and daughters cherish the seven-day visit and are very concerned about their daughter's life in her husband's family.

Tell your daughter not to forget her roots.

No matter now or in ancient times, when girls get married, they all have their own small families, but parents usually tell their daughters not to forget their roots and come back to visit their parents often. No matter whether her husband's family is rich or poor, she should live a good life and give her husband a branch, which is also a custom handed down from ancient times.

Pass on your feelings about marriage and family to your daughter.

After girls get married, their roles in life suddenly change, not only physically, but also psychologically. Girls should start to adapt to the role of being a wife, have children and teach them. When they are girls, they don't care. When they get married, they need to know more. It is really necessary for mothers to pass on a lot of experience to their children to help girls live a better marriage life.

Different customs in different places pay different attention to "Huimen". What is the custom in your family? Let's share the discussion together.