A ramble on literature and history: a magnanimous story.

There is such a description in Su Shi's Lun Hou.

"The so-called hero since ancient times, there will be a ceremony. People can't be ninjas. People see humiliation, draw their swords and stand up and fight. This is not brave enough. There are brave people in the world, but they are not surprised when faced with them, and they are not angry when they add a word for no reason. This is a big hostage, and his ambition is far away. "

The meaning of this passage is that people who were called heroes in ancient times must have the moral integrity to defeat others and take measures that ordinary people's nature can't stand. A brave and foolhardy man, insulted, will definitely draw his sword and stand up and fight, which is not enough to be called a warrior. The real heroes in the world will not panic when they encounter unexpected situations, and they will not be angry when they are insulted by others for no reason. This is because they have great ambitions and great ambitions.

On unprincipled issues or personal interests, it is a great wisdom to endure humiliation and calmly deal with humiliating and violent attacks; Face other people's opinions and criticisms with a peaceful mind and an inclusive mind. "Bear calm for a while and take a step back." It is not easy to endure, but when encountering setbacks and humiliation in life, facing the gains and losses, things will often turn around and open up another scene with a calm, tolerant and generous rational response. Patience is a good way to avoid disaster and cultivate happiness. There are many vivid records in the history books.

Generous teachers' morality

In the Tang Dynasty, Lou Deyi's younger brother was appointed as the secretariat on behalf of the country. When he left, Lou Deyi asked, "I am the prime minister, and you are also the state shepherd. Our family is too proud and jealous, how can we save our lives? " The younger brother said, "even if someone spits in my face in the future, I dare not talk back." Just wipe the saliva clean and never let you worry. " Lou Deyi said: "This is what I am most worried about. People spit in your face because they are angry with you. If you wipe the saliva, it means that you are not satisfied, which will make people more angry. You have to accept it with a smile and let the spit run dry. " Later, "doing it on your face" became an idiom, meaning being insulted but extremely patient and never resisting.

Lou Deyi once recommended Di Renjie as prime minister. Di Renjie, who knew nothing about this, pushed him out many times and let him go abroad. Wu Zetian asked the emperor, "Is Teacher Lou wise?" Di Renjie said: "He became a general and kept his post carefully. I don't know if he is wise." Wu Zetian asked again, "Does Teacher Lou know anyone?" Di Renjie said, "I have worked with him, and I have never heard that he knows anyone." Wu Zetian said: "I used you as the Prime Minister, which was recommended by Teacher Lou. It seems that he really understands people. " Then take out the paper recommended by the teacher Lou. Di Renjie sighed in shame: "Lou Gong Sheng de, I am tolerant of him, but I didn't know I was too far away from him!" "

Cheng Yi, a famous neo-Confucian in Song Dynasty, said, "You can't be a ninja, you can't stand it. Only those who know more can do it. " Mr. Lou is generous, can "do it yourself" and has deep patience. Mr. Lou, as a prime minister and famous soldier in the Tang Dynasty, is famous for his noble character of being cautious, independent and forbearing.

Zhou Yu's "high elegance" and "wide temperament" left a good name in history.

Zhou Yu is courteous. Although Sun Quan regarded Zhou Yu as his elder brother, Zhou Yu never took credit. He treated Sun Quan respectfully and cautiously, and was extremely loyal to Sun Quan. Zhou Yu is also very kind. Yangzhou people call Sun Ce, Zhou Weilang and Shu Ren.

Chen Shou praised Zhou Yu's "broad personality and great achievements" in the History of the Three Kingdoms. Zhou Yu is young and talented, tall and handsome. He is open-minded and humble, and everyone in Wu County is his friend. However, Cheng Pu insulted Zhou Yu several times because he was older and lower than Zhou Yu. However, every time Zhou Yu tolerated him, Cheng Pu changed his mind and said, "It's like drinking with Zhou Jin's bus friends. You don't feel drunk." (Translation: Associating with Zhou Gongjin is like drinking alcohol and getting drunk before you know it. ) According to the Records of the Three Kingdoms, in the famous Battle of Red Cliffs, Zhou Yu, Tong, Huang Gai and others worked together to win the war. Su Shi praised Zhou Yu in Niannujiao Chibi Nostalgia: "The black silk scarf of the feather fan, laughing and laughing, is gone."

In the face of Cheng Pu's humiliation, Zhou Yu put the overall situation first everywhere, did not haggle over every ounce with Cheng Pu, and was patient again and again. Cheng Pu was finally influenced by Zhou Yu. In the later Battle of Red Cliffs, Cheng Pu cooperated with Zhou Yu and won the victory in Battle of Red Cliffs with other generals in Wu Dong. From this example, we can see that tolerance can turn an arms race into friendship; In the face of contradictions and conflicts, we should cherish harmony, tolerate others and deal with them calmly with a broad mind. The Analects of Confucius said: "A gentleman's way is loyalty and forgiveness." When getting along with others, tolerance and forbearance are very important.

Novels, operas and dramatic stories are all processed by art, not history. In the official history of China, Zhou Yu's "magnanimity" and "tolerance" are his true colors, and his virtue and achievements have been praised by generations.

Li Chen's forbearance and concession finally achieved "the rule of the great and the middle"

Li Chen, Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty, had to leave before he ascended the throne. In February 820, Hengli (Li Chen's younger brother) was pushed to the throne of Tang Muzong by eunuchs. Four years later, Mu Zong died of illness and was succeeded by his son Jing Zong Li Zhan, but he only lived to be 18 years old. After his death, his brothers Li Ang, a literate scholar, and Li Yan, a martial artist, successively succeeded to the throne. During these 20 years, three generations of uncle Li Chen kept a low profile and played the fool. Although he is low-key and unassuming, the special status of King Guang still makes him unable to escape the fate of being suspected and excluded by his nephews.

In 84 1 year, Tang Wuzong ascended the throne. In order to avoid the body, Li Chen "walked between the rivers in search of monks" and stayed away from the wrong place. During this period, he was as stupid as a fool, cautious in words and deeds, and kept no trace. In 846 AD, Li Chen finally returned to the palace and became an emperor, a very successful emperor in history. The inhuman treatment of living among the people has made Li Chen a scholar among the people for a long time and well aware of their sufferings. He respects thrift, loves people and things, uses them selflessly, and listens to opinions with an open mind. Therefore, until the demise of the Tang Dynasty, people still remembered Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty and called him "Little Taizong".

Chen Liqin is devoted to politics, diligent in seeking governance, and likes to read Zhenguan dignitaries to rectify official governance. Li Chen tried to imitate Emperor Taizong and took "doing whatever it takes in chaos and being loyal to the sage in politics" as his motto. The reign of Li Chen was a period of stability and prosperity in the late Tang Dynasty, which was called "the rule of the great and the middle" in history.

Before Li Chen became emperor, he was able to bear the burden of humiliation in a complicated environment, avoid disasters and cultivate himself. He saved his strength, endured self-denial and escaped being killed. This finally gave Li Chen a chance to ascend to a great position and make great achievements. Without Li Chen's forbearance and concession, there would be no later "rule of the great and the middle". It can be seen how important patience and concession are for personal cultivation!

The mysterious answer that Hanshan monks picked up and passed down through the ages

The longevity map of the four immortals is now in the Palace Museum. In the painting, I picked up a broom, Hanshan stepped on banana leaves, Li Tie stepped on crutches, Liu Haichan rode a three-legged golden toad, and riding a crane was the birthday girl. (Shang Xi Painting in Ming Dynasty/Public Field)

Hanshan and Picked up are two famous poets in the history of China, and they were later legendary as "Harmony Two Immortals".

The Song of Endurance by Han Shan and Shi De is widely circulated and enduring for thousands of years. The wonderful question and answer between Hanshan and Shide contains a profound way to deal with right and wrong, so even after 1000 years, it is still popular.

"Hanshan asked me," What can I do if the world slanders me, deceives me, humiliates me, laughs at me, belittles me, hates me and deceives me?

Pick up the cloud: just put up with him, let him, let him, avoid him, put up with him, respect him, ignore him, stay a few years and see him. "

Hanshan asked Pickup, "What should I do if someone in the world slanders me, bullies me, insults me, laughs at me, despises me, hates me and cheats me for no reason?" Pickup replied: "You might as well put up with him, humble him, let him go, avoid him, put up with him, respect him, ignore him, and see you in a few years."

There is such a poem in the Song of Patience:

"Someone called my wife, and my wife only said yes; Someone hit an old buddy like me, and an old buddy like me fell asleep; I spit in my face and let it dry. I also save my strength, and he has no troubles. "

The bell of Hanshan Temple is still ringing today, and things have changed. The traces of Hanshan and the collection have long been nowhere to be found, but the Song of Patience has been told by the world through the ages and widely circulated. Inclusive wisdom depends on careful understanding and taste of the world.

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Tolerance does not mean that good and evil are inseparable, but that there is no principle; To say the least, in terms of personal interests and personal cultivation, we should be less concerned and more patient. Of course, in the face of big right and wrong, we must uphold justice and defend the truth. Throughout history, many forbearing people have a clear distinction between right and wrong, and it is their duty to punish evil and promote good. It is in personal interests that there is less fighting and more tolerance, which is "difficult to be confused"

In the busy modern life, people face all kinds of contradictions and challenges every day, such as work and interpersonal relationships. And all kinds of lawsuits and cases are unbearable because of small things. Such news is not uncommon. If you are tolerant and open-minded, you can really do it. Not only can you avoid disasters and resolve conflicts, but you can also improve your self-cultivation, have healthier interpersonal relationships, have a more balanced and peaceful mentality and have a better life.