How to control your emotions and not yell at your children?

Parents with stable emotions can give their children a little warmth when they grow up. And those parents who don't know how to control their emotions not only hinder their children's physical and mental health, but also cause psychological trauma to their children.

Huang Xingzhen said: "Raising children is a kind of practice and the emotional wisdom of parents. Yelling parents always miss the opportunity to teach their children how to manage their emotions. "

On the road of education, as parents, we still have a long way to go. If parents do not pay attention to emotional management, it will endanger their children's life for a long time.

For example, many parents always yell at their children when they are young. For example, when a child makes a mistake: "How many times have I said, don't blame me for being angry when I make a mistake next time"; When children do their homework: "If you can't do such a simple question, don't sleep"; When the child is disobedient: "Put down the phone and play again, and I will fall!" " " ……

You see, when you yell, the child seems to obey, so yelling becomes your daily life, so you regard yelling as a magic weapon to "educate" the child. You even think, "If you can't control him when you are young, you can't control him when you grow up." . But you forgot one sentence: "How rude you were to your children when you were young, and how rebellious your children will be when they grow up!" " "

Parents often only care about their own feelings when yelling, but ignore their children's feelings. Many parents always use their parents' authority in the name of so-called love, hoping that their children can do what they say. Once a child makes a mistake, he never listens to his voice, but threatens to make a hullabaloo about. And this kind of education with emotions is actually the most ineffective.

Jenny alimu said: "it is not terrible that children have shortcomings." What is terrible is that parents lack correct educational concepts. "

Parents manage their emotions well, which is the best education for their children and the best example for them. This is conducive to children's self-management, self-discipline and adjustment of mental health. It is the first step for parents to control their emotions successfully.

John gotman said, "The ability to perceive and control emotions is even more important than IQ. These abilities determine a person's achievements and happiness in all fields of society, including family happiness. "

Therefore, the emotional stability of parents is the greatest blessing of children's life, and it is also the best educational foundation for children's life. Parenting is equal to educating oneself, accompanying children to grow up and parents.