The famous writer Wang Shuo: I don’t remember that I loved my parents. I am doubtful about family ties. Why do I say that?

Wang Shuo is a famous contemporary Chinese writer and screenwriter. He has made a lot of money from writing, screenwriting and selling copyrights. It can be said that the development of his career has been extremely smooth. In a book, he once wrote about his childhood: "I don't remember loving my parents."

In Wang Shuo's view, his childhood was very gloomy, without happiness and light. . It was his unhappiness in childhood that developed his eccentric character now. Wang Shuo once said frankly that what his mother was most afraid of was that he would not look at her while lying on the hospital bed. But Wang Shuo found it funny. Where were you when you were supposed to love me?

Wang Shuo's gloomy childhood

On August 23, 1958, Wang Shuo was born in a well-off family in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province. He was the second child in the family. Wang Shuo's father once served as a soldier and is now an officer coach, while his mother is an ordinary doctor. When Wang Shuo was a child, due to Wang Shuo's father's work, his family came to a military compound in Beijing and started a new life there.

Since his father is a soldier, his family has been taught stick education since he was a child. As long as Wang Shuo disobeys, he will be beaten until he can't be beaten anymore. Moreover, Wang Shuo's father was very strict with him. At a young age, Wang Shuo was forced not to make mistakes, to become "excellent" and to meet his father's standards.

Wang Shuo's mother never felt that it was a bad thing for his father to hit him. She also believed that the child should be beaten if he was disobedient. Today, this situation might be called domestic violence. But at that time, it was a common occurrence.

Not only did Wang Shuo's mother never stop Wang Shuo's father from beating him, she even didn't care much about Wang Shuo. Giving birth to a child was just a task that had to be completed in that era, and it was born as soon as it was born. How to raise it and how to teach it, she didn't understand at all. As long as Wang Shuo is not hungry or cold, then her breeding is successful. Sometimes Wang Shuo comes to her when he encounters difficulties at school. She will only tell Wang Shuo what to do rightly, but she won't give Wang Shuo a word of comfort.

Therefore, Wang Shuo's childhood was very gloomy. He lives under the violence of his father and the indifference of his mother, without feeling any warmth. Not only did I feel pain physically, but my heart also felt like a knife. Slowly, Wang Shuo became numb. He couldn't feel his parents' love for him, so he also lost the ability to love his parents.

Obviously living under the same roof, the family is drifting apart. When Wang Shuo grew up, he began to become more sensible. He knew that he had the responsibility to be good to his parents, but he couldn't pretend to be good to them. Because whenever he sees his parents, he will think of his miserable childhood, and he feels very sad.

Wang Shuo has no hope in family relationships, but after giving birth to his daughter, he hopes that her daughter will be happy

In a talk show, Wang Shuo once asked his mother: "If I were a murderer, would you Do you still love me?" The mother said decisively that she would report him. I don’t know what Wang Shuo was feeling mentally at that time, maybe he was disappointed. How could he be a murderer? This was obviously just a joke, but Wang Shuo's mother chose to hurt him.

Wang Shuo's mother once wrote a book, which said that she actually loved Wang Shuo very much and would love her forever. It's a pity that these words are just words. Wang Shuo has never felt his mother's love. Whether as a child or as an adult. Wang Shuo was just a child in his mother's eyes, and she needed to raise the child, that's all.

Wang Shuo's mother may not understand what love is and what family affection is. This situation is very common in China, and even around the world. Parents don't know how to love their children. They only know how to prepare the best for their children, and that is to treat them well. When they grow old, children must also be kind to their parents, otherwise they will be ungrateful.

Although many people think so, Wang Shuo, who has been hurt, particularly hates this theory. When he had a daughter, all he wanted to do was treat her better. Although Wang Shuo loves his daughter very much, he has never been loved by his parents and does not know how to love his daughter Wang Mi.

When Wang Mi was a child, Wang Mi was just an ordinary stupid kid, but Wang Shuo never felt anything was wrong with her. It's good to be an ordinary person, but it's too tiring to have to be someone special. Wang Shuo doesn't need his daughter to be successful and filial to him, he just wants his daughter to grow up happily. The happiness Wang Mi brought to Wang Shuo was far more than the money he spent on her.

But the unhappy marriage between Wang Shuo and his wife deeply hurt his daughter Wang Mi. On the day she left, Wang Mi cried secretly in her room. At that time, Wang Shuo felt his heart getting cold. He hopes that his daughter can be happy and that she will not be sad because of him. He can only try his best to make up for Wang Mi and give Wang Mi the best education and the best life.

When Wang Mi held her wedding, Wang Shuo was absent from that important occasion. Because he felt that he had not done well enough and had no face to face his daughter. But Wang Shuo's close friends all attended the wedding and stood up for Wang Mi. Wang Mi may not have cared about her parents' divorce for a long time, because Wang Shuo has paid far more to her than hurt her.

What kind of education method can help children grow up healthily

Wang Shuo’s education method is completely different from that of Wang Shuo’s parents. The former hopes that the children can grow up safely and happily, while the latter hopes that the children can become famous among people. These two education methods are different starting from their expectations for children. But how can it be so simple to become a dragon or a phoenix among people? Even if you want to become a talented person, can this be achieved through force?

This is especially true for today’s parents. They enroll their children in a large number of interest classes, claiming that they spend a lot of money on their children, but they never care about their children's psychology. Maybe the children don't want to take English or math classes at all. At that age, they just want to have fun. But such a small wish was ignored by adults.

When children find a butterfly in the grass, they often share it with their parents like a treasure. But some parents never understand their children's feelings. They never care about children's innocent words and only urge children to learn. But if it were Wang Shuo, he would definitely praise the butterfly to his daughter.

Sometimes you feel that you "value" your child very much, but to her, that so-called "cherishing" may be just a burden. Unfortunately for Wang Shuo, his parents are such people. They only cared about his life and death, and whether what he did was right, but they never cared about what he was thinking.

People live in this world just for happiness. Everyone understands the simple truth, but why don’t people understand it when it comes to children. Children have always needed care and love, which no amount of money can replace. If you wait until your children grow up to make amends, you may not have this opportunity.