How to treat the self-report of middle-aged women: "No one understands my pain after cheating in marriage"?

The new section chief finds opportunities to accompany me alone every day, and I am afraid and excited; Thinking of the Chinese New Year, he drank too much, hugged me and kissed me in the car, blushing, unable to resist his concern and consideration; But I'm afraid of breaking the bottom line and becoming dog blood. I am 33 years old and in charge of state-owned enterprises; Husband is 35 years old and is engaged in the game industry; We have been married for exactly seven years, and our son is three years old. We can't say how sweet and happy our marriage is, but it's not a big problem. Probably as dull as most ordinary marriages. Sometimes when you are in love, when you are not at home, you can make a phone call all night, which feels as incredible as a dream. I don't know when it started. It seems that we no longer have the same language. I said east, he laxi; I said housework, he said the weather; There are fewer and fewer words, except for children who really don't know what to talk about. I complain that he doesn't understand me, but he always says it's useless to tell me anything, so he's too lazy to say it.

The section chief looks like the flash. We have the same interests. He can understand my point of view, and I can understand his point of view; That kind of heart, that kind of eyes for thousands of years, makes me feel that life has suddenly turned into color. But I know very well that he has a gentle wife and a clever and lovely son; My family is not broken, we have no future; I also imagined that even if I just enjoy the beauty of the moment, I would not destroy my family; But who can care about emotional things? Besides, it's easy for a man to betray his family and come back. Women are hard to say. I'm really scared. Teacher Xu Chuan, let me analyze it myself. It was his appearance that filled my spiritual emptiness. I am very eager to chat with him. But I don't want to burn myself. How can we break this relationship?

Teacher Xu Chuan: Madam, I understand how you feel. Seven years of itchy marriage has always been like a cup of boiled water, without any taste; The appearance of the section chief is like a light, which brings color to your life; You are moved by this light and how much you want to dance with it; The rest of the reasons will make you use your last strength to ask for help. I really want to praise you, because many women will wait until the light is shattered before they know that boiled water is a necessity; But I can't go back. In fact, as long as you can learn the magic of seasoning, your married life will become colorful and splendid.

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What I'm saying is that I can't cut off my budding relationship with the section chief, but I'm afraid to return to my current marriage. For you, the current marriage is actually in a very embarrassing stage and situation; Being in it will make you feel bored, as if life has stopped and you even want to escape. But if you lose it, you will feel very painful. It has not reached the point of emotional collapse, and marriage is not worthless. It's time to abandon it; This kind of pain, which is painless but like a bitter day, will make people feel that they are consuming their lives, unwilling to feel reluctant and looking forward to eternal life; This is actually a typical feature of flat marriage. Any relationship will follow specific laws and life cycles. The passion and enthusiasm between you and the section chief, in fact, you and your husband have experienced it; In fact, as long as you master the right method, you can lead this marriage to rekindle passion in the dull period.

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Your relationship with your husband is actually quite good. You can enter marriage through long-distance love. The feeling of that year must be true love; It's just that in the new stage of emotional development, you can't find a way to restart your passion, and you can't even understand each other's current needs. The relationship between the two people is getting colder and colder. There are two steps to change the mode: the first step is to improve communication skills, learn to express your needs in the right way, understand the hidden needs of the other party, and restore emotional connection first; The second step is to study and strive to improve and expand your love map. If the passion between two people's love is originally 1000 square meters, then it may only take 200 square meters from the realization of marriage to the dull period; If you neglect your career, you can only recall these 200 ordinary people in the second half of your life, and you can only get more and more tasteless; When you constantly explore yourself, get to know each other and expand this map, you can regain your passion and freshness.