After the wife's "marital infidelity", should she confess to her husband and see what the two women have said?

I have seen such a set of data: 80% of men who cheat in marriage will choose to forgive their husbands. If a woman cheats in marriage, only about 20% of husbands will accept a wife who wants to return to the family.

This set of data shows a social phenomenon: in marriage, when men and women face the same extramarital affairs, most men can still return to family life intact after an affair, but if the same thing happens to women, only a few people can get forgiveness from their partners, and most people can only end up with divorce and separation.

In fact, in real life, it is not difficult to find that women who cheat in marriage, except male compatriots, including women's same-sex groups, are far less tolerant of women's extramarital affairs than men.

Therefore, it is generally believed that women who cheat in marriage will be difficult to be happy in marriage once "adultery" is known to men.

This inevitably leads to a question: If the wife's cheating behavior is not discovered, should a woman confess to a man after having an affair?

Perhaps, many people will say, "The answer is naturallyno."

But some people say, "Men have the right to know."

Let's listen to what both of them have said.

02

Wang Mei, 45, has been married for 20 years.

When I was 25, I married my husband. We started from scratch, and the first few years of marriage were particularly hard.

At that time, we rented a house in the county, and it was hot in Leng Xia in winter.

At that time, everyone used stoves to burn coal to keep warm. In order to save money, no matter how cold it is in winter, we don't make a fire.

Afraid I'll catch a cold, my husband sleeps with my feet in his arms every night.

When it is particularly hot in summer, he often wakes up in the middle of the night and is still slapping me.

Now, I often think of those years. Although it was hard, it was my happiest time.

Later, we had our first appearance room, bought our own house and had children.

Slowly, we have a second shop, a third shop, and then a company.

Our business grew, and I became a full-time wife. My husband is naturally more and more busy, and he is often away from home for several months.

At the age of 40, one day, a strange woman sent me a "bed photo" of my husband and me.

In fact, at my age, I have long passed the age of "straightening out" everything, especially marriage and feelings.

My husband will have this kind of thing. Although I have given myself a vaccination, I am ready for "normal".

However, when the facts are really in front of us, we still can't overcome the "hurdle" in our hearts.

So, although my husband admitted his mistake later, I forgave him.

Only I know that my "trust" in him has collapsed.

Within two years, I had an affair with a man a few years younger than me.

I thought I would feel at ease, after all, my husband cheated in front.

The truth is, when I had an intimate relationship with that man, I felt guilty.

Finally, I couldn't stand the condemnation of moral conscience, so I confessed to my husband.

That night, my husband smoked in the study all night.

The next morning, I went to work as usual and didn't say anything to me.

I know. He means, it's over.

Someone said, "No man can tolerate his wife cuckolding himself. Even if he forgives, he can't get through it. " This sentence is correct.

Because, in recent years, my husband and I have been living that kind of life.

If I choose again, I won't tell my husband that night.

I think I will rot it in my stomach and break up with that man.

In this way, even if there is a rotten place in my heart, at least I don't have to drag a person to bear the same pain.

03

Xiaomei, 27, has been married for two years.

My affair was an accident and now I regret it.

A year ago, my husband and I got married.

However, before him, I had a six-year first love.

Originally, we were both talking about marriage, but he was with a friend of mine.

So in a rage, I broke up with him.

Within a few months, I met my husband, and he made a fierce pursuit of me.

Soon, I married him.

My husband is very kind to me after marriage, and I am very satisfied. I think, this life is him.

One day, a friend invited a group of us to a party, which happened to be our first love.

That night, our group drank a lot of wine, probably because of the wine, so we slept together in a daze.

Because I feel guilty, I can feel that every time I face my husband, I always feel that I lack him and want to please him.

Although, every time I face my husband, I will be held accountable by my conscience.

However, I understand that, in any case, that "problem" can only rot in the stomach.

For the rest of my life, I just want to make up for my guilt for my husband with my own goodness.

04

Should a woman confess to a man after cheating?

Most women who can think this way still don't want to end their marriage. They just cling to "If men don't forgive them, the family will break up", but don't say it, and they don't want to live with men's guilt all the time, which is condemned by their moral conscience.

I just want to say: if I had known this, why should I have?

In marriage, "loyalty" is the minimum moral bottom line.

If you want a happy marriage, at least let yourself have a clear conscience.

No one, male or female, likes the smell of betrayal.

As the saying goes: lovers after an affair are like RMB falling on a "stone". It's a pity that someone picked it up. It's disgusting.

"Marriage is not easy, and it is done and cherished." Don't let a dew love ruin a home, it's not worth it.