Talking about Second Marriage (How Difficult is the Road to Second Marriage)

Does every divorced person fantasize that the next one will be better?

Don't be silly, let alone meet someone better. Even if we meet something better, every family still has a bad life. Living can't be smooth sailing.

Maybe it won't be the same bad heart, but it will be different and there will always be unspeakable sadness.

So don't divorce easily, try harder, maybe the result will be very different. For divorced people, the biggest worry is that they are afraid that the couple will not pass by halfway, so they dare not remarry.

As we all know, it is really difficult for a married couple to walk, but as to how difficult it is, we have to listen to the real experience of the bearer.

How difficult is the road for married couples?

"Remarried for 4 years, tell me about my experience. If you ask me how difficult it is for couples who get married for the second time, I don't know how to answer you, but I can tell you for sure that it is much more difficult than getting married for the first time. " Sister Wang's heart.

Sister Wang divorced her ex-husband because of the disharmony between the three views.

At that time, I thought the hardest day of my life was just that. Until I got married with my current husband, what made Sister Wang sad was that the emotional problem was not emotional, but ambiguous parents.

Her husband doesn't trust her.

I can feel that my husband has always been alert to himself in the deepest part of his heart. On the surface, he is kind to himself, but this kind of kindness is not wholeheartedly. More like a disguise, a disguise for the overall situation.

Therefore, couples who are married for the first time may haggle over many trivial matters when they are together, but it also means that both sides are sincere, unreserved and show their true selves.

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Emotionally, it is more obvious about property.

Even after two people have been married for four years, the husband still dares not give all his wages and savings to Sister Wang for safekeeping, not because he cares about his money, but because he wants mutual trust and recognition.

For example, the living expenses that my husband gives to his family every month are calculated by himself first, and then just enough.

What impressed Sister Wang the most was that there was a Mid-Autumn Festival without notice. Sister Wang is worried about everything at home. After the holiday, I gave 500 yuan to the old people on both sides and bought some gifts. When distributing gifts, Sister Wang specially gave more to her in-laws.

Afterwards, the husband found that the money at home was wrong. After getting the explanation from Sister Wang, he secretly confirmed it.

Followed by the child and the husband's ex-wife.

The first married couple, a big family only contains two people and their parents, but the second married couple has one or more children, and there is a special existence, ex.

This is not as simple as 1+ 1=2.

No matter how good a couple is, they can't stand the third party alienating each other all day. Besides, that man is his own flesh and blood, and his ex-wife who has slept with him for countless nights.

This is also the most painful thing for Sister Wang. It is better for her husband's children than for her own, but her husband's children never recognize themselves and listen to their mother's instructions, causing much ado about nothing. Obviously doing well enough, my husband can't see his own efforts, and he is in a dilemma.

You can't get your child's approval, but you still pick your own weakness to stimulate you, and you can't vent your inner grievances.

Sister Wang said, "In fact, it doesn't matter whether you have money or not. As long as I live comfortably every day, I am most afraid of making my life extremely heavy, just like cutting meat with a blunt knife. "

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Married couples, these are far from the hardest. The hardest thing is, no matter how hard you try, you still can't integrate into his big family.

Everyone treats you as an outsider, even pretending to accept you on the surface, but secretly encouraging him to remarry with his ex-wife.

In fact, I can understand what Sister Wang said, but it is not enough to rely on one person's efforts. If you have this heart, he must have that heart. Only by working hard in one place can we have a good and wonderful life.

Compared with the first marriage, couples who get married for the second time may have to mix more reality and humanity. But the hard road is not a dead end, and the goddess of luck will only care for two hard-working people. Since you have chosen the other party, you must stick to it until the end. In fact, what defeats all feelings is mostly the retreat of which side.

Do you find it very simple to analyze the essence of a thing?

The emotional problem between two people is the root of all contradictions, because parents are short of money and daily necessities, and they can't crush two people wholeheartedly.

Every road you choose can't be unimpeded. You should accept the fact, keep your love for life and fight to the end.

In the final analysis, running any marriage is not easy. You should be of one mind, communicate more, be considerate and understand more, and learn to put yourself in the other's shoes when you encounter something. Is it difficult to get married twice? Yes, but isn't it difficult to get married for the first time? There is nothing wrong with marriage itself. The problem is that we want too much and give too little.

So if you have a problem, don't always take marriage as a back pot.

Show your enthusiasm and courage. Second marriage is no excuse. After all, second marriage is better than first marriage in many cases. When you meet someone, he is your baby, remember to respond to him and cherish him.

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