But you must have your own advantages.

I have been nourished by an idea since I was a child: be kind, not funny; Be tolerant and don't make public.

In the living environment, to be clever, gentle and sensible, it is best to add medals of "three good students" every year, and be nicknamed "good children" and "promising" by parents and relatives.

The memory of my childhood is too dull, as if nothing particularly out of line happened to me.

Parents' so-called "good education" has achieved some results in themselves.

There will always be funny children in the class, and they will play pranks with their evil spirits from time to time.

Put a cockroach in the teacher's chalk box and stare at it unblinkingly, expecting a thrilling scene. When the teacher was rubbing chalk, he suddenly saw the cockroach that climbed out quickly. Obviously, he was shocked. The angry teacher threatened to give us a political lesson. "Learn to commit crimes from an early age, and it will be fine when you grow up!"

However, those funny students are not nervous at all, as if they didn't do such a farce at all, so other students naturally dare not "report" for fear of being bullied. The red-faced teacher left a sentence: "If no one admits his mistake, if no one identifies the murderer, your whole class will be punished!" " "

The classroom is terribly quiet, but no one wants to uphold justice. As a result, the whole class ran around the playground for five times, sweating like a pig, so tired that they wanted to vomit. The most angry thing is "why should innocent people be punished!" I didn't understand it then.

A good boy in the eyes of parents and a good student in the eyes of teachers have always been so clever, kind, docile and sensible. But in the end, I will be punished and criticized. The scale of punishment is the same as that of those funny students.

As I grow older, I gradually understand that you are kind and gentle, but you have no strength. Lack of spirit in the competition is the loser after all.

If I want to write an exhortation for my childhood, I want to say:

Your kindness should be sharp; Your tenderness should also have strength.

02

Stepping into the university era, I feel the value of sharpness more and more clearly.

The world gives you a stage, but the dance presented to the audience can only be displayed by yourself. Humble and timid, retreat and escape, even if you encounter a delicate stage, you will only get a bleak scene because you are unable to do so.

From the first day I entered school, I expected to use the platform of the university to temper myself and turn an ugly duckling into a white swan.

I ran for the class committee for the first time and signed up without hesitation. Seemingly simple and ordinary behavior, in high school, is simply a dream I never thought of. When I went to give a speech on the campaign platform, I was so nervous that I forgot all about it. I only remember my name and the position I want to run for. When I walked off the stage, my back was soaked with sweat and my breathing became rapid.

But when I got back to my seat, I felt extremely relaxed. I crossed the threshold of my heart and touched another mood, and my troubles were eliminated. My body is full of released vitality.

The best way to cure depression is to choose to release and experience in an unexplored field, just like trying a baptism of saints.

The first time I quarreled with my roommate, the hearty conversation was so vivid and clear that it was branded in my heart.

Perhaps, you will meet roommates who can play games for 8 hours every day. The desk is full of leftover drink bottles and lunch boxes. Socks are placed at the end of the bed for a whole week, and their smell makes the dormitory particularly "friendly".

Perhaps, you will meet your roommate who gets up at three in the morning to watch the ball game. The excitement of the goal made him unable to hold back and woke up the whole dormitory with a bang. The frustration of losing the goal will also make him jump wildly and tremble with anger.

When meeting such roommates, more people are willing to say, isn't college life like this? Can't sleep, come down and watch the ball game with your roommate? It will be a roommate who has lived together for four years. Why do you want to fight?

Because of the above ideas, I have endured it for a long time. When you can't stand it, you really can't help yourself.

However, I am not so rude after all, and I don't want to be so naked when I choose to break out.

Handwritten stationery, placed under the keyboard of my roommate's computer, accuses him of his evil deeds with the harshest reprimands he wrote, enumerates his uber-like behaviors in several treasures, and holds "Where is the university?" Psychological warfare with both hard and soft? Finally, I wrote my name without scruple.

After writing this letter, I'm ready to start quarreling. "I am willing to be embarrassed, what are you afraid of!" People must be sharp when they are alive, not to mention that I am 22 years old!

It's not what I imagined!

Back to the dormitory, there is a strange visual impact. For the first time, several professional books were put on my roommate's desk. The garbage in front of the desk was cleaned so thoroughly, and then the shoes were put smoothly. The smelly socks at the end of the bed are gone, and the familiar smell is gone.

"Am I in the wrong dormitory?"

"Daming, did you take medicine today?"

Surprised, I asked again and again.

"Mu Su, how about going to dinner tonight?"

"It's your treat, I'll go!"

"Go!"

I don't know if it's the function of one of my letters, or if he was hit by something, or if he began to get tired of his decadent life. The only thing that is certain is that my roommate Daming has really changed a lot.

But, I think. If you are really kind to a person, even if your words are sharp, your criticism is naked, or even your face is torn, the other person will gradually understand who is a friend and who is an enemy.

For me, I have not abandoned kindness, nor have I forgotten my edge. With meek strength, I saved my friendship with my roommate. So far, we are still best friends. If I had been patient and kind, I'm afraid it wasn't just two people who were injured.

03

In the rhythm of life, we prefer to believe that we can maintain a harmonious relationship with each other. Why should we tear our faces? Even at the expense of their own interests.

In terms of lifestyle, we are also more willing to believe that once the fig leaf is torn off regardless of feelings, the damage to both sides will be irreparable.

Is that really the case?

It is not the quarrel itself, but the content and purpose of the quarrel that causes the breakdown of the relationship between the two sides.

Goodwill gift, out of the initial consideration for others, even if the edge is exposed again and the quarrel is fierce, as long as the other party is not an idiot, you will certainly be able to perceive the goodwill behind your edge.

Just like parents quarreling with their children, even if they are beaten by their parents and scolded by their parents, they will try to think about "why did their parents beat me?" "What did I do wrong again?" Because we hate our parents again, we should also be willing to believe that their behavior stems from a feeling of hating iron and not turning into steel; We must also be willing to believe that there is no gap between parents and children after the edge.

As parents, we will finally understand the subtle relationship between parents and children, which is wrapped in tenderness and perseverance.

04

Every author must cherish his own words.

Every article written by staying up late seems to be your own child. I look forward to its birth, its growth, entering a wide range of people and giving others a little spiritual feeling.

However, at the beginning, when others signed their own works, my first reaction turned out to be "agreement".

I always feel that it doesn't matter who I sign as long as my words can convey emotion and energy.

But later, I gradually realized that others are not as kind as you.

After seeing the unrecognizable words and chaotic plots and learning the hype, everything is based on the word "profit", and I can't help it anymore.

The end of patience is uprising, if you find yourself still in need of resistance. I went into the editor's office and slammed my work on the table with a piece of paper on it-I'll never hand over my signature again. Get on the ground, clean.

Say that finish and walk away! On one side is a stunned editor.

Perhaps, he was surprised that I, usually docile, had such courage. Maybe he will get to know the kind people around him again? However, having said the above, I really feel relaxed.

Kindness does not lose its edge, which makes you live smartly. Too much restraint and depression will only make you tired.

Life has given you wisdom and talent, always show it at the right time, otherwise you will be silent for too long and others will forget your existence.

Kind people should be gentle and powerful; There must be forbearance and tolerance, and there must be sharpness.

Being a strong inner self is the serious thing.