How disgusting is your roommate?

I think my roommate and I are both disgusting beings, one is a seducer and the other speaks ill of people

I haven’t liked roommate A since I was a freshman. , it’s just that the aura doesn’t match and the words are thorny. But my personal personality may be a submissive personality. Even if my inner dignity is hurt, I will not talk to people I am not familiar with, and my resentment towards her gradually deepens. The following 4 points of grievances can only be read at point 2

Grudge 1: During the summer vacation of her senior year of high school, she broke up with her boyfriend of three years in high school. After her freshman year of military training, she fell in love with the instructor. Her sister advised her not to have sex with the instructor. She took her too seriously, so I advised her to listen to her sister's words. She thought I was against her relationship and cried, so I advised her. After that, I never gave any advice on any of her relationships. Later, I broke up with the instructor and told me that he would have listened to me. I thought about it in my heart...

Grudge 2: I often kept in touch with my high school ex-boyfriend during my freshman year, and I would ask this ex-boyfriend for anything. Living expenses, ask for mobile phone. (I was in love with the instructor at this time) After breaking up with the instructor, I had an unclear relationship with the instructor's comrade. I went to Xiamen with this comrade and came back and told us that we bought her more than 2,000 cosmetics (the tone was full of showoff) At that time, I was filled with three views that I couldn’t understand every day (I talked to her about this later, and she said she wanted living expenses and a mobile phone, all to stimulate and win back her ex-boyfriend, saying that I didn’t understand her ex-boyfriend’s The financial situation made me jump to conclusions. She went out to play with her comrades and received gifts from them. She explained that she was single at the time and went out to hang out with male friends. There was nothing wrong with it. She also received gifts of 2,000 RMB 1314 520 and returned them. How many pairs of underwear do you have? These are all her private matters, but I hear them every day, and it’s really uncomfortable. She has to endure her showing off from time to time, showing off that she has a man next to her every day, and she has to endure the fact that she can't live without a man.

Grudge 3: My long-distance boyfriend came to me and stayed in a hotel with him off campus. Because we were poor students, we stayed in a hotel for one night in our early 100s. She asked me to take pictures of the hotel and show them to her. After I took the pictures and sent them to her, she said: "...,...it's so small...I won't be able to sleep in this bed, I'll get rashes." I don't know how other people feel after hearing this. My boyfriend was speechless at the time, and both my boyfriend and I's self-esteem was hurt. (On the one hand, he felt that he could not provide me with better material conditions as a student. On the other hand, he was annoyed after hearing her speech.)

Grudge 4: I posted in the dormitory group that my foundation is DW. Later, she sent a screenshot of her chat with her friend. The content was probably about her discussing my liquid foundation. Her friend said: "You have to have oily face to use DW." I didn't know she sent this chat record to me. It depends on the mentality, but I was so angry that day that my heart ached. . .

There are many, many more things, I don’t want to list them all. Most of them are the incompatibility of three views and low emotional intelligence, which hurt me. Even later when we talked, she felt that I was jealous of her because I said that she was showing off, and she Think I'm jealous of her. . How should I put it? She showed off that many men liked her. In fact, everyone knew it and I had heard about it. Everyone thought she was showing off. And she thought I was jealous of her, which made me so angry that my liver ached. . Feeling distressed. . Lungs hurt. .

It was originally a four-person room in the old campus, but later it was moved to an eight-person room in the new campus. It formed a new dormitory with the previous dormitory next door. It was a new environment. I thought I had found a friend, so I Roommate B, who thought he could be trusted, complained about Grudge 2. Because I had been depressed for too long, I wanted to find someone to talk to. I felt that after two years of getting along with her, I quite believed her. She also told me some inappropriate things about her roommate. I thought it was just some grumbling words between two girls to consolidate their friendship. Unexpectedly, she later had a good time with roommate A, so she told roommate A that I said bad things about roommate A~~~ She said that I didn’t She liked her and said that I said bad things about her behind her back, and told roommate A all the things I said about her. Then it turned into roommate A talking to me, saying that she felt that I betrayed her, and that I talked about her to outsiders.

I have reflected on this matter for a long time and apologized. I really shouldn’t discuss other people’s privacy with others, nor should I make random assumptions about others.

But I really didn’t know who to vent my emotions to. I thought it was just a chat with a good friend. I never thought about slandering roommate A. It was just that I was very unhappy and some things made me feel uncomfortable. I wanted to talk to My friend told me about it (I thought roommate B didn’t like roommate A either)

I didn’t want to tell my former roommate in a quadruple room because I didn’t want to ruin the relationship. Say bad things to one roommate about another roommate. I only wanted to tell my close friends, so I later moved to an 8-person room and told my new roommate B. I considered her a good friend.

I reflected on myself and realized that friendship exchanged with other people’s secrets is not real friendship~~Now I am very embarrassed with my roommate A, and we don’t talk to her every day. Although I didn’t like her for three years in college, I still see her every day. It’s really hard not to care in the dormitory, it’s so uncomfortable, ugh