When people reach middle age, they cross others first and then cross themselves.

Only by living as a mountain can you become a backer of others.

Buddhism said, "If you cross others, cross yourself first."

If a person wants to conquer others, he must first conquer himself.

Knowing yourself can guide others.

Only when you are strong can you solve problems for others.

Before I reach the other shore, the only thing I can do is row by myself.

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When people reach middle age, every family has a difficult experience.

Parents enter recession, career enters bottleneck, and children enter rebellion.

When you open your eyes, it is the trivial life of a family. Children's grades should be controlled, parents' health should be grasped, and the company's classes should be added.

A man can't wait to break it in half and turn it around 24 hours a day.

The ancients said, "Don't talk lightly, but don't persuade others."

Middle-aged people carry the burden of a young family on their shoulders. Don't force yourself to help others.

Help if you can, and learn to refuse if you can.

This is not heartless and indifferent, but a kind of maturity and prudence.

Shameless, pretending to be fat, promising others' things.

On the one hand, your life is overdrawn, on the other hand, others may not feel your gratitude.

Small kindness raises nobles, while great kindness raises enemies.

Doing everything for others, it is easy to raise an ungrateful baiwenhang.

Between friends, helping is a mutual affection, not an obligation.

No one is born to be kind to anyone.

Instead of caring about other people's trifles, it is better to mind your own daily necessities.

It is not easy for anyone to reach middle age.

Taking oneself as the center, taking care of your life first and making your family comfortable is the most practical happiness.

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Zhang Wei once said: "If the air conditioner is turned on too much, it will be fatal to meddle."

When people reach middle age, they will gradually understand.

Whether friends or relatives, the more you manage, the more mistakes you make.

There are no two identical leaves and no two identical people in the world.

Everyone has different opinions and habits.

His honey is your arsenic.

Just because you don't like it doesn't mean others are uncomfortable.

If you insist on interrupting, it's easy to get yourself into trouble.

What you want is not necessarily what others want.

Many things are beyond our control, and many people are beyond our pleasure.

We can't control other people's lives or change their minds.

The only thing to do is to mind your own business and talk less.

Talk less, respect others, manage yourself and protect yourself.

Don't talk about other people's private affairs; Don't worry about other people's lives.

Be good to yourself, your family and mind your own business.

How can others have nothing to do with themselves and how can others not interfere?

Mind your own business.

Silence is a kind of wisdom, and less concern is a choice.

Life is short, and the rest of my life is not long. Living a quiet life is a person's greatest blessing.

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"A Generation of Masters" said: "People live in this world, some people live as faces, and some people live as linings."

People who live a face are living for others to see in this life; He who lives for himself lives for himself.

No matter how beautiful your face is, what's the point of living like this?

No matter how beautiful the shoes are, if they don't fit, they are destined not to belong to them.

No matter how good a person is, if he doesn't like it, he can't get along.

As the ancients said, those who please others are numerous, and those who please themselves are king.

Everything we do is not to make others happy, but to make ourselves comfortable.

Don't care about other people's suggestions;

Don't be limited to other people's comments;

You don't have to change for other people's likes and dislikes.

We are not RMB, so we can't satisfy everyone.

The only thing worth doing is to make yourself happy and satisfied.

When people reach middle age, they don't have to think about pleasing anyone.

Stay with whoever is comfortable with.

Stay away when you are tired. No need to please, no need to make do.

Bloom alone in silence and grow alone in loneliness.

As Mr Jiang Yang once said:

"We are so eager for outside recognition that we finally realize that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others."

Pleasing yourself and enriching yourself is the greatest responsibility for life.

When people reach middle age, it is more important to concentrate on their own affairs than anything else.

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Degang Guo has a good saying: "Stay away from those who always advise you to be generous, because lightning will get you into trouble."

Never know the pain until you slap yourself.

Holding other people's pain to flaunt their forgiveness, it seems easy for such people to stand and talk.

Many people say, "To forgive others is to forgive yourself."

In fact, only when the inner mind is no longer entangled can a person be comfortable and calm.

But that's not forgiveness, but indifference; Not tolerance, but forgetting.

Lu Xun put it well: "Let them resent it, I won't forgive any of them."

I don't want to care, but I don't forgive.

In middle age, people see through the world and understand human nature.

If a person can always forgive others easily, it will only make others hurt more seriously.

If you can always tolerate the pain caused by others, it will only make people feel that this person is easy to bully.

Someone said, "We should thank those who have hurt us."

Because these injuries make us stronger and make us better.

However, there has never been a kind injury. When we come out of the mire, we should be grateful to ourselves.

Confucius said, "How to repay evil with good? Direct complaints, good for good. "

I will treat you as you treat me.

When people reach middle age, they only cherish those who cherish themselves and appreciate those who treat them well.

People who have hurt themselves need neither revenge nor forgiveness.

Cai Kangyong said: "I encourage everyone to be a cold-hearted person."

Don't be so enthusiastic about other people's affairs. Don't care too much about others.

Everyone's energy is limited. A person can manage others as well as himself.

When people reach middle age, they are old in the world and young in the world. We are all helpless people.

Only by living as a mountain can you become a backer of others.

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