What do you think of the eccentric mother forcing her daughter to pay back the money for her brother and contemporary fans Mei Sheng?

We often say, why have two children? Just to take care of each other and be a companion in the future, so that parents can rest assured.

Sounds warm, doesn't it? But this kind of care and companionship must also be measured, otherwise it will only become a disaster for the family.

There are many parents around us. They are all Su Mu in Fu, just like Fan Mu in Ode to Joy. They blindly favor their sons and squeeze their daughters, and finally, their families are unhappy.

Many people say that they don't understand the thoughts of these parents, and the palms of their hands are full of meat. Even if you like your son better, you can't do this to your daughter.

But, ah, I've met many such parents. In their minds, the daughter will get married and lose money in the future, but the son belongs to his own family. So, anyway, it is right for the daughter to pay for this family, and the son doesn't have to do anything.

It is often a mistake to think that their spoiled son has accomplished nothing. At this time, they will even ask their daughter to be responsible for her mistakes all her life and take good care of this spoiled son.

They won't feel that there is anything wrong with their handling, and they won't consider what kind of harm they have brought to their daughters.

But in fact, the girls who grew up in such a family look very strong and capable, but in fact they are very fragile inside, especially vulnerable to inferiority and injury. They want to resist, but they don't know how to resist under such pressure. They long for love, but they dare not touch it.

This kind of injury may last a lifetime, or it may never be cured, because the relatives she once trusted most hurt her, even mercilessly.

Just like Miss Yang, the protagonist of today's article, she said that she was called "Contemporary Fan" by her friends because her family conditions were much better than Fan's, but she had a mother and brother who were similar to Fan. Growing up, she never gave her love, only bullying and squeezing.

Now, she has grown up and created a world by her own strength. However, she still can't get the approval of her parents, and her brother sucks away her happiness like a vampire.

In pain, she finally rose up and decided to pursue her own happiness.

02

Miss Yang was born in a well-off family, her parents are in business, and she has a brother who is two years older than her. It stands to reason that the youngest daughter must be very favored by such a rich family. However, Miss Yang has never felt the warmth of her family since she was a child.

Because of her busy business, it is difficult to take care of her two children. Miss Yang's parents sent her to her grandmother's house in the country very early. As a left-behind child, she grew up with her grandmother in the village, while her brother lived a luxurious and happy life with her parents.

Fortunately, Miss Yang's grandmother is a very kind old man. She has a tough personality, so she also taught Miss Yang to be independent and self-reliant.

Grandma gave all her love to Teacher Yang, but she died suddenly when Teacher Yang was in junior high school. Miss Yang felt that her sky had collapsed and there was nothing left. In desperation, mom and dad had to take her to the city.

Miss Yang, who has just arrived in the city, is out of place with this family. She felt like an outsider. She is curious about her brother's food, clothing and play, but she just dares not touch it. Accustomed to a person's brother will not take care of this sister, but take pleasure in bullying her.

Mom and dad are very busy at work, so they have little time to care about Miss Yang's psychological changes. When she transferred, they went to work separately. Teacher Yang studied hard in the new school, but she was at the bottom of the first exam.

Although my brother's grades were not much better, his parents severely criticized Teacher Yang, saying that she didn't work hard and let the teacher invite her parents, which was really disappointing.

Teacher Yang dare not defend himself. She just stayed up to review every night after crying, hoping to catch up with everyone's progress quickly.

Many things happen. Teacher Yang finally came to the middle of the class in the next big exam. The teacher praised her at the parent-teacher meeting, and she was very happy. However, her parents didn't look happy, and even her mother said, "You are a girl, you should know how to work hard, and we don't have time for you."

At that time, Miss Yang didn't understand why her parents did this to herself. Isn't she their own child?

But after growing up slowly, Miss Yang finally understood that the girl will always be an outsider, and every penny invested for her will be wasted in the future, but her brother is a member of his own family and will do it anyway.

03

As the days passed, my parents' business got better and better, but Miss Yang's heart became colder and colder. The longer she lives, the more she can see the difference between her parents and her brother. Obviously, there is no shortage of money at home, but her parents allow her to take a taxi to school every day and only let her take the bus. Her brother didn't study hard, so they all paid for various cram schools for his brother, no matter how expensive, but they wanted to enroll in advanced classes, but their parents said it was a waste of money.

Miss Yang remembers that she cried and asked her parents, "I study hard and honor you when I grow up, okay?" My parents said with a cold face, "you are a girl, it's useless to learn so much." Don't say such nice things now. It's almost time to go to work and help the family make money. This is the right way. "

After so much experience, Miss Yang doesn't want to have any expectations for this family, but even if she tells herself again and again not to have any hope, she still can't help herself to do everything well and want to be affirmed by her parents. Yes, who doesn't want parents to love themselves?

When she was admitted to college, Miss Yang's parents were not happy. They don't think it's worthwhile for a girl to go out to college and spend so much money. The more realistic reason is that Mr. Yang's brother didn't go to college at all.

Miss Yang had no choice but to take out the money left by her grandmother. She said it was for her dowry, but Miss Yang thought it was more meaningful to let her go to school.

When my parents knew about the money, they called her a baiwenhang. After raising her for so many years, she secretly hid the money, but Miss Yang was glad that she had hidden it. Otherwise, she doesn't even have the right to go to school now.

04

After four years in college, her parents never gave Miss Yang a penny. Knowing that the money in hand is hard-won, she scrimps and saves, and usually goes to work in her spare time. In this way, I barely survived.

Because of her excellent academic performance, Miss Yang signed a contract with a big company without graduating from college, and her salary was considerable enough for her to rent a house.

Teacher Yang told his parents the good news at the first time. She hoped to make them happy, but she didn't expect them to say, "Yo, your wings are hard. Don't stay outside. Come back soon. "

At this time, Miss Yang realized that in recent years, my brother was lazy, spent money and ruined several stores that his parents gave him. His parents are too old to keep up with their energy and physical strength, and the business at home is getting worse and worse.

Parents want her to go back and find a similar small boss to marry and raise their family again. Miss Yang really can't believe that her parents just gave birth to herself. After so many years, they have never fulfilled their responsibilities as parents, but now they want to exchange themselves for money. What kind of family is this?

No matter how his parents scold him, Mr. Yang has made up his mind not to go back. She knew that if she went back, she would be resigned. This life is really over, but she really wants to live for herself once.

But people didn't go back, but Miss Yang's money was always asked back by her parents. Her parents are going to see a doctor today, and there is something urgent at home tomorrow. In fact, Miss Yang knows that all the money is spent on her younger brother, but she has no other way. She has only one father and mother, and she is eager to be loved by her parents since she was a child. How could she refuse them?

At this time, Miss Yang met a boyfriend. She is a colleague of Miss Yang, very practical and capable. Although the conditions at home are average, she is particularly motivated.

This man likes Miss Yang's efforts very much, especially after learning of Miss Yang's past, he vowed to take good care of Miss Yang and not let her be wronged again.

In this way, under his care, Teacher Yang became cheerful bit by bit. Although she cried when her parents called for money, she just felt that life had hope.

05

After more than a year of love, her boyfriend proposed to Miss Yang. Miss Yang is very happy, but at the same time she is a little worried. She has never told her parents about love, but it is impossible not to say it when she is getting married, but she is not sure what her parents will do to her boyfriend.

When I went home with my boyfriend, my parents were surprised and cold. They didn't care about the feelings of the man and his daughter, but asked about his family conditions and current economic situation.

When I heard that my boyfriend had saved money and paid the down payment to buy a house, my face was a little better, but I couldn't hide my dislike for them. Mother said, "Our family is a big family with only one daughter. It's not that easy to marry her. Like the people around us, a daughter needs a bride price of1800,000, but I heard that your family's conditions are average and you can't afford that much, just 660,000, and we don't want much. "

Hearing the figure of 660,000, Miss Yang and her boyfriend were shocked. Teacher Yang said, "Mom, are you kidding? 660 thousand, who can get that much money? How can there be so many bride price? " When mother heard her say this, she flew into a rage, patted the table and stood up and said, "I still feel deficient." I will support you. You will find me such a bad product, and your brother is getting married. We give your sister-in-law 880 thousand bride price. Your 660 thousand is not enough. Make money quickly. Don't spend all your money on others. You have to accept the remaining200,000. "

When Teacher Yang heard her mother say this, she burst into tears. She said, "Mom, are you selling your daughter?" It doesn't matter to me how much bride price my brother wants to get married. Why should I bear it? "

My mother slapped her face and pointed at Miss Yang and said, "Don't you dare talk to me like that. Your wings are really hard. I tell you, in the future, you will belong to someone else's family, and all the money you earn will be donated to someone else's family. We raised you for nothing. Now let you give me some. What happened? I also tell you that you are the only brother and our Yang family is the only child. You have to take care of him all your life, don't try to shirk it. This is your responsibility as a Yang family. "

Hearing this, Miss Yang really trembled with anger. Her mother turned right from wrong, completely ignored her own happiness, and even sentenced her to death for life. Although my boyfriend didn't speak, he stood up firmly to hold Miss Yang, gave her a look and told her, Don't be afraid, I'm here.

Miss Yang was suddenly moved, that is, her boyfriend is a good man and firmly loves herself. If she were someone else, she might have scared off. She looked at her boyfriend, then at her mother, and suddenly woke up. She feels that she has always longed for the recognition of her parents and the love of her family, but the more she gives, the more she is exploited. They are like a cancer, attached to themselves, devouring their happiness and happiness. If she doesn't wake up, this may be her life.

She faced her mother, dried her tears and said, "Mom, he is your son, not mine. Whether he will live or die in the future has nothing to do with me. I won't keep him for life. " He can't live any longer. That's also a question of your education. I'm not responsible. I call you mom because I thank you for raising me, but from now on, I will live for myself, and I will decide my own life and who I will marry. "

Say that finish, pulling her boyfriend out of the house. Miss Yang said that she cried a lot after she went back, which was really unbearable. Why do parents who love her so much hurt themselves like this? Although she just said all the cruel words, she still felt a little sad.

Miss Yang said that for her boyfriend and her future life, she must work hard, live a good life and bravely say no to her parents' unreasonable demands, but she really hopes that her parents will wake up early and understand that she is also a member of this family. Seriously, she doesn't want to break with her family of origin completely.

06

After listening to Miss Yang's story, I feel very distressed. Her story is not a case. There are many families around us who have this concept of son preference.

Many parents think that the son is the family and needs to be distressed and cared for, but the daughter is someone else's family sooner or later and should pay more for this family.

But in fact, in such a family, most daughters have been paying for the family, and the son is like a vampire.

I don't know if these parents have thought about whether they are doing this right or not, but I know that most of these parents will not really repent, because that deep-rooted thought has become a cancer in their blood and cannot be changed.

Then, girls living in these families must have a strong heart, not only to make themselves independent and capable, but also to learn to refuse.

Although I know it is difficult, you should know that if you always obey family of origin's unreasonable demands, your life will only be more difficult.

It's just that Mingyu and Fan are as bad as family background, but Su Mingyu can live better than Fan because she dares to make a clean break with family background.

Although we see that Su Mingyu has paid a lot for this family, at least she has a bottom line and principles, which all girls should learn.

Women, no matter in any relationship, the ability to distinguish right from wrong is very important, and the ability to be cruel enough is also very important. We don't owe anyone, and we try our best to have a clear conscience towards everyone. But if the other party still abducts you with emotion and drags you into the whirlpool, then I advise you to stop loss in time.

Because only in this way can you truly have your own life and truly reap your happiness.