How to deal with my father-in-law

At that time, my husband and I were not married. When we first went to their house, my father-in-law kept a straight face. I greeted him and he just nodded. If my mother-in-law hadn't greeted me with a smile and enthusiasm, I would have thought how dissatisfied my parents were with me.

After dinner, my father-in-law went back to his room alone. I chatted with my mother-in-law, aunt and husband in the living room. In the meantime, my mother-in-law cut a fruit bowl for us to eat, and my husband ate a few pieces and lay on the sofa with his legs crossed to watch his mobile phone.

Everyone was talking and laughing, and the atmosphere was just right. My father-in-law suddenly came out of the room. He scolded my husband angrily, "What do you look like lying with your legs crossed? You don't have a mentor. You are almost 30 years old. What a shame. "

My husband's face was red and he quarreled with his father-in-law. He means to be so particular at home. Are you tired? Then my father-in-law talked about his life from his husband's sitting posture, saying that he smirked all day and had no appearance at all. Everyone has a reason, to outdo each other, and no one will obey anyone.

They quarreled so much that they ignored me. It was the first time I came to their house. It's no use for mother-in-law and aunt to stop fighting. Then I interjected that I wanted to go home, and they called a truce. The atmosphere was so embarrassing that I couldn't forget that photo.

After we got married, we lived with our parents-in-law. This was agreed at the beginning. My mother-in-law said that she was my husband's only child. If we move out, the old couple will feel lonely and bored.

Living together, my mother-in-law and I have no problem and get along well, like mother and daughter. She doesn't interfere in our young couple's affairs. After work, I cook at home and do only a little housework.

But my father-in-law kept a straight face all day and didn't smile at all. In fact, I feel very uncomfortable in my heart, for fear that something had happened to me and he would tell me.

My father-in-law is very strict and doesn't like my husband anywhere. He is just an image of strict father that he talks about all day. For example, my husband will be taught by his father-in-law when he goes home for entertainment and drinking; Husbands who spend more money and buy more things will also be taught; If my husband eats loudly, he will be scolded by his father-in-law for being rude and given a lecture. ...

Anyway, big and small things are good, and my father-in-law likes to talk about my husband. My husband is not convinced, and he is not young. His father is in charge of this and that all day, and he has no face at all, as if he had no advantage at all.

After my father-in-law retired, he often went outside to play chess with others or go fishing. Mother-in-law said: "The old man is not at home, and the family is finally quiet."

Later, I got pregnant. Not only is her mother-in-law happy, but her father-in-law has also become amiable. He looks like a different person, with a smile on his face, and is very kind to me. He told my mother-in-law to buy me whatever I like.

Every time my father-in-law can't help preaching to my husband, my mother-in-law says, "If you want to make a noise, go outside and make a noise. I don't care. There are pregnant women at home and need to be quiet. " Father-in-law will be quiet at once.

I was only more than 4 months pregnant, and my father-in-law went to the baby shop to buy a lot of small clothes, pink, blue and yellow. I also bought several small bags for my children. An old neighbor saw how many things he bought and asked him who he bought them for. He said he was going to be a grandfather.

Mother-in-law said she didn't know about boys and girls yet. Don't buy so many things, it's too wasteful. My father-in-law said that both boys and girls like it. It's okay. You can wear clothes of any color. He wants to buy anything he sees anyway.

I heard that eating goose eggs is good for pregnant women, so my father-in-law asked my old colleagues to buy some from their hometown. In the third trimester, he bought a lot of fresh coconuts, which made me drink more coconut water.

Not only that, my father-in-law also paid my mother-in-law to book me a month center, which cost me more than 30 thousand. Mother-in-law said not to waste money. Anyway, she retired and had time and energy to take care of me and my children.

But my father-in-law disagreed and said, "You have more time. Do you take care of children like pregnant women? " Don't talk so much nonsense. I'm grandpa. I'm willing to pay this money. Don't worry. "

On the day the child was born, I heard my husband tell my mother-in-law that my father-in-law was so excited that he shed tears. He said that he finally became a grandfather. My father-in-law is excited for a reason. He became a grandfather at the age of 65. People of the same age have grandchildren in their fifties.

Going to the month center is money well spent, and my son is well taken care of and chubby. As for me, I am recovering well. After the second month, we returned home. My father-in-law can't put it down, holding the child all day.

Mother-in-law said that children are so young that they can't hold more, and it's not good to form habits. But my father-in-law doesn't care He just hugged for a long time and watched the children keep laughing. He said he would hug enough. He's not tired.

After maternity leave, my parents-in-law and I take care of the children together, even at night. My father-in-law is a big man, and changing diapers for children is better than my husband. He didn't bother the child when he cried, but he was patient and persuasive.

When the child can talk, the father-in-law takes the child for a walk outside, and he buys whatever the child points to. There are some dishes that the child can't eat at all, and the father-in-law also buys them to coax him. He said to play if he couldn't eat.

Children who are only two or three years old are full of toys, living rooms and rooms. Those remote-controlled cars cost thousands of dollars each, and there are several at home, so there is no place to put them. Sometimes the child plays and throws it directly on the ground, and the father-in-law can't bear to scold.

My son is very naughty. He must touch everything he sees and destroy it. It's really a headache Every time I scold my husband, he always wants grandpa.

When my son was 4 years old, he took out the goldfish raised by his father-in-law and poured it into the toilet. My grandfather's face has changed. My husband tried to hit my son, and his son began to cry. The father-in-law immediately picked up the child to comfort him and taught her husband: "Are you such a father?" The child is still young. What do you know? Why do you scold him? You can't beat him. "

And my son was too excited to watch TV many times, saying that there were bad people on TV and directly smashed the TV with toys. Although my father-in-law was distressed, he didn't lose his temper. Comfort your son in a low voice. When the child stops crying, tell the child that it is wrong to do so, and make sense slowly.

Even her mother-in-law said, "This old man is a double standard. When my son was a child, he did something wrong, either beating or scolding. When I arrived at my little grandson, I couldn't even bear to swear. "

My grandfather loves my grandson so much, and my grandson has the best relationship with him. At my son's place, his father and I ranked third and fourth. He always looks for grandpa, visits other people's homes, and sends him something delicious first. My father-in-law smiled and said, "This child is so filial, I should love him."

Everyone says this is a distant relative. Grandpa is full of love for his little grandson, and so is the little grandson for his grandfather.