My mother-in-law insisted that I have a second child. On what grounds should I refuse?

You can consider refusing to have a "second child" from the following aspects.

First, the impact on the health of both husband and wife.

Most couples considering having a second child are over 35. At this age, the quality of women's eggs has dropped significantly, and men have more bad hobbies such as smoking and drinking than before. It's time for both husband and wife to be physically inferior to the "boss".

Second, whether the basic conditions of family economy are allowed.

Although each family has different requirements for the quality of life, one more child has to pay more. The check-up fee, milk powder money, diapers, tuition and so on are all real money.

Third, it is difficult to guarantee the quality of education with many children.

You can say to your mother-in-law, "I have enough energy and confidence to educate a child well." One more energy is definitely not enough, and I have no confidence to take care of and educate two children at the same time. You can't raise a child in one sentence. Since I gave birth to him, I will be responsible for the child and give him better care, education and life. "

Fourth, "I" also needs to have my own space.

I am willing to stay at home with my children full-time for the first three years. Three years later, when my children go to kindergarten, I can return to the workplace or do my own thing. If I have a second child, I will stay with my child for another three years. At that time, I was no longer young and had been out of society for so many years. It is even more difficult to return to the workplace. Some people may think I'm selfish, but should people live for their children all their lives?

In short, "I" want to say: mother-in-law, please don't persuade me to have a second child! Everyone has different ideas and situations. Life and death are our own business. I'm sorry that I can't listen to you in this matter. As for many children and many companions, if conditions permit, someone will help take care of them after giving birth. I also hope that children can have multiple brothers and sisters.

On the other hand, children are not necessarily lonely. He has his own friends and parents who love him. He will get married, have his own wife and children, and have his own complete life.