A letter to my divorced wife

Marriage is finally coming to an end. A divorce document is the end of a marriage. Looking back, how much love and how much hate are all turned into memories. The pain and tears all go away with the autumn wind, but what cannot be taken away are the warm memories of the past. Below I have compiled a letter to my divorced wife, and you are welcome to read it. A letter to my divorced wife Part 1

XXX:

I have always wanted to calm down and write something, but my heart cannot be calm and is very chaotic. I can’t remember the last time I wrote to you. If I count, it might have been ten years ago. Communication is so convenient now. Phone calls, text messages, emails, and QQ are all so fast. This slightly ancient communication method has almost been forgotten. But at this time, I want to write this letter to you, which can be regarded as a different farewell.

It has been more than 10 days since we had a conflict on July 10 and ended our 15-year life together on July 15. These 10 days have been long and painful for me. sky. Everything happened so suddenly. Although the period before this didn't feel good and the two of them argued more than before, they still didn't expect this day to come so quickly. I have been thinking about our affairs these days. I will think about it when I am free at work. I am afraid to go home after get off work because it feels too cold at home. I dreamed of a similar scenario several times when I went to bed at night. When I woke up, I found that it was a dream, but it was also a fact. Then I couldn't sleep for a long time. Although you are sleeping next to me, it feels like the distance between the two people is so far, that is the distance between the hearts. I also tried using alcohol to anesthetize myself, but the pain was no less painful.

I have been blaming myself these days. After all these years, I have not done well enough to give you a happy life, otherwise I would not be where I am today. In life, I am used to ordinary days, but I don't consider your feelings. I am an introvert and not good at communication. Most of the communication with you is led by you. When we go for a walk together, you usually talk more and I listen more. But I still like to be with you and go for a walk with you. Although sometimes I feel tired from work and feel that an hour’s walk is too far, but basically, I still insist on accompanying you. There may be less emotional communication. Think about it, we are an old married couple, and there are some things we don’t need to say. Although your position in my heart has not wavered at all, maybe you haven't felt it because my actions and words have not given you this feeling. When you were pregnant with your daughter, you were not allowed to enjoy the national treasure-level treatment that pregnant women deserve. I feel very guilty about this.

There has never been a big improvement at work, so although the financial conditions at home are not bad, they are just enough to make ends meet, and there has never been much spare money. I lose money by trading in the stock market, and it costs money to build a house at home. There is also a mortgage on the house, so I feel like the money is almost gone every year. At the end of last year, I finally had the opportunity to work for myself. Thinking about it, it should be better. Earning more and less is always better than working part-time. But it will be very busy when I go out to work, and I have hesitated whether I need to go through such tiring days, but your support finally made me determined. After all the hard work, if I can improve my living conditions at home, I think it will be worth it. of. Doesn’t my daughter often ask us when we can move to a bigger house? Although it is a very naive idea of ??a child, it is also touching to adults. Besides, I am not willing to just be an ordinary migrant worker for the rest of my life. Work is basically very busy and sometimes annoying, but with the strong support of my family, I don’t feel tired. I will be very happy when I get off work every day. The day's work is over and I can go home and see you and our daughter. There are less cars on the road at night, so I basically speed all the way. I want to get home early, before you guys go to bed. forward. I will also try my best to arrange a day off on weekends. To be honest, I really don’t want to work overtime, as I did in other companies before. But now, I have no choice. The company is still in its infancy and its scale is small. It is basically developing near the survival line. I have to do the work of several people by myself, so overtime is inevitable. When chatting with my former colleagues, I said that if you work for yourself now, you will also work overtime for yourself. But I don’t want to live this kind of life with the company as my home, and I think everything will be fine, the company will be on the right track, and after making profits, I can also find someone to manage it, instead of handling it myself. Many things. But I couldn't wait until this day. The strong backing I thought I had was gone. Life seems to have lost its center all of a sudden, and I don’t know what its meaning is.

From watching "Shaolin Temple" and "Huo Yuanjia" at your house, to you accidentally hitting me with a stone, to us taking the same bus to Hangzhou to study on the same day, even though we had already We knew each other, but we barely said anything, and we never expected to be together. Until the winter vacation before graduation, we listened to that beautiful song together, and the past memories like dreams and smoke were filled with laughter. It was the song we listened to most when we first started dating 15 years ago. Every time we hear this song, This song reminds me of the wonderful winter vacation that year. Although we are often together with several people, I know that we are together because of you. After returning to school, in our dormitory, I told you that I liked you and kissed you. We started running to each other's schools. It was still troublesome to make phone calls at that time, and sometimes the call didn't go through, but I wanted to see you, so I ran over there, but couldn't find you, so I had to take the bus back to my school. I am very happy when I find it, holding your hand and walking around. If it is the weekend and it is too late to go back, I will stay in the guest house of your school so that we can still be together the next day. It's summer vacation, and we agreed not to tell our family about our affairs. But basically I still run to your house every day, sneak together every day, and talk about various topics. We were reluctant to part when we parted, wishing we could be together 24 hours a day. You often wait for me at home, and you will get angry with me if you wait too long, but you don’t know that I have to look for opportunities to sneak into your house. In fact, you also know, but you are still angry with me because I kept you waiting for too long.

After graduation, we both stayed in Hangzhou and began to live a life as two people. At that time, you worked shifts and had more rest time. You often came to my place, and you had to back up many times on the way. There are no buses on the last section of the road, so you need to take a tricycle. Sometimes I will pick you up at the bus station and ride the tricycle back to the dormitory together. After eating, I went for a walk, walked to town on weekends, and watched TV in the dormitory at night. The ones I remember most are Phoenix TV's "Chibi Maruko-chan" and "Fist of Fury" starring Donnie Yen. Later, our work unit moved to the city. We rented a house outside and bought some simple daily necessities. There was no TV, so we listened to music, Xu Ruyun's songs, and saxophone music. Life is simple but real. This kind of life lasted for two years until I went to work elsewhere.

We were thousands of miles apart at that time, but our hearts were together. We started writing letters to express our love for each other. I will call you after a while, but I have to choose a time when you are at work, because the phone is only available in the workplace. Phone calls are expensive, but I often pay hundreds of dollars for a call and still don’t want to hang up. You bought a BP machine. When I miss you when you are not at work, I will send a pager with the code number 2222. We were apart for two and a half years, during which we only came back once during the second New Year. You came to Shanghai to pick me up when I came back and helped me bring my winter clothes to the airport. We haven’t seen each other for a year and a half. Although we are in constant contact, we still feel a bit strange after meeting. That winter, I stayed with you for half a month, but when the half-month vacation was over, I couldn't bear to leave you and no longer wanted to go back to the life of separation. But I had no choice but to leave. For the high salary in other places, I have to persist for a while. But the working and living environment outside is not good, and people feel that life is boring and depressing, so I have never thought about asking you to come with me. I started to plan my time to go home and started counting down the time once I decided on it.

Finally, I returned to Hangzhou, where I had been away for too long, and also returned to your side. You came to Shanghai to pick me up just like you did a year ago. Since we had a lot of luggage, we directly chartered a taxi back to Hangzhou. Unexpectedly, the taxi driver in Shanghai had no professional ethics and sold us to another company on the way. A car originally agreed to take the highway, but instead took a small road. The road was very bumpy, and it took a long time to walk, which made me feel very bad.

We started to live a life as two people again, but after being separated for a long time, in fact, everyone has changed a bit. Although we thought our relationship could withstand the test of time, after being separated for a long time, this relationship may not be the same. faded. During the days of separation, the two people's working and living environments were different, and their thoughts and concepts have changed. We have been in love for five years. Although we have not been together for more than two years, our relationship has withstood the test and there have been some hiccups in between, but we both feel that the other is the one we love. We got married in April 2000, and everyone thought it was natural. A year later we bought a house and started renovating it.

But it was also this year that you began to raise questions about our marriage life. You felt that the love had faded and there was no desire for each other. A compromise.

We moved into a new house before the Chinese New Year, and in 2003 we had a daughter. Our daughter is growing up day by day under our care. She is very beautiful and smart. She likes to sing and dance. Every two or three months, we will measure her height on the wall and write the time on the side, which is the growth history of our daughter. You bought parent-child clothes for our family, and we went out to play together in the parent-child clothes on weekends. Botanical Garden, Quyuan Fenghe, Baidi, Baoshi Mountain, Children's Palace, Jiuxi, Liuhe Pagoda, North Summit, University Campus? There are so many places in Hangzhou that have left the footprints of our family of three.

Life is very dull, and so are feelings. I think that after a couple has been together for a long time, the dull relationship is real, and it is impossible to maintain the kind of passion in love all the time. Each other has each other in their hearts, this is love. However, after so many years, we still haven't gotten over the emotional crisis of that year. I'm very disappointed.

These days, I have been thinking, how can people who once deeply loved each other break up? Is that love really gone? I want to replace the past with hatred. love, but I can't hate it. Seeing the pain of my family makes me even more painful. What have we gained and what have we lost now, which one is more important?

Having written so much, it can be regarded as a memory and summary of our love.

Wife, thank you for giving me the best time in my life.

We once loved each other and joined hands. Although we are separated now, we will still be friends in the future.

Finally, I wish you happiness!

Take good care of our daughter.

XXX

XXXX.X.X A letter to the divorced wife Part 2

Dear ex-wife:

Your divorce letter , like a bolt from the blue, split my life in half, one half was the bad before the divorce, and the other half was the good after the divorce. We have been together for 10 years, and I have reservations about whether you are qualified for the role of wife.

I go to watch TV because I don’t want to hear you complain about who else in your circle of friends is doing shopping on behalf of others, or who is showing off their affection again. If you don’t like it, just block it. Of course I noticed the hairstyle you changed. At first glance, I thought it was my mother. Do you want me to tell you the truth and hurt your heart?

You know, I’m not very good at telling lies. . The meal you cooked did take more thought than before. After all, there is no cooked food that can be cooked just by heating it. But, have you forgotten that I haven’t eaten chicken for several years, or do you regard me as your new favorite Mike? Also, the invoice for your bag is on the dresser, with 9680 written on it. Mike borrowed 10,000 yuan from me two days ago. I understand, it's just a coincidence.

Anyway, deep down in my heart, I still love you. After all, we have 10 years of love experience. So, when I sold those cross-stitch thangkas that you once disdained, I indeed found a way to make money. I just paid the down payment for a villa and bought two tickets to travel to Europe. I want to go on vacation with you. When I got home, I found that you were gone. I feel extremely sad inside.

By the way, I don’t know if I have told you that Mike’s company seems to have encountered a bottleneck period. I don’t know if it can survive this period. However, his Ferrari and sea view villa have been pawned. .

Take care! Don’t think about it!

Your ex-husband

XXX

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Wife:

I don’t know how many more days I can call you like this. At least when you see this letter, we are still husband and wife, because even if we use express mail, the household registration book will be sent back. It will be after National Day when we get home. Thank God for allowing us to have a long but short National Day holiday to objectively and fairly reflect on this marriage and decide our future and the future of our children.

In fact, I should have written something to you a long time ago. At least, when the lines of words flowed out of the pen tip, my heart was calm and I was able to express and elaborate on my thoughts more completely. , what you think, instead of just relying on a brief meeting and a few text messages, apart from quarrels, it is pain.

Speaking of which, I would rather be a listener and listen to what you are thinking, rather than increase your resentment in this way of "I say you listen", but I listen to you. I went and listened for more than three months, and only heard some of your briefest words: "tired", "don't want to live together", "scared", etc. Could it be that seven years of marriage has left you only these sad memories? ?Forgot that we walked hand in hand from the suburbs to your house on a snowy night; forgot that we secretly left our children at home with the elderly and laughed about riding a tandem bicycle on the bank of the Pearl River? ?Forgot that you were on duty in the hospital, and I quietly Come to see you and bring you a surprise?

Maybe, I am not a good husband. Although I cherish you very much, cherish this family, and pity our lovely children, I don’t know how to love. How to express this kind of love? Even now, your casual glance back and your smile make my heart beat. This feeling is unique, exclusive and will be remembered for life. Maybe, I really I should have told you this earlier, even if I told you casually, maybe we won’t be like this today, right, wife?

When I have nothing to do at night, I open the QQ chat history of Yizhu. , this time last year, I went to Jiuzhaigou and took a bus for more than ten hours. I missed you and couldn't sleep. I found an Internet cafe to chat with you and said that I didn't have much money left. Please tell me not to wrong myself and find you. My colleague borrowed some first, but I said, I won’t borrow it anymore, I’ll save some money and come back and buy you a set of sexy underwear. While watching these, I shed tears. I cared about you in my heart, but did not say I loved you. When I finally did, the situation became so bad. Is it God’s will or is life making me silent?

< p> When I was young, I really didn’t understand love or life, right, wife?

For the sake of my pride and self-esteem when I was young, when we quarreled about divorce, everyone yelled at each other. The loud sound and fierce scream seemed not enough to express my strength. But I won the voice but lost my life. When divorce came closer and closer to me like a witch, close enough that I could see her clearly. Only when your face is full of ferociousness can you clearly understand the wide gap between negative words and reality.

Just like you are a traditional woman, I am also a traditional man. Although I sometimes talk about jokes like three wives and four concubines, it is more just some topics of conversation in life. I What I long for more is to watch the sunset with my lifelong lover, watch my children grow up, marry and have children. When we get old and retire, we can walk around and see with you to express our gratitude. I use my heart to worship all the gods in the world and thank them for allowing us to love and stay together for a lifetime.

You said that you can’t feel my love for you, maybe you are, but the perfect love in the world may come in various forms, but in essence, they are all the same, for you I am happy and weep for you. Some feelings of love are rich and short-lived, and some are meaningful and long-lasting. Only with this feeling can there be all kinds of love between children in the world.