How to be a gentle person like Natsume in Friends?

In fact, if you want to be a gentle person, you must first have a good growth environment, then you must be able to put yourself in the other's shoes, then you must overcome everything, and finally you must have a kind heart.

0 1, to have a good growth environment In fact, to be a gentle person, the most important thing is to have a good growth environment, which is very important for people's growth and will directly affect a person's personality. If you don't believe me, you can go to a gentle family. Most of their parents are very gentle. Although we cannot change the influence of birth, we can control ourselves.

02. The premise of consideration is to understand others. I don't understand, kindness is also pretending to be kind, and I don't necessarily say anything about others behind my back. But if you can put yourself in the other person's shoes, it will be different. If you can understand him, really put yourself in his shoes and know his difficulties, you will naturally not treat him badly.

03. overcome everything. If you want to be a kind person, you must overcome it, because there must be times in your daily life that make you angry. For example, your subordinates make mistakes in their work, and you are angry, but you are very kind and can't bear to embarrass her, but you are angry again. At this time, you should let yourself get over it. I think what you did wrong should be criticized, and you can't just ignore it because you are kind. If you let it go like this, you will not be very grateful to you, but you will feel that your requirements are not strict and you will be more confused in your future work. So kindness is ok, but there must be principles.

04. To have a kind heart, the most important thing is a kind heart. Only a kind heart is truly kind, otherwise it is hypocrisy, such as fraudulent donation. All this is to leave a good impression in front of outsiders and gain a good reputation, but it has not been implemented at all. This is just talk. In fact, it doesn't matter what you say, what matters is what you do. Only when you do it can you really do good.