The single baskets used to be in pairs, leaving me to say it alone.

"leftover women" = women who have not yet entered the besieged city of marriage

Three problems of leftover women:

1, aggressive and stubborn woman

Too independent to challenge men's self-confidence and self-esteem; I like to be self-centered and not accept criticism and opposition.

Solution: Don't bring the strength at work to the emotion, which masks the gentleness and thoughtfulness of women. You know, a woman's gentleness is like a whip, which will whip a man forward. You know, the world is not centered on you. Think about the needs of others with your heart and don't impose your wishes on others. Less arrogant, more modest and prudent, and avoid being opinionated.

2. Reality is very picky about women.

Daily life is too rigid and lacks interest; Too much emphasis on money, even some haggle over every ounce; Can't afford to be picky about men.

Solution: We should look for an object according to our own conditions rather than idealization, learn to find the advantages of others, love him by accepting his shortcomings, be less critical, and appreciate and praise him more. Boyfriends are not for others to see, throw away those comparisons, enlarge the horizons of life and find fun in life.

3. A deeply hurt woman

I had an unforgettable first love, but I was still immersed in it. I always have the shadow of my ex-boyfriend in my heart, which is careless to anyone.

Solution: Love can only be rewarded if it is paid. When two hearts collide, generate will spark from the shadow, so that the sweetness of the new love can nourish the broken heart. There are no two identical leaves in the world, and blind comparison will only miss a beautiful marriage.

Second, "leftover men"

"Leftover men" = men who have not yet entered the besieged city of marriage.

Let's talk about the mind of the leftover man first:

Don't look for someone of the same age: compared with young girls, women of the same age know everything, and they don't have the youthful charm of a little girl, which makes men feel dissatisfied in getting along; However, compared with adults in their 40 s, they lack tolerance and amorous feelings, and feel that the taste is green and yellow. Don't choose if the conditions are poor: looking for a wife is not looking for a lover. You can't do it casually, you must do it. Blind date is terrible: I have been blind date countless times, but I have never felt anything.

Let's talk about the three major problems of leftover men:

1, perfectionist male

Compared with his peers, he has superior academic qualifications and economic conditions, and can be called "bachelor of diamonds", but he often stubbornly looks for the ideal "dream lover" with a heavy and light mentality.

Solution: Love needs sensibility, excessive rationality and choosing objects completely based on various realistic conditions, which will weaken the feeling of beauty and innocence.

2. Dogmatists

They have a stable and well-paid job, even a car, go fishing, travel far away ... and enjoy their personal interests in the single world. They are afraid of losing one's space and don't know how to get along with another person.

Solution: Being single has the freedom to be single, and getting married also has the happiness of marriage. You can ask your married friends around you to overcome your fear of marriage. If two people communicate well, your wife will allow you to keep your hobbies after marriage. You can also go to Egypt with your wife. There are many necessary stages in life. Do what you should do at each stage, and sow when it is time to sow, and the result will be fruitful. Only in this way can you taste a full and complete life experience.

3. Playboy

Handsome or considerate in appearance, looks very feminine. There are many women around them. They enjoy and are good at experiencing different love feelings among thousands of flowers and choose to be single.

Solution: Some people realize their value by making money and mastering skills and knowledge, while playboy men seek self-confidence and show charm in the process of constantly changing girlfriends. As the saying goes, "weak water is 3 thousand, only one scoop of water is taken", and playboy man is too greedy, which is also a manifestation of poor discrimination and decision-making ability. To settle down, we must first make clear what we love most, and show the courage to take on family responsibilities in order to enjoy family happiness.

4. Hesitant person

Some boys are not bad, their academic qualifications are not low, and their income is not low. Some people, even bosses, can be independent in the unit. There were many opportunities before them. However, they always find fault with other people's height, appearance, education and other one-sided things, and think that this is not enough. However, when I get old, I think all the girls used to be very nice. There is another kind, that is, I feel this or that, and I have no opinion of my own. For example, I think this girl is not good-looking, but she is very tall and has a good figure; Later, I felt that the girl had a bad figure, but she had a good personality and a high degree. This kind of man has no backbone. I let my youth be dedicated to the air in wandering.

Solution: Know what you really need, always pay attention to the advantages rather than disadvantages of girls, and you will find that there are many girls around you who meet your taste.

If your situation conforms to the above introduction, then you are a qualified leftover man and woman.

Before we start the discussion, let's define the leftover men and women. The so-called leftover men and women are people who have no other half or can't find the other half. Of course, we should set an age limit for such people. Personally, in China, the age of 30+ is more appropriate. Of course, you may dispute this, which is not the focus of the discussion. It should also be declared that this article only includes people who are in good health, have legal jobs and are unmarried. Divorce, prisoners, patients with chronic diseases, people with financial difficulties, people with special hobbies and disabled people are not included in the discussion.

Next, we need to make a big classification of leftover men and women: those who have been in love and those who have never been in love. Then subdivide these two categories.

There are several situations in which people who have been in love but are still single:

1, high-low type

Don't say I'm too picky, I just want to be satisfied. Such people usually have good conditions, so they don't allow their other half to be flawed. But we know that no one is perfect, so ...

2. Fate plays tricks on you

This kind of person, either others like you and you don't like others; Either you like people and they don't like you. In the long run, when you get older, you will become a remnant!

3. Meet the wrong person.

Poor you, you have been hit hard in the journey of love and can't recover. When it comes to change, I have no choice but to watch time fly and grow old.

Never been in love, there are several situations:

1, long and small

The protected animals belonging to the family are probably spoiled by relatives and friends around them and feel that they don't need the other half. It was not until one day that I suddenly found that all my friends around me were in pairs that I suddenly realized, ah, I was left alone.

2. Fear of marriage

Or social phobia. Such people are introverted and blush when talking to strangers. Dare not talk to strangers, can't close relatives get married? Alas, poor man.

3. Huo Qubing type

This kind of person is enterprising and spends all his time on work or study. He shouted like Huo Qubing, "Why do Huns want to stay at home when they die?" . Well, most people are still alive.

Feasible solutions:

1, high-low type

To have a sense of crisis, the older you get, the smaller your choice, in other words, the more you depreciate (usually women). Stop falling and rebound? You think it's a stock?

The ultimate suggestion: find a reliable marriage with poor conditions, who doesn't hate people, and the size is also a companion. It's better for someone to bicker than to be alone (not autistic).

2. Fate plays tricks on you

People who love me give everything for me, but I cry for the people I love. Why bother? It is always contradictory to marry the person who loves you or the person you love.

Ultimate advice: marry someone who loves you. If you think you have the ability to make the person you love love you back, why not try to change yourself and love the person who loves you? Which is easier to change yourself or others?

3. Meet the wrong person.

Once bitten, twice shy is your typical portrayal. How to solve it? Well rope thrown in front of you, you are not afraid of it biting you.

The ultimate suggestion: read more touching love stories that really happen and learn from the harmonious families around you. Life is not so terrible, there are still many good people. Happiness is waiting for you around the corner.

For the leftover men and women who have never been in love, there is one thing in common, that is, the social circle is too small, and there are few partners to choose from, so it is difficult to find a suitable partner.

The ultimate suggestion: "Go out, please come in" is the best way to get rid of the status quo. "Going out" means actively expanding the circle of life, and the outside world and people are wonderful. "Please come in" means to dare to show yourself and propose.

3. Social culture-leftover men and women

Leftover men and women are actually a kind of culture, a new culture that comes into being with the development of society. Leftover men and women are also a new vocabulary. Up to now, there is no clear boundary to define what is leftover men and women. Some people think that only those over the age of 30 who are unmarried or unmarried are considered leftover men and women. Some people think that there is no age limit, as long as they are single, they are all leftover men and women, because modern people are getting younger and younger in love, but getting older and older in marriage.