How can you live with more dignity when you are old and have no children?

No matter how rich or poor, people should live with dignity in front of their children when they are old. They can't feel inferior and even look down on their children. As long as they have normal intelligence and good health, they can gain dignity.

We have an old man here who is over 70 years old. However, he works for the children like a slave every day, and is looked down upon or even scolded by his wife, who is dirty, lazy and steals vegetables.

In the past, old people worked for their daughter-in-law's son every day, cleaning, cooking, doing housework and taking care of their grandchildren. Now I'm old, my brain is not working well, I'm forgetful, I can't do more work, and I'm slow, so I'm rejected by my children. They are useless waste.

However, when her mother-in-law was young, the husband and wife bought a house for their children, married a daughter-in-law, and gave everything they had, but left no pension money. Now, there is nothing they can do, but relying on children is rejected by them.

When people are old, they must leave pension money, and they can't give everything to their children.

Parents have contributed their lives to their children and grandchildren, with no regrets. If they meet filial and sensible children, they will be happy and dignified in their later years.

Unfilial children don't know how to honor the elderly, and his old age will be very painful, so the elderly must prepare their own pension money. They don't panic if they have money in their hands, and children don't have to be afraid of unfilial.

When you are old, you must know how to cherish and maintain your body and get rid of all bad hobbies.

If the elderly want to live with quality and dignity, they must have a healthy body and a healthy and correct mind. Don't do anything wrong, don't respect the elderly, do things that are detrimental to morality, public morality and image, ruin the reputation of the elderly for a lifetime, and be looked down upon or even laughed at by others.

Keep a healthy lifestyle, don't pursue excitement, do things with incorrect views, don't stay up late, smoke less and drink less, know how to maintain your body, remember to have a physical examination every year, and be prepared and healthy, so that you can live longer and live with more dignity.

It's never too old to learn and find your own healthy interests.

When people are old, they can't do nothing and have no pursuit every day, and live a boring life every day. On the contrary, they should have their own interests, such as gardening, keeping small pets and animals, fishing or playing chess, reading or studying, or playing the piano or singing. In short, they must have a hobby they like in order to live happily in their later years.

Don't worry about children, don't worry about society.

When children are older, they have their own opinions and opinions. Don't pick on children everywhere. That doesn't make sense either. No matter what you do and have different opinions, you can keep your own opinions, you can't conflict with others, you can't force others to accept your opinions, and you can't like things in society and get angry. That's very bad for your health. Old people should be like old people, and don't make trouble with themselves and everything.

In short, in order for children to honor themselves, they must set an example, take the lead, set an example, and respect other people's opinions, so that others will respect you.

Be healthy, financially independent and do what you can. Don't disclose or distribute your property or pension money to your children in advance. That won't do.

However, if you can help your children's difficulties, do your best, don't be a miser, be caring and enthusiastic, and the elderly can live with dignity and value.

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I am the fifth brother who talks about emotions. I'm 58 years old and I'm about to step into the ranks of the elderly. I think that if I want to live with dignity in front of my children, I should do the following.

0 1. Take care of your old arms and legs.

As the saying goes, health is the capital of revolution. A person has suffered all his life, so he can't eat or drink. When he is old, a sickly body and a "medicine jar" that often deals with hospitals, how can you enjoy the happiness in his later years?

As a writer wrote, when I was a child, I thought peanuts were the best thing to eat, but unfortunately I had no money to buy them. When I had money to buy them, my teeth fell out.

Therefore, the human body is like a machine, and there will always be such problems in old age, so it should be maintained in time. You can run, dance, play a set of boxing and practice qigong. Life lies in exercise, your physical fitness is improved, and minor illnesses and disasters can be resisted, so as to improve the quality of life in your later years.

02. Give yourself some background

One's life is to live for children and give everything for them. When you get old, you should also make some plans for yourself and save a pension for yourself in advance.

It is said that money is not everything, but money is absolutely impossible. It doesn't matter how much money you spend for your children. On the other hand, you can't reach out and ask your child for money.

Take good care of your pension money, don't be fooled by others, what to buy for financial management and health care products. You have worked so hard to save your pension money all your life, and you may just waste it and throw it into the water quietly.

03. Leave yourself an old face.

When a person leads a well-behaved life, he will become a respected old man and be respected, making your family proud of you.

At home, what should be said and done. Pay more and take less. Treat your daughter-in-law like your own daughter. And daughter-in-law, speak appropriately and avoid suspicion.

In society, you should look like an old man. You should be aboveboard, and don't do something sneaky and shady, because you don't respect the elderly and do something that your family looks down upon.

In short, the sunset is the most beautiful, and old age is the last stage of a person's life. People leave their names, geese leave their voices. If you want to live with dignity in front of your children, you must first be a respectable elder. People who respect others will respect others.

Now he has entered the ranks of the elderly and still has dignity in front of his children. So how do you live with dignity in front of children? I want to do the following:

First of all, we must be strict with ourselves in life or public places, restrain our words and deeds, and set a good example for our children.

Second, don't be the only one in the family. Whoever doesn't listen to you has the final say. Overconfidence often backfires, creating contradictions and losing dignity.

The third is to manage the family's financial problems, which is the most important problem in the family. In life, let children know the family's income and expenditure and others. If there are many children, if you want to help the children in trouble, you must make it clear to other children and don't leave sequelae. Once this thing is not done well, your dignity in front of the children will be gone in an instant!

Fourth, do a good job in caring for children's work, life, study and other issues, help them solve some worries, reduce the pressure on children, and make them live a healthy life and enjoy family happiness.

I want to do the above, you will naturally have dignity in front of your children, and you will naturally be happy in your later years!

If the elderly want to live with dignity in front of their children, they must first take good care of their bodies, take good care of themselves, have money, have their own house to live in, don't rely on their children to support them, don't ask them for money, and mind their own affairs, so as to be tolerant of all people and things. Only in this way can their children be respected and live with dignity.

Our village is a big village with 7000 people. Tell some real stories about people without dignity! A few special cases may help you realize something. ...

Uncle Zhang was tall and handsome when he was young. He was a pig killer. He made a lot of money and lived a very comfortable life. At ordinary times, he is willing to take men and women to eat and drink, won the hearts of the people and respected.

Before he was 60, his wife died of illness. Uncle Zhang was a little depressed a few years ago, and there was nothing wrong with him. But after he was 65 years old, he suddenly became a sex maniac. He giggled when he saw a woman. He can't control himself from time to time and doesn't care about the older generation. I wonder if anyone has seen this disease.

Although everyone knew that he was ill, they stayed away from him from now on. Later, my son was afraid that he would cause trouble and was ashamed of him. He is not allowed to go out at all, and he is often locked in the backyard, which makes people feel very pitiful.

A few years later, a person who was very prestigious and respected in the village gradually became an "old goat" and an old madman in the village population. Sometimes. Even his son and daughter-in-law say the same thing about him.

I think it is understandable that Uncle Zhang is sick, but in reality, there are very few elderly people who are obviously not sick, but they don't respect the elderly, resulting in the loss of life and dignity.

Uncle Li is lazy by nature, hardly does housework, doesn't like changing clothes and doesn't like taking a bath. People are particularly greedy. When my wife was alive, although she often called names, she didn't feel sorry for him. She often helps him fight, and she always seems to get by.

But after his wife left, his son and daughter-in-law didn't take care of him so much. As a result, Uncle Li became the "dirtiest" old man in the village, but he still relied on the old to sell his old age. He often went to other people's homes to eat and drink, and sometimes stole chickens and took meat, which made the villagers very bored and disgusted.

However, although Uncle Li lost face, he was thick-skinned and lived happily. Everyone in the village thinks that people are shameless, so there is nothing they can do about him.

Aunt Zhao lacks tolerance for people, and her personality is extremely picky and picky. She is unreasonable and tolerant. When she was young, she fought with her mother-in-law and neighbors, and everyone was afraid and scolded.

After the only son got married, Aunt Zhao, who is old and pale, is still "high-spirited" and "working". She is very vicious to her daughter-in-law, like a slave, making her do dirty work, finding fault and scolding every day, and threatening to "repair and reform" her daughter-in-law in the village within a year.

As a result, the daughter-in-law stayed for two months and ran away, and was beaten by her son. Later, my son begged for mercy to coax his daughter-in-law back and take her to work in Shanghai. Except for sending some money occasionally, he never comes back every Spring Festival. No one in the village paid attention to her, and she was extremely sad in her later years.

Aunt Qian is a good person, warm-hearted, kind-hearted and smiles at everyone. Especially for my two sons, I was really scared when I was a child, but I was scared when I held it in my hand.

Two sons were influenced by it, but it was not bad. They married the girl they liked and went home. I have been helpless since I was a child, and I have little skill. I have not earned any money after being married for many years, and my life is very poor. However, Aunt Qian is rich and always gives relief. Her son and daughter-in-law are getting older every day, and they can barely get by with her.

After his wife died, she was heartbroken to see her sons leading a hard life. She took out her life savings with her wife and gave them a total of 300 thousand. Unexpectedly, this is in trouble!

The eldest daughter-in-law feels that she has always been in the first place. After serving for several years, the money is the same, which is too eccentric for her. The second daughter-in-law thinks that all old people in the world spoil their children. The second one has less working years, lower salary and poorer people than the boss. The old lady can't take care of much.

In this way, they have a knot in their heart. In the long run, the family is getting unfriendly! First, each of them whispered to other family members, then the two sisters-in-law quarreled about it, and then the two brothers began to fight. Finally, no one wants to support their parents!

Without money, Aunt Qian lives alone in the cowshed, living in poverty and infinite sadness. ...

There is a saying that hundreds of people, all kinds. But the above is only a special case! There are several "special people" everywhere. I wonder if there is anyone special in your village and community?

Finally, to sum up a few words:

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Only when the elderly have money can they live with dignity in front of their children.

Let me tell you a true story. I have a female neighbor. She is under 60 years old this year. She has two sons and three daughters. When she was young, she did grain and oil business, and the money she earned bought a house in her own name. After her husband died a few years ago, she stopped doing business. She has no pension. After her youngest son got married, she bought a house and went out by herself. She lives in her house with her eldest son's family of three, because eating and drinking are free. It's not hard for her three daughters to go back to their parents' home for dinner. Her eldest daughter suggested that she find another wife, not only can someone talk to relieve boredom, but also provide her with food and shelter for free. She thinks her eldest daughter is right. It is better to find another companion than to look at the face of the eldest son. So the eldest daughter went to the matchmaking agency to find a widowed northeast old man for her mother. When she lived with the old man, she found that the old man's living expenses were only 500 yuan a month, and she wanted to buy some meat to eat. The old man actually enlarged half a pot of potatoes and burned them together. She wants to buy a chicken to cook at home. In front of so many people in the vegetable market, the old man dragged her and told her not to buy it. She told me it was a shame. She lives with the old man in a garage of nearly ten square meters, and piles things everywhere. It is not easy to turn things around. The most exasperating thing is that the old man treats her as a thief, and the living expenses of 500 yuan a month are afraid of her corruption.

After returning home, she found that her two sons' families did not welcome her. Her youngest daughter is distressed by her mother's helplessness and wants to ask her mother to stay with her family. The son-in-law turned against her and said that she was not welcome to go. The youngest daughter threatened her husband's consent with divorce, but she was forced to live in the basement. The matter was finally settled satisfactorily.

The house under her name was demolished the year before last, and 600,000 houses were demolished. Originally, the two sons wanted to share the money equally. She asked a lawyer for advice, and she wanted to take half of the demolition money. In the end, she got 300 thousand and the remaining 300 thousand. The two sons each get100000, and100000 is left to the three daughters to share equally. Since she had 300 thousand in her hand, she has become a hot topic now, and her children are scrambling to take her. she

Of course, the elderly are a vulnerable group, and the older they are (inversely proportional to their dignity), the more useless they are, which is beyond doubt! Most people who don't contribute to life have to go through this process of getting old slowly, which is a natural law! I'm almost seventy years old, which is the threshold of getting old, but I don't seem to be fully prepared myself. I seem to have an instinctive resistance to getting old, lest I be ignored when I am old. Be ignored; Marginalization! This probably needs an adaptation process!

As for "how old people live with dignity in front of their children", I have some experience myself.

The first is to keep the house when you are old! Don't live in a child's house for a long time (that's called dependence). No matter how filial your children are, it is not your home. Besides, keeping a proper distance from children can not only reduce bad blood, but also help maintain family ties! As the saying goes, "a nest of gold and silver is not as good as one's own." Anyway, this is my home, living freely, comfortably and practically! What's more, old-age care can't rely entirely on children. This house is the pension fee at the bottom of the closet!

Secondly, people's savings accumulated over the years must be in their own hands! If his children have no money, he can earn it again; If the old man has no money, you will die to fight for it! Asking the child for money when it's easy? Are you embarrassed? Once or twice. After a long time, where is your dignity?

Again, don't bother the children! Maintain the optimistic life of the old couple. Going out of the house and participating in various activities of old friends are beneficial to physical and mental health and prolong life! Keeping an old heart, being able to eat and play, and basically taking care of themselves are the greatest contributions to alleviating children's worries about their families!

Before answering this question, let me tell you a real example around me. A female colleague, neighbor and colleague of my unit joined the work in the same year, so she is close. I remember that I was still fully enjoying the care of my parents. My parents understand that only when we get married and work will they bring all kinds of local products and daily necessities from their hometown. Although my colleague's parents were only in their forties at that time, they claimed that they had begun to enjoy this happiness. Whenever I share the local products brought by my parents with my colleagues, my colleagues always say: I really envy you. You have hardworking and loving parents. Your parents really deserve respect ... at first, I didn't quite understand why she said that. I thought all parents were like this. I didn't know until I got along with my colleagues for a long time. In fact, there is a difference between being a parent. Some parents deserve respect, while others don't ... There are two younger brothers under my colleague, one is in high school and the other is in. All the living expenses are borne by my colleague, and her parents always let her buy things from the provincial capital and go back to the countryside. I remember my colleagues often buy several bags of fresh red peppers, noodles and pork to take home. These things are usually brought from the countryside to the city. Also, at that time, even the liquefied gas that was not available in cities below the provincial level was also divided into indicators, but her parents saw it and asked her to take it back. My colleague is the boss of the family, so she complains. At the same time, she has to do what her parents ask, otherwise her father will accuse her, her mother will cry in tears that she has no filial piety, and her parents will visit relatives and friends to play mahjong every day, so her colleagues passively become famous helpers. Her parents have lived in her small flat for a long time, and since the first house, the husband and wife have often been at odds, quarreling over oil, salt, sauce and vinegar ... I personally heard my colleague crying on the phone (it was a public phone at that time, and he was in the aisle) and said to the parents at the other end of the phone: You want to force me to death ... So, I summed up that if you want to live with dignity in front of the children, you must do the following:/kloc- Don't rely too much on your children. First of all, when you are not too old, you must be prepared for your own pension. Don't wait for the children to be raised early. Try to think for the children and reduce their financial burden. Secondly, exercise, try not to give your child any trouble, and don't give your child any trouble unless you have to. 2. Strive to create a better life for children. Although we don't approve of "gnawing at the old", if parents have the ability, they can lay a good economic foundation and career foundation for their children, so that they can eat less and take fewer detours. Why not? 3. When you have the ability and your child needs it, try to help. For example, taking grandchildren, although it is an obligation for parents to help their children take care of their children, it is also an obligation not to take children. However, the children are struggling. If you can help them relieve their worries and let them do their own things with more peace of mind, after all, in the most difficult time, you choose to sacrifice yourself for a few years, generally speaking, children will still be grateful. Therefore, I think parents must do the above if they want their children to live with dignity. As an old man, according to the standards of modern society, that is, people over 60 years old. Decades of life storms, decades of perseverance, decades of unremitting efforts, so that the years have worn away the edges and corners, carved a full face of knife marks.

The social development and progress in the past few decades have finally gone through an unbearable past. Years are getting longer and older. The past, like smoke, can only be pursued in dreams, leaving only nagging and memories.

How to spend the rest of my life with happiness and dignity is a question that every old man is constantly thinking about, and it is also a test of his life. If he looks back without regrets and teaches his children well, naturally, life is sweet and beautiful. If you waste your time when you are young, you will be as drunk as a fiddler today, and the road of life will go astray, and the natural dusk will be bleak!

How to live with dignity is difficult to unify, but it is nothing more than the following points.

First, as long as it is not a matter of principle, regardless of the child's affairs, it will cause unhappiness to the younger generation, and second, it will add chaos and cause family discord!

The second is to mind your own business as little as possible, don't talk through hearsay and deceive people, blow your porridge cold, and help others blow broth, which is offensive to people. You are like a person inside and outside!

The third is to respect the elderly and abide by social morality. Over the years, some elderly people have appeared in society from time to time. In public, they not only behave badly, but also behave rudely and even roll around, which is shameful!

The fourth is to do what you can and stand on your own two feet. It is best for the elderly to rely on their own waste heat as much as possible, whether in life or in economy, and be independent. Don't spend all your money and make yourself poor. Reaching out will annoy children and younger generations!

Fifth, a bowl of water is flat, don't attend to one thing and lose another. A family with many children, especially as an elder. Treat relatives and friends, interfere with their housework less, avoid if you can, and don't make trouble in your busy schedule. You are not human inside or outside!

Sixth, do our best to provide logistics services. In modern society, young people are under great pressure to live and work, and the competition is fierce. Taking care of the old and raising the young, buying a house and buying a car, costs a lot. As elders, although they can't share the economic and work pressure, they can help to look after children and do housework within the scope of physical conditions, so as to reduce the burden on the younger generation as much as possible and let them feel at ease in their careers and work!

Seventh, take part in some sports and social activities that are beneficial to physical and mental health. In modern society, there are not a few people who have developed information and are mercenary. There are often some reports in the news that lie to the elderly. There are many such cases around us. With the increase of age, the resolution of some ugly phenomena in society decreases. Don't listen to rumors and be deceived by lies, which will lead to the loss of money and health.

Eight is to establish a correct world outlook and outlook on life, and influence children and younger generations with their own words and deeds. The so-called fish begins to stink at the head. Old people should be sensible when they encounter things, distinguish between right and wrong, and never make trouble without reason. They also want to strive for three points, seniority, no one can help them. They must know that their misconduct will leave a mark on the younger generation!

In a word, as an old man, besides having a good body, he should also have a good attitude. Facing birth, illness and death, he should face it calmly, respect nature and laws, and never be unrealistic and conceited, which will inevitably increase the psychological pressure of the younger generation. Embrace the sunset and face life with a healthy and positive attitude!