The best state of love is to nourish each other and achieve each other.

Every woman looks forward to a perfect love, and everyone has all kinds of expectations and fantasies about love, hoping that their other half can make up for their own shortcomings. Longing for happiness is everyone's instinct.

However, our marriage is not as beautiful as we expected, but those expectations in our minds have brought our marriage into despair step by step.

Li Xinpin's map of love awakening says that it is not love that makes you miserable, but your wrong belief in love. Wow, when I saw this sentence, it filled my heart and told me again and again that my belief was at work.

Did you make a standard list of boyfriends or husbands before marriage?

The book says that every list of boyfriends (husbands) you make before marriage will become every reason or Trojan horse for future disputes. Because when your expectations are not met, there will be disputes. Or expect to be satisfied once, your expectations will rise next time, and once you fail, it will lead to disputes.

Think about your boyfriend's standards before marriage: be good to me; Be good to your family; Have ideas and pursuits; You can have no money, but you must have the ability to make money ... I found my husband with these ideas, and looking back on my marriage really confirmed every point in the book. After marriage, my husband lost his job, so I went to work by myself and supported us with a meager salary. At first, all my expectations for him failed, and all kinds of inner grievances began, such as quarreling, cold war, internal friction, and finally entered a trough.

After having children, I took care of my baby at home full-time, and my husband began to work to earn money to support the whole family. Later, he planned to work with his friends. I am optimistic about his ability, but I need to invest in the early stage of starting a business, and the money will not be earned back soon. In this way, life is really stretched.

Finally, what can be done to bring benefits? I have an idea.-on my own. In this golden age of convenient internet, women can also have their own careers, so I decided to rely on myself. In this way, in the process of growing up, it seems that the husband's relationship is gradually harmonious. I will fully support him and have no expectations of him. I feel that I have never lost in getting along with him in the last two years, and I care more about mutual support and relaxation.

Make good use of the advantages of the other half and our differences to become dream partners.

Only by letting go of the expectation of him can we really see a person clearly and his shortcomings will become advantages. We can use the difference of the other half to expand our tolerance and flexibility in life. Use the advantages that you are not good at and the other half are good at to cooperate and achieve each other. For example, you can use his aesthetics to make up for your aesthetic deficiency; You can make up for your indecision with a man's courage; You can use men's foresight to make up for your shortsightedness. ...

Two people do not expect each other, keep their own boundaries, do not change others, do not interfere with others, and strive to grow themselves. When you concentrate all your strength to develop yourself, you will also help the other half to find the advantages in him, help yourself, help others and help him grow. What a great state of love two people can grow up together!

Woman, let yourself be the goddess who turns the stone into gold.

A woman in love no longer prays for what he can give you. You can develop yourself and help him turn stone into gold. In this way, when a man follows a woman, he will have a violent change. This state is simply beautiful!

The state of a woman is really too important. Don't complain that you haven't found a good man, because when you are not confident enough to stand on your own feet, you will find a man with the same frequency as you, and what kind of person you are. What kind of people will it attract? As the saying goes, "Birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups". So when you reach an independent, confident, positive and positive state, your other half will not be bad!

Women don't want idol drama plots, expecting Prince Charming to save you; Don't expect to let a man support you. This is destroying a woman and depriving you of the most important strength in your life. You should be responsible for your life, not attached to it.

As an independent individual, a woman has her own unique thoughts, a free soul, positive energy and a responsible attitude towards her life, so she will concentrate on developing herself and not expect anyone. When I concentrate on developing myself, your energy and your state will also drive the growth of the other half.

If you are still struggling, suffering and suffering in your marriage, then you can take action, study and read, and let yourself grow. Because, you can't exchange an old self for a new future. Let go of all expectations of marriage, concentrate on developing yourself, keep your own boundaries and not interfere with others. I believe that your growth can change your state, and your state can drive your husband's growth, nourish each other and achieve each other in the process of growth!

I am warm.

Look forward to meeting you on the same frequency.

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