Learning to keep your mouth shut is the best way to speak.

As the old saying goes, it takes three years to learn to speak and thirty years to learn to shut up. When I was young, the author dismissed this sentence at first. At that time, I was thinking: silly, what are you waiting for without showing off your speech? When the cake is served.

I have experienced the destruction of time and secular. In retrospect, I was wrong. It took me a youthful day to find that I shouldn't say anything casually, at all. The wisdom here is as deep as the sea

Borrow a prologue of crosstalk: crosstalk, as an art of language, pays attention to speaking, learning and singing. Similarly, speaking is also a science, paying attention to time-sharing, land-sharing and people-sharing.

Speaking is an art, and speaking is a skill; Knowing how to be silent in time is the most difficult practice in one's life.

Let's talk about dividing people first.

There is always a person in life who, no matter what he says, always likes to get to the bottom of it, and can't wait to dig up all your ancestors for eighteen generations to satisfy his curiosity. Very annoying, sometimes I feel that I owe my children and land. Everyone has everyone's secrets and privacy, hidden in their hearts and not easily touched. I really want to say to such a curious person: can you put your passbook and bank card away first, and then ask other people's questions and tell me the secret by the way?

Let's talk about land.

It is true that spitting can drown people, especially in the era of internet explosion. A casual news may make someone "socially dead". There are too many such people and things in our life. When we don't get the truth, we jump to conclusions, attack this, criticize that, make everyone condemn you, make society spit on you, and so on. It is estimated that the insulting words of others are even candidly admit defeat in the latest edition of Ci Hai, and there is a general term for such people as "Keyboard Man". Remember, other people's business is none of your business. You are just a bystander. Don't think about others with your mind, because justice is outside the heart.

Finally, talk about timesharing.

As the saying goes, it matters if a friend sees through it.

This is a very cultured way to see through without telling the truth. Why do you say that? No matter whether you are a stranger or a friend, you have self-esteem, especially in front of outsiders, you can't say something you want to say. Although the heart is well-intentioned, whether it is a reminder or a suggestion, saying good suggestions at inappropriate times will not be ignored. Better keep your mouth shut.

Everyone has a mouth under his nose, but it doesn't mean everyone can talk. A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June. Praise others if you have nothing to do, and naturally others will praise you.

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