The widowed mother Sheng Hailin: 6 1 year-old gave birth to a child and desperately gave birth to twins. What was life like later?

In recent years, with the progress of society and the improvement of medical level, older women have become more and more common, and their age has reached a new high year by year. But is it really easier for older women to have children than expected? Can their physical and economic conditions really withstand the birth and growth of a child?

In Anhui, there is such a 6 1 year-old woman, Sheng Hailin, who gave birth to twins through many struggles and adventures 10 years ago. Many years have passed, but now the living conditions are not as perfect as imagined.

When she was in her sixties, she accidentally became an orphan mother.

In recent years, the number of elderly women has increased year by year. Every woman has the right to be a mother, but everyone wants children for different reasons. Some people may want to seek companionship for themselves because of the opening of the second child policy, but the reason why Sheng Hailing wants to have a second child is very distressing.

Sheng Hailin and her husband used to be soldiers. Sheng Hailin himself is a military doctor. Later, she retired from the army and went to a hospital to be a doctor. The income of husband and wife can be said to be above average.

They got married and gave birth to an only child. After years of training, my daughter also entered the marriage hall and successfully married as a wife. The husband and wife are nearly 60 years old and have reached retirement age.

All this seems to be developing in a beautiful direction, but at this moment, an accident happened, and the fate of husband and wife can be said to have reached a great turning point.

It turned out that their only daughter died unexpectedly because of gas poisoning when she went back to her hometown with her son-in-law that night. The death of her daughter brought a great blow to the couple. She couldn't accept her daughter's death and stayed in Lacrimosa all day. At this moment, Sheng Hailin made an amazing decision: to have a second child.

You know, at that time, Sheng Hailin was nearly sixty years old and could be said to be an ultra-old woman. You can imagine the risk of having a second child.

Sheng Hailin, a doctor, certainly knows how risky his decision will be, but in order to make up for the pain of losing his daughter, Sheng Hailin has always insisted on his own ideas.

The hard way to find children for the lost mother

Sheng Hailin, who is nearly sixty years old, can say that she can't get pregnant naturally regardless of her physical condition or fertility. If she wants to get pregnant, she can only get pregnant through IVF. So she consulted around through the channels of colleagues and comrades-in-arms and went to many hospitals.

However, when she told those experts that she wanted to have a second child, she was rejected by the doctor. It can be said that Sheng Hailin ran into a wall on this road of finding children, and there were many difficulties.

Once a doctor told Sheng Hailin that it was impossible to conceive a child at her age, and many people advised her to give up, but these suggestions did not shake Sheng Hailin's confidence and persistence until she came to a hospital in Hefei and impressed an expert doctor with her own beliefs.

With the help of the doctor, she began to recuperate and accept IVF. Finally, at the age of 6 1 year, twins were conceived through IVF technology.

But because she was too old, she suffered from high blood pressure, pregnancy and other diseases, but everything paid off. She finally gave birth to a pair of twin daughters named Zhi Zhi and Hui Hui in mid-May of 10.

Beautiful ideal, skinny reality

Couples have no pressure when they have their first daughter. They think there is no pressure to have a second child. Moreover, they are doctors and have rich experience in child care, but the reality is often unsatisfactory. The so-called ideal is beautiful, and the reality is that the sense of bone has been fully reflected.

Because Sheng Hailin is an elderly woman, both children were born prematurely by caesarean section, and their development is not perfect enough. It can only be monitored in an incubator, so the daily expenses are very high. In addition, the expenditure on monthly pregnancy, milk powder and other projects is also very huge. Therefore, although the pension amount of the two elderly people is very considerable, the husband and wife are helpless in the face of such high medical expenses.

Moreover, the husband and wife obviously underestimated the economic pressure of raising children. Soon after the children were born, they encountered the "Sanlu milk powder" incident. At that time, parents no longer believed in domestic milk powder and turned their attention to imported milk powder.

Sheng Hailin is no exception. In order to provide better living conditions for children, Sheng Hailin, who has retired, can only find a new job and use his professional knowledge to give lectures all over the country. It can be said that she has done her best for her daughter.

As the saying goes, it never rains but it pours, which can be said to be very suitable for Sheng Hailin and his wife.

With the increase of age, her husband was paralyzed in bed after a stroke. Because of going out to work, Sheng Hailin couldn't take care of her husband and two daughters personally, so she had to ask a nanny to help, making the already urgent life even more difficult.

Sheng Hailin, who is now nearly 70 years old, is still traveling all the year round to subsidize his family. Someone once asked him, if you were given another chance to choose, would you choose to have another child? But this time her answer was not so firm. She said she would definitely consider it.

Sheng Hailin chose to give birth at an advanced age in order to get rid of the pain of losing her only child. However, the arrival of the second child did not soothe her mental grief, but added trouble to her life.

At the beginning, her impulse brought a great burden to her family and children. Sheng Hailin once thought that she could embrace happiness as long as she gave birth to a second child, but now she has experienced the blow of life. She is not happy, and she has only pressure and heavy responsibilities.

Great maternal love needs to think twice before you act.

In the process of giving birth to a second child, Sheng Hailin and his wife not only have to face the secular vision, but also bear the responsibility of their children's future growth. The burden of loving the old and the young is all on Sheng Hailin.

There is no denying that maternal love is great, so great that Sheng Hailin can overcome all difficulties and the eyes of secular people and insist on having a second child. However, older women need to think twice before giving birth to a second child. Even if they try their best to give birth to children, they should also consider their health and future. The cost of raising a child is beyond our imagination. A second child has both economic and physical pressures for many people.

At the same time, raising children requires not only money, but also time and energy to take care of and educate children and ensure their healthy growth. Therefore, both elderly couples and young parents need to examine whether they have enough money, time and energy to protect their children's healthy growth.

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It is a person's right to choose to have a second child or be a parent, but parents should consider whether their comprehensive strength is enough to raise a child. Don't let children pay for our temporary impulse, and don't let our temporary impulse become a wrong choice that we regret for life.