Married for 20 years, asexual marriage 10 years, how can such a marriage continue?

Married for 20 years, asexual 10 years, first of all, let's understand what asexual marriage is. Sociologists say that if there is no physical illness or accident between husband and wife, but there is no tacit sexual life for more than a month, it is a asexual marriage.

According to this theory, most couples in China are asexual marriages. Nowadays, people are busy at work and under great pressure. Coupled with the elderly and children, it is simply too difficult for a middle-aged couple to have perfect sex.

The popularity of asexual marriage is far beyond our imagination.

Professor Pan Suiming from the Institute of Sexual Sociology of Renmin University of China conducted a gender survey in 2000. The results showed that more than 1/4(28.7%) of the men and women aged 20 to 64 who were married or cohabiting but still lived together at the time of the survey did not even have sex for a month.

54%? Mr. and Mrs. China only talk about their sex life occasionally.

Who is the only couple who can often talk about this topic? 1/ 10。

1/3? Some couples never communicate, or only communicate through expressions or actions, and don't talk about it.

About asexual marriage, the most famous one is Cai Qin. Her asexual marriage with Yang Dechang in 10 ended in divorce. He doesn't like platonic pure love, but he doesn't love her at all.

Those who refuse to have sex on the grounds that "work is tiring enough", "an old married couple should stop fooling around" and "the pressure of raising children is enough to have no interest in doing this" are simply because there is no love.

Ordinary people, if both sides are not cheating, most people will choose to live this life in silence for the sake of their children and families.

But Wang Xiaobo said that sex is the most primitive natural need of human beings, as simple and beautiful as eating and sleeping.

If your partner treats sex negatively, don't give up. Many people with asexual marriages have gradually widened the distance from bed separation to room distribution.

Once a habit is formed, it is difficult to recover.

Here are some suggestions:

Number one: Two people travel alone.

When people reach middle age, they are old and young, plus mortgage and car loan. Everyone has a hard time, and they are all chicken feathers. Don't give up your yearning and expectation for sex. Women should dare to say I do in marriage.

You can plan a trip with only two people, a strange place and beautiful scenery, which can easily make people return to the beauty of their youth, thus contributing to the warming of their feelings.

Second: increase the freshness.

In Love Call Transfer, the hero played by Xu zhēng has a classic line. You always wear this purple sweater at home. I hate purple most, you know? I hate to see purple; The cup for brushing teeth must be placed on the second floor of the grid, and even a mark can't be bad; Toothpaste should be squeezed from bottom to top, so what's wrong with me squeezing from the middle? I'm willing to squeeze in. Why? Every Thursday is always a slag river, TV series, TV series, slag river; Also, when you eat noodles, can you stop playing with that noodle?

This line has been recognized by countless compatriots, and many women feel that they are a family after marriage, so they give up dressing up.

But if you want to keep love fresh, appropriate changes are necessary.

Two people take part in some novel activities, or change the style of home improvement, try sexy underwear, and even plan the frequency, place and way of sex life, unlock new postures and new ways of playing within the acceptable range of both parties, and so on.

Third: seek professional help.

If ordinary advice can't change the status quo, you can seek professional help. There is a career of marriage counselor now, so you can try to ask them for help.

Finally, since you don't want a divorce, don't give up easily. Try to manage your marriage well within your power, and the husband and wife will live together. It is said that no one will bow to anyone first.

The best love often belongs to thick-skinned people. Don't be stingy to express your love. There are many ways to get happiness, but none of them fall from the sky.