What is the psychology of a man who clearly did something wrong but never admitted his mistake?

When a man moves, he won't admit that he did something wrong. Only after breaking up with the person he loves will he gradually feel that he has wronged her ... He has failed her, but the love he regrets is useless and can't come back ... isn't it? It's not that he doesn't love you, it's his character. Find an opportunity to let him know that he can't live without you through certain things or situations, so that he will be good to you! ! I will communicate with you attentively and let you ask him this question. He will really realize his mistake! ! Know your pain! ! Determined to change! ! Otherwise, you talk to him. With his character, it is strange that he will listen to you. It must be his right ear that listens to you, and his left ear goes out! ! Please pay attention! ! ! Cruel for a while, you can get a lifetime of happiness! ! ! Never be too soft-hearted! !

This kind of man is not only selfish, but also extremely male chauvinism. He is self-centered and arbitrary. Such people are not unreasonable, but reasonable when they are good and unreasonable when they are bad. When others do something wrong, they should deal with it and forgive others. I did something wrong, I will never admit my mistake, refuse to apologize and never repent!

This kind of man is not only selfish, but also extremely male chauvinism. He is self-centered and arbitrary. Such people are not unreasonable, but reasonable when they are good and unreasonable when they are bad. When others do something wrong, they should deal with it and forgive others. I did something wrong, I will never admit my mistake, refuse to apologize and never repent!

Haha, what's the word? When you die, you call a duck a mouth shut. Maybe that's the kind of person.

Meet a man. His wife saw his chat record with a woman from his mobile phone. All kinds of ambiguous sweet words, ask him what happened, he confidently said nothing, chatting and playing, not cheating at all. Later, no matter how his wife forced him to ask, he said he was right.

Interestingly, he is very kind to his wife and children, which proves that he has not cheated. There is no password on the mobile phone, so his wife can check it as she wants, but there is nothing wrong. His wife also quietly inquired about his work place, and there was nothing suspicious.

His wife didn't pursue it in the end, and people didn't admit it. Isn't it an obstacle to her inner pursuit? Let's take that chat record as a real joke.

Generally speaking, this refusal is to be put into action. In this case, if you want to whitewash yourself, you have to act.

He may have given the result in his mind without admitting his mistake. And this result is also a result that his family wants.

Although some men make mistakes, it's not a big mistake. Because of their face, they feel that admitting their mistakes proves their failure and incompetence. Don't force him to admit it in this case. Give him some face, and he will thank you in his heart.

Personally, I think this kind of man is selfish, male chauvinistic, self-righteous in everything he does and never apologizes to the other side. When you are needed in life, you are a treasure, and when you are not needed, you are a scum. With such a man, you only have to pay, but you can't get any benefits from him. This kind of man always has his own heart, no one else.

Inferiority is at work.

In this kind of human value system, "wrong" is a terrible thing, and it can't be wrong. Being wrong means surrendering and bowing.

But he believes that he has fallen into the dust and can't go any lower.

When you meet such a person, don't expect him to admit his mistake, and don't waste time and energy to change his mind, because even if he knows he is wrong, he won't admit it. Or it is more likely to change to an extreme way to continue the dignity you want to maintain, that is, to make things develop in the direction you don't want to see: good! You all called me wrong! I was wrong! I keep making mistakes!

This is his only ability at this time, and it is also an opportunity to show his ability to control the situation.

When we meet such people in our life, we should think that no one is perfect. We also have some unknown bad habits, and we also need friends and relatives around us to tolerate them.

When you meet such people at work, you will try to avoid them. If you can't avoid it, do your part. You can even agree that he is right at a critical moment, but you have a more suitable and ideal plan, and then change "let him admit his mistake" to "persuade him to use my plan" to try not to be influenced by this unnecessary "mistake".

He is a male chauvinist. His idea is that he is the king of the family. What happened to him? All faults should be women's fault. A woman should marry a chicken with a chicken, and a dog with a dog, and everything in the family should listen to him! People like him don't take anyone outside and women at home?

Those men who have made mistakes in life and are unwilling to admit them are actually inferior and proud. The more women want to prove themselves wrong, the more they want to protect their self-esteem, so they will resist women's doubts. But also very serious male chauvinism, strong personality or temper is very stubborn. As long as what he believes will not change, everything will be competitive. He has the final say, and if he doesn't agree, he will turn his face. This kind of man is very introverted and difficult to get along with.

Once Xiaolin and a female netizen discussed a historical issue in the same WeChat group. Because of different opinions, the female netizen sent a private letter to her husband, screaming desperately, "Your wife! Your wife! " The implication is that Kobayashi was wrong, and as a result, Kobayashi was scolded by her husband. If this had happened in normal times, Xiao Lin would not have said anything. However, this female netizen often sends messages to her husband. There are several messages at once, and her husband never refuses, knowing that the other party has no boundaries, frequent interactions and ambiguous words. Kobayashi reminded her husband to restrain this behavior, and her husband said, "Nothing."

I believe many men will feel that Kobayashi is making a fuss after reading this story. Isn't it just chatting? What is this? But once a woman is married and still having an affair with other men, men can't stand it immediately, and all kinds of sweet words follow. Obviously double standard!

This is also a mistake. Why are some men afraid to admit it?

Because men always want to prove that they are "honest"

Some men have strange ways of thinking. At any time, they always want to prove that they are upright and can't be wrong. This mode of thinking determines their way of doing things. For example, husband Kobayashi in the above story, when outsiders provoke the relationship between husband and wife in front of you, as a man, the first reaction should be to maintain the relationship between husband and wife, not to maintain his own image, but husband Kobayashi is just the opposite. His first reaction was "My wife lost face." Actually, it's just a discussion. There is no need to rise to the level of face. If you really want to lose face, it is also a shame for Xiao Lin. But if a man regards a woman as private property, rather than an independent individual, his reaction will be different from different angles. He doesn't think that female netizens are the perpetrators at all, but he will lose his temper with his family.

Similarly, if he accidentally trips over something, his first reaction is: "Who put it here?" And then get angry with something, which is the self-complete thinking of some men. To put it bluntly, it is to save face.

This kind of thinking determines the behavior of some men. They always want to emphasize that they can't be wrong and emphasize their lofty image, which also determines that they won't bow their heads to apologize to you after making a mistake. Even if they know in their hearts that they are wrong, they still won't apologize, because this will affect their image of self-integrity.

Inferiority makes trouble.

If you meet a man with low self-esteem, he will do his best to maintain his little self-esteem. Black is white, and white is black. Men who feel inferior may be very insecure and often belittle themselves; You may also be narcissistic (conceited) to cover up your inferiority.

Narcissism is narcissism in a person's appearance or words and deeds.

Moderate narcissism contributes to people's mental health, but excessive narcissism may develop into a disease.

In the eyes of men with a serious sense of inferiority, especially narcissistic men, it is impossible to be wrong at any time. If there is anything wrong, it must be someone else's fault.

This mode of thinking determines that narcissistic men think that admitting mistakes means that they can't do it, that they are willing to admit failure, and that they are inferior and no longer perfect. Narcissistic men are unwilling to admit that they can't do it. He can only conceal his deep inferiority by constantly hypnotizing himself "I'm perfect", "I'm great", "I'm capable" and "it's all someone else's fault" to ensure that he won't feel depressed and sad. Therefore, when a narcissistic man does something wrong, he is likely to "throw the pot", pass the buck and deny his previous words and deeds.

This result is often annoying. I feel that this person is not easy to communicate and gradually walks away.

When women ask questions, men feel blamed.

Some men have been trying to create their own image of integrity and beauty. When it was exposed, he had already started to think of all kinds of lines to defend himself. At this time, if women take the initiative to ask questions, men will feel that they are being questioned.

For example.

When the man came home, the woman asked, "Where have you been?" In fact, sometimes it's just a casual question, which has no special meaning, but in the eyes of some men, this sentence will immediately make him feel "Are you blaming me?" At this time, see how he answers, if he says "work overtime today." Then the woman casually replied, "I'm very busy recently." Then, for some men with strange brain circuits, he will think, "It's really my fault."

Not surprising, because most men are creatures who are good at asking questions, but the objects and questions are different. Men who are good at questioning others often don't know how to deal with this kind of problem, so they never admit their mistakes.

The remnants of feudal dross and extreme male chauvinism are still unclear.

General male chauvinism, his mode of thinking is: "I am a man, I will do it."

Extreme male chauvinism, his thinking mode is: "A woman with long hair and short knowledge, why should I bow to you!"

Straight male cancer, his thinking mode is: "You are a woman, you should wait on me."

The thinking mode of straight men is: "lying in the trough, this won't work!" "

When you meet an extremely male chauvinist, it is basically impossible for him to admit his mistake, because in his logic, women are just inferior to men, and men just can't admit their mistakes to women. This mode of thinking determines that once some men make mistakes, they can not only admit their mistakes, but also may bite you back. Because extreme male chauvinism and straight male cancer are essentially colored glasses with gender discrimination, in their eyes, face is more important than anything else, and they are more important than anyone else. To put it mildly, they are selfish.

Afraid of taking responsibility

If this man grew up in an environment where someone resisted him, don't expect him to admit his mistake, because he doesn't want to take responsibility.

His childhood experience told him that as long as he did something wrong, someone would always take the fall for him. And he himself is obviously not ready to enter the adult society, and he can't even bear the consequences of the adult world.

Therefore, whenever something happens, he doesn't immediately admit his mistake, but runs away. First, because he has never taken responsibility, he doesn't know how to take it; First, because he doesn't want to take responsibility, he just wants to do whatever he wants.

When you find a man doing something wrong, don't point it out immediately, but look at the specific situation, find an opportunity, talk to the other person in a communicative tone, and give the other person a step from time to time. If some mistakes are not big problems, they will not have a big impact. As long as you feel comfortable, turn a blind eye. If it is a matter of principle and the other party refuses to admit his mistake, then don't answer it. After all, not all men will admit their mistakes, and not all men will admit their mistakes; Some men will admit their mistakes immediately, some men need to think twice before acting, and some men will never know what their mistakes are.

That's my answer. If you have any other questions, please leave a message in the comments section below.

At the moment he got the divorce certificate, he had some regrets. He was a little sad to see his wife's pale face. The divorce was initiated by his wife. He thought about it and agreed. In retrospect, I really owe my wife so much, but now, I should call it my ex-wife.

Objectively speaking, a wife is a model of "a good wife and a good mother". She is very gentle and takes good care of people. But he is a male chauvinist. Many times, he will hurt people regardless of his wife's feelings. Many times, it is obvious that he is wrong, but because of his face, he will not admit it or comfort his wife, because he always feels that he is working hard and suffering outside for this family, and it is better to do more at home than less. If he can make money, it is the greatest care for his family. Therefore, he can feel at ease and not admit his mistake.

Speaking of work, he feels a little guilty about his behavior. In order to get promoted, he kowtowed and followed suit. The pot of leadership, he naturally willingly carried it. He thought he was a man who wouldn't admit his mistake, but suddenly he found that "admitting his mistake" was so handy for his promotion. Then he realized that there was nothing he would never admit his mistake, only whether he was willing to admit his mistake and to whom.

This is a true story I polished. Can we get some inspiration from it? Simply put, self-centered people are unwilling to admit their mistakes, because they are selfish, so they don't care about other people's feelings; Because of egoism, we can always find reasons to prove the correctness of not admitting mistakes. But from a higher perspective, whether to admit mistakes may still be controversial:

The necessity of not admitting mistakes

When do you need to insist on not admitting your mistakes? When a person needs to maintain his authority. In ancient times, the emperor didn't have to admit his mistake, because sometimes once he admitted his mistake, he was doomed. In today's society, managers of companies can not admit their mistakes, and it is more important to maintain their dignity in the case of timely stop loss. We can also find that referees on the court often insist on the original judgment knowing that they have misjudged; We can also see that some diplomats are still "high-sounding" when dealing with foreign affairs, although right and wrong are clear.

Admit the importance of mistakes

Not admitting a mistake is often a mistake in itself. If a man can put down his face or even his dignity and admit his mistake, it is a sign of generosity and magnanimity. Apologize to your parents and they will always forgive you; Apologize to your lover and make your love last longer; Admitting mistakes to children is also a way of education. If you admit your mistake, you will not lose anything, but will increase your great image.

Great practice

Learning to admit mistakes is a good exercise. Distinguish between right and wrong, distinguish between severity and overall situation, and you can't lose big because of small things, but you need to accumulate experience and emotional experience. A person clearly did something wrong, but never admitted it. If I see such a person, I will look at his situation first and then judge his behavior. If I am such a man, I still have a long way to go to abandon my obsession and open my heart.

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When an objective fact is wrong and a man knows it, but he just doesn't want to take the initiative to admit it, indicating that his internal and external cognition is inconsistent, his psychology may be:

First, it may be related to his personality pattern formed since childhood. For example, his parents have been forced to deny, punish, beat and scold him since he was a child. And he is not recognized and appreciated by his parents. Only by constantly finding fault with his parents, he gradually formed a perfectionist concept in order to please his parents, and could not accept the fact that he had made a mistake, because he subconsciously thought that admitting mistakes meant denying himself, and he could not accept denying himself!

Second, he is a self-righteous, arrogant and supercilious person, and this mistake he made may stimulate past trauma, or involve his own major spiritual or material interests, especially humiliating his own mistakes, so he refused to admit his mistakes and used psychological defense to avoid negation to protect himself from harm.