The way of father and son

Chapter 9 and Three Records of the Book of Filial Piety (7)

The original text "The way of father and son is also natural, and the righteousness of the monarch and the minister is also. Parents are born and continue to be great; Come in person, not heavy. "

In the vernacular, the love between father and son is out of the innate nature of human beings, and it also embodies the meaning of monarch and minister. Nothing is more important than parents giving birth to their children to carry on the family line; A father is like a majestic king to his children, and there is nothing more generous than this kind of love.

One of the ideas is how to understand "there are three kinds of unfilial, and nothing is great"?

"Mencius Li Lou" Mencius said: "There are three kinds of unfilial, and the last one is the biggest. Get married without telling, because there is no future. This gentleman thinks he is still suing. " Generally speaking, there are many kinds of unfilial behaviors, and it is the most unfilial to fail to fulfill the responsibility to future generations. Shun didn't tell his parents to get married, but he didn't do his duty as a descendant. This gentleman thinks it's best to tell his parents. Mencius translated by Yang Bojun is: "Mencius said:' There are three kinds of unfilial parents, among which childlessness is the biggest. I don't tell my parents when I get married, fearing that I won't have children (because if I tell my parents first, my wife won't get married), so the gentleman thinks that although I didn't tell my parents, I actually told my parents. Zhao Qi, a Confucian scholar in the Eastern Han Dynasty, explained in the Notes to the Thirteen Classics: "Three unfilial people: A Yi is obedient, trapped in injustice, and one is unfilial; Poor old people, not an official, unfilial; Unmarried and childless, ancestors don't worship and are unfilial. "As for the three kinds of unfilial behaviors, Mencius did not say, but in Mencius Li Lou, Mencius talked about five kinds of unfilial behaviors:" There are five so-called unfilial people in the world: lazy, regardless of their parents' support, unfilial; Games, good wine, regardless of parental support, two unfilial; Good wealth, private wife regardless of parental support, three unfilial; Eyes and ears live long, thinking that parents are slaughtered and four are unfilial; I am brave and ruthless, endangering my parents and being unfilial. " It means that people generally believe that there are five kinds of unfilial situations: lazy limbs and disregard for parents' lives are unfilial; It is unfilial to like gambling and drinking, regardless of parents' life or death; Greedy for money, favoring his wife and children, and ignoring his parents' life and death are three unfilial; It is four unfilial to indulge in pleasure and humiliate parents; It is five unfilial to try to be brave and aggressive and bring trouble to parents.

In the movie Dream Journey, Mexicans believe that a person dies three times, one is his body, the second is his funeral, he dies in society, and the third is his real death, that is, once the last relative in the world remembers his death, the deceased will disappear into the world of the undead, and the undead will die forever.

According to the traditional Han people in China, it is very unfilial to cut off the sacrifices of ancestors. Your ancestors' families cut off their sacrifices from you, and no one offered sacrifices to their fathers and ancestors. This is a great unfilial act, which is why there is no future. Sacrificing ancestors has been our national cultural spirit for thousands of years, and Mencius said that "there are three unfilial, and no heirs are the greatest" was born under this background.

Confucius said, "It is filial piety not to change your father's ways for three years." Therefore, some people say that the real unfilial is that they have failed to fulfill their responsibilities as children, failed to inherit the family style of their ancestors, and failed to live up to their ancestors and parents. This is the greatest unfilial. Confucius also said: "A gentleman is ill and nameless." The gentleman is worried that the name will not be justified after death. Cang Kejia once said, "Some people are dead and he is still alive; Some people are alive, but he is dead. " Therefore, some people say that a person's greatest unfilial is something or culture or thought that is not remembered by others after death.

Thinking 2: Why can saints respect their parents all their lives?

In Mencius Zhang Wan, Mencius said: "If there are few people, you should respect your parents;" Know lewd, desire less love; If you have a wife, you admire your wife; I admire your being an official, but I am not enthusiastic about you. Daxiao admired his parents all his life. Those who are admired by people at the age of 50 will be met with great success. " It means that people love their parents when they are young; When you know how to like women, you worship beautiful young girls. After having a wife, I admire her very much; When you become an official, you love the king. Without the appreciation of the king, you will feel anxious and hot inside. However, the most filial person is to love his parents all his life. I have met Dashun, who is 50 years old and still worships his parents.

Remembering the kindness of parents is the most basic thinking of human beings, and it is also the most beautiful, happiest and wisest thinking in life.